Aunt Karen sends strongly worded letter after never receiving a Thank You card for her $100 wedding gift: 'If you think I'm the only one mad and upset with you, think again'

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Jan 4, 2025 8:00 AM EST

It's definitely gauche not to thank family members for giving you wedding gifts, but this bitter Aunt Karen took her resentment a bit too far. While I certainly am not the kind of person who gives someone a gift and then waits eagerly for a thank you message, some people are like that. Perhaps they are lonely and attention-seeking, perhaps they are too attached to an old-school style of manners and etiquette, or perhaps they are just looking for an excuse to get mad at you. Regardless, one should be able to recognize and identify these folks in one's family or social circle so that one can be prepared for their unfair expectations.

Here, we have a couple who sent a Christmas card to various family members, including the husband's aunt. She was immediately upset, given the fact that she never received a Thank You card or any sort of acknowledgment for her $100.00 wedding gift. 

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    Wishing you a BRIGHT & BEAUTIFUL CHRISTMAS &NEW YEAR that SHINES with HAPPINESS
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  • Now, we sympathize with Aunt Karen because it is in poor taste not to thank folks for wedding gifts; that being said, the rest of our sympathy went out the door after reading this lady's strongly worded letter. 

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    My husband's aunt mailed us back our Christmas card that we sent her and added this lovely note to the back of it.
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    MIUM AL-PAPER PRE DNP Please, don't send one any more chic aards. You have been Married 3 years and I still have never gat a thank you card from both of you. Disent you 700.00 was not at your weddings did not eat. If You think I'm the only mant upset with you two think again there is a lot of relatives us set. you two should he ashamed of yours You Couldn't sendatak You Card But have the nerve to senza christens card your оке
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  • For those of you who can't read this lady's ridiculous cursive, we've got you covered:

    “Please don’t send me any more Christmas cards. You have been married for 3 years and I still have never got[ten] a thank you card from both of you. I sent you $100.00, was not at your wedding and did not eat. 

    If you think I’m the only one mad + upset with you, think again. There [are] a lot of relatives upset. You two should be ashamed of yourselves. 

    You couldn’t send a thank you card but have the nerve to send a Christmas card. Stick it up your ***.” 

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    We mailed her the thank you card that she wanted. It includes a $100 check with the memo "Stick it up your a ".. using her own words. She'll still receive Christmas cards each year :)
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    $ 22 DOLLARS
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    Creamysense "I received your thank you card in response to our Christmas card. I couldn't understand the handwriting but I really appreciate the gesture.!"
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  • It wouldn't be interesting if there weren't a little bit of discourse regarding who was in the wrong in this situation. Here's a pretty reasonable commenter who played devil's advocate.

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    Johncamp28 I kind of agree with your husbands aunt. When I go to a wedding I literally give a gift, quit my job and sit by the mailbox waiting for the thank you card....wife gets annoyed like "come inside, you need to shave, you smell, stop ping on the lawn" but scr her. I need that thank you card
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    Saccarappa33 Terrible cursive.
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    Fa1c0n3 God I hope you thanked her for not attending the wedding. She would have for sure ruined the day.
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    3A5y_ im sorry could someone translate terrible cursive because not even I could read halfway through
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    danger... I mean if she's just p ed that you didn't thank her in writing then this is nuts. But if you never actually thanked her at all, then yeah I'd think it was r de if I gave
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    someone $100 and they didn't say thanks. That said, I can't imagine stewing over it for three years and then blowing up. I'd just use your bathroom and steal $100 of your boujiest products like a normal person. (jk obv)
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    EDIT: Just to clarify, my point was never that you should be sending thank you cards. If you want to then great but whatever, idc. I was just curious whether this woman had actually been thanked at all,
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    in any way. If the recipient had already said thanks, shot her a text, acknowledged the gift in any way, and this auntie is kicking up a fuss simply because it wasn't in her preferred format of a thank you card, then I think she's nuts
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    for this response. However, if the recipient never thanked her at all or acknowledged the gift, yeah that's ride imo. Auntie is still nuts for a) getting THAT upset about it and b) sitting on it for three years. But it would still be ride not to acknowledge a gift
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    imo. IF that even happened, idk and that's why I was asking. People are out here acting like saying "thank you" is some intense emotional labour that makes receiving a gift a miserable experience. Come on now, it ain't that deep.
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    confidelight There is WAY too many rules for what is social acceptable regarding weddings and it drives me nuts. I think I'll just elope and not tell anyone
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    Damsedelle Did you thank her at all? Seems only polite to say thank you in some form for a gift. I wouldn't send a nasty letter but that would be the last gift you got from me. Lol not trying to sound like an old fogey but some simple appreciation is just basic manners.
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    Really... Almost the exact same thing happened to us. Every birthday and Christmas my wife's aunt and uncle send us a birthday and Christmas card with a $25 traveller's check. We always thank
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    them in person and give them birthday cards too. Once we gave them a gift and they said not to because it negates the money they gave us. Last year the Christmas card they sent me said
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    "Merry Christmas. Hopefully we actual get a thank you card for the first time in two years" Her uncle loves silly puns, so I sent them this card The card has a bottle of wine on it and says "Thank you So Much, I am Eternally Grapeful" |
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    wrote "I heard through the grapevine you were wineing about me not thanking you. When I found out I had made such an egregious error, I was white with fear and red with anger. It kept me up at night, itching at me like a
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    moscato bite. So I hope this card leaves you in good spirits. I don't want sour grapes between us. Now excuse me, I need a Napa. PS See you in 2 more years" Her uncle found it funny but her aunt called my mother in law about how r de and ungrateful I am and how it wasn't funny.
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  • Now, at first, it was hard to sympathize with this couple's petty revenge, but given Aunt Karen's unnecessary letter and profane comments, it's hard not to cheer for these guys. Therefore, we agree with folks in the comments section that Aunt Karen surely got what she deserved.

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