Couple informs Mom she is not invited to their family vacation, mom ignores their wishes and books a hotel in the same area anyway: ‘You aren't welcome on the trip’

People who get along with their in-laws have about the same amount of luck required for winning the lottery. It is unclear what type of black magic is involved, but for some reason, no matter how much you may love someone, it genuinely feels impossible to get along with their parents.

Despite this worldwide struggle, most families manage to find a solid ground to stand on along with their in-laws. The most common approach to that struggle is what we call – divide and conquer. Find a way to keep everyone happy without getting tangled much. For example – "If we were at your family on Christmas this year, then next year we will be at mine", the same applies to vacations, birthdays, weekends, and anniversaries. Never get the two families involved, and you might find peace sooner than you'd think.

It seems like the couple in this story was desperately trying to make this approach work for them, but one mom had a different idea. Mom here was trying to invite herself to her son and daughter-in-law's vacation with DIL's family, but the couple made it clear she was not welcome to join. However, that did not stop the mom from booking a hotel in the same area, ignoring the couple's wishes. Keep scrolling to read what happens when she reveals her plan to them.

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    AITA for booking a hotel in the same area as my son and dil's trip that we didn't get to go on?
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    My son(30) and his fiancée(28) of six years go on a family trip every year with her extended family. From what my son tells me, they travel to different locations and rent an Airbnb that accommodates the 30
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    people who attend. For the past three years, they've gone during the holidays, and as a result, we rarely see them. My future daughter-in-law (DIL) and I have a good relationship, but I can't say we talk much.
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    My son and his fiancée are planning a trip in March for spring break, and I asked my son when we might be able to plan a trip together in the future. He mentioned there might be enough room at the house they're staying at. I told
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    him that sounded great and asked him to let me know the costs for everyone attending. My 24-year-old son, 22-year- old daughter, and 3-year-old grandson also live with me, so we all planned to go.
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    A few days later, my son told me that we'd likely have to sleep on a couch or share one of the kids' bunk beds if they were available. I assured him we'd make it work, and I sent him our share of the costs. I
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    also told my kids, who were very excited this would be their first vacation that's more than a three-hour car ride away. Last week, my son called and told me it wouldn't work for us to join them after all, and
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    he sent back the deposit. When I asked why, he explained that his fiancée didn't feel comfortable with us coming. She was upset because I didn't attend her engagement dinner last year to meet her side of the family,
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    which she felt would make it awkward to share the vacation rental. She was also upset that I didn't reach out to her directly to discuss joining the trip, leaving my son to relay the information instead.
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    I told my son it was fine, but I ended up booking a hotel about 15 miles from where they're staying. I also told my son he didn't have to worry about making time to see us.
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    Now, my DIL is upset because she feels that we're still somehow taking away from their trip. AITA? EDIT: I should have noted my dil's mom recently passed
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    away and since our relationship has been feeling more strained. I did not attend the funeral for those who ask, and I reach out to my son because i don't want to bother her. it's clear she doesn't like us much and bitter.
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  • Just last week I went on a vacation with my husband, parents, siblings, grandmother, and my husband's parents, and it was the most taxing vacation I have ever been on. Attempting to give everyone the attention they deserve while also ensuring everyone is happy, is the very definition of Mission Impossible.

    So I know that if the mom here joins this vacation, it is going to end in a disaster, and I wish I could tell her face to face that the best thing she could do for her family is leave them be.

    Let's just hope she at least listened to the comments people left on her post…

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    LowBalance4404 Info: If you are still going to the same area but not planning to see your son and future DIL, then why are you going?
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    levvyo OP we're going to the same area because we already planned on doing certain excursions and going to certain places in that city. My kids were already excited.
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    RivSilver To put pressure on the son to spend time with them and pull him away from his own trip, I bet
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    levvyo OP Nope not at all. We are just continuing our vacation and i hope they do as well.
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    Alloddscanteven INFO: Why didn't you go to the engagement dinner to meet her side of the family?
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    levvyo OP my other kids schedules and babysitting got in the way unfortunately.
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    FuzzyScarf OP shouldn't be responsible for getting a sitter for her grandchild.
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    my-kind-of-crazy Sounds to me like she was the sitter. As in one of her kids needed her to babysit so she stayed home with her grandchild who lives with her.
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    levvyo OP my kids live with me and I raise my grandchild. yes
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    LunaShines Why were the "other kids" not invited to the engagement dinner??
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    StevieB85 I'm starting to think with the age gap, clear difference in how they are treated, and the seeming lack of relationship or communication between the kids, they may not be full siblings ...
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    levvyo OP i'm not sure what this has to do with anything but the 2 that live with me share the same father who i am not with) than my son. We are not the "closest" family i would say,
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    and our communication may not be as strong as her families. I still have a right to want the same relationship or at least try that they have with. her family.
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    KitchenComedian 7803 INFO: are you your grandchild's legal guardian? Why in the world would you be raising your adult son's child? Where is that child's mother?
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    levvyo OP it's my daughter thank you, and she had a child young and needs assistance? reddit is awful.
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    Katsaj YTA. You guilted your son into an invite, didn't take the hint that you wouldn't be accommodated, and then planned a spite trip to the same place. Wanting to hone in on her family's trip when
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    you haven't even met them makes puts you in monster future in-law territory. Your son didn't handle it well at all either, but your role in causing trouble is worse while it sounds like he's stuck in the middle trying to please you and his fiancée.
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    Just because they travel with her family doesn't mean they want to travel with yours, which might be disappointing to you but making family relationships a point game is bound to do that.
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    RivSilver YTA, you aren't welcome on the trip, why are you still trying to follow them and emotionally manipulate your son into spending time with you while still being able to play the martyr card? "Oh, I'll
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    just be over here, so close to you, but you don't have to see me or anything, just know I'm nearby waiting to see if you do, but don't mind me, I'm just coming on my own vacation since you don't want me at yours...."
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    JeanCerise YTA. You were not invited. Your other son and his family were not invited. You invited yourself and them. They do not want you there. It is a DIL family event. You've made no effort to meet them in six years. Don't go.
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