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My girlfriend (27f) is expecting her name on the deed to a house that I (28m) will be using my money to buy?
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But let’s not be too hard on the girlfriend. And guess that from her perspective, it’s probably more about feeling like a team than a house. When you’re dreaming of a shared future, being told “your name won’t be on the deed” can feel like a rejection letter from Team Us.
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Still, let’s call it what it is: a tough ask. Unfortunately for all of us–love doesn’t pay the mortgage, or, in this case, the massive upfront cost—and fairness doesn’t mean ignoring the reality of who’s financing the whole thing.
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Woman expects her name on the deed to a house only boyfriend will pay for, gets upset and turns down alternatives: ‘She is saying I'm unfair’
Money and relationships—two forces that, when combined, can turn even the simplest plans into emotional minefields. Add house deeds and inheritance into the mix, and what starts as a conversation about the future can quickly feel like a tug-of-war over balance, practicality, and trust.
Nothing says 'romantic evening' like a heated and passionate discussion about house deeds. You know, candle-lit dinner table, light slow jazz playing in the background and two lovebirds quietly whispering real-estate and private law-related jargon in each other's ears: Apputance, Chattel, Ad Valorem, Lien… Phew, Is it getting hot in here or is it just me? Just two of them, slowly becoming amateur lawyers and experts on the concept of fairness It all starts when one partner inherits money, suggests buying a house outright, and, shockingly, proposes that the deed goes in their name since, well, they're paying for it. Cue fireworks.
The man at the hot spot of today's story is offering to buy a house in full, graciously (as commenters on his story put it) letting his girlfriend live rent-free and save all her earnings. And yet, somehow, he's still the villain of this story because he doesn't want to hand over equal ownership of a property she's not helping pay for.
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