Man insists on taking private vacation with female friend, says his wife “owes him one” after cheating, she reluctantly agrees to it while internet chimes in: “Tell me about revenge without actually telling me”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jan 22, 2025 2:00 PM EST

Infidelity is one of the most painful betrayals someone can experience. It's not just betrayal of trust, it can completely flip you upside down from the inside out. It makes you question everything in your reality, everything you thought you had with someone. You question who this person sleeping next to you every night is, or was. You begin to go back over all your memories together and wonder where the signs were and how this could happen. 

Grappling with the grief in the aftermath of infidelity is not a fate I'd wish on my worst enemy. It forces you into places you never wanted to go, facing the reality that you've been diluted and tricked. Sure, couples stay after infidelity, but everyone has their own story. I'm not sure if ever fully goes away, or if the one cheated on can ever see their partner in the same light as before the confession or exposure.

In the story below, the protagonist is a man whose wife cheated on him. They've since worked things out, and he said he feels like their marriage is better than ever. So he says, but then he goes out of his way to orchestrate a dynamic that could easily result in him betraying his wife. 

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    AITAH for telling my cheating wife that I deserve a vacation with my girl best friend?

    "I would never have even considered this trip if she hadn't cheated"
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    My wife and I have been married for more than 2 decades now. We have 2 children who're 18 and both in college. A couple years ago, my wife admitted to cheating on me in a one night stand. She said it was the worst mistake of her life and she really regretted it a lot. Our marriage was going through a lot
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    of difficulties at the time, and we were even seriously considering divorce. However; I never expected my wife to betray me like that.
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    My wife had a lot of remorse, and was willing to do anything for reconciliation. While I did almost file for divorce, I decided not to and to give our family a chance. And to be honest, it was the best decision I've ever made in my life. Strangely enough, that incident which pushed our marriage to the brink also repaired our marriage.
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    While I did still occasionally have days where I just felt heartbroken and betrayed, those days were infrequent, because my wife pretty much did everything possible to show how much she loved me and our family.
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    I have also been friends with Vanessa since we were in kindergarten. Vanessa used to spend a lot of time over at my house, and she pretty much became my adopted sister. Vanessa and I were really close and never once lost our friendship despite all the life changes we were going through. Vanessa was best woman
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    at my wedding, I was man of honor at hers. My wife initially was insecure of the friendship because she thought from her "woman. senses" that Vanessa had feelings for me. However, after getting to know Vanessa, she realized that Vanessa was just my really close friend.
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    Now during the time my wife cheated on me, I did confide in Vanessa, and Vanessa recommended I take 3 weeks to take a breather, and then make my decision. That was a really great suggestion and saved my marriage. I told my wife about it, and my wife too was really grateful for Vanessa.
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    Fast forward to today, and both my kids are in college. Last month, Vanessa reached out to me and asked if we could take week long trip to our hometown where we would just visit our favorite childhood places. It would be a road trip and we would just drive through the city, visit our high school, favorite parks, restaurants
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    etc. To be honest, this suggestion really excited me because I was feeling a bit empty since my kids. left to college.
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    I told my wife about it and I expected some pushback. My wife expectedly was shocked and said this was a "romantic" trip I'm taking with my girl best friend and she was worried something would happen in this trip especially because Vanessa was divorced.
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    I told my wife there's nothing romantic about this trip, and it's just a trip two friends are taking down memory lane. I told my wife I would have never even considered this trip if she hadn't cheated on me 2 years ago, but she has to allow this now. I need a mental health break, and I still occasionally
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    get feelings for betrayal from what my wife did 2 years ago. After a lot of discussions, my wife ultimately did agree to it and I was really happy about it. Was I the AH?
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  • He's getting himself into a situation he may not be prepared for. They went through all this work as a couple, and this trip could tarnish what they've worked towards, and resting the infidelity wounds. 

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    RosebudSableX • 13h ago Telling me about revenge without actually telling me.
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    19peacelily85 • 12h ago You should get a divorce. You clearly aren't happy in your marriage.
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    O... 12h ago Edited 12h ago My husband did a lot of messed up sh early on in our relationship. We've learned grown and are in an amazing place now. Sure, from time to time memories come up and it stings. There's a TINY part of me that is holding on to
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    the resentment and I'm truly working on letting it go. It gets lighter and lighter each day. I can understand that feeling of - "well you did that, so I should be able to do this"...
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    but that will lead to nowhere but distance and disconnect in our now near-perfect relationship. I will not do. anything to jeopardize what we have. There is no use for for tat in a healthy relationship.
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    Your wife fed up. That is divorcable offence and you would have been in the right. I would have been fully within. my right to leave my husband. But the fact of the matter is we decided to stay and we forgave and continue to forgive our spouses. Forgiveness is ongoing. You
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    stated your wife has changed and your relationship is better for it. If you go on this trip, you will bring destabilization into your marriage. There's no universe where I'd go on a trip alone with a man who isn't my husband. I don't care what
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    he's done in the past, I wouldn't expect him to be ok with it. If you're having second thoughts, or feel this marriage isn't for you...or that you can't forgive her completely, that's ok. It will hurt her but sometimes the pain is so deep
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    that it just lingers. But don't expect to stay in a healthy marriage if you keep holding the past over her head for you to do things your wife is not comfortable with. Edit to add: it's a bit Sus that your divorced female friend is asking you to go on a trip alone together. To reminisce
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    about old times. Something does not add up here. Does SHE not care about how this may impact your marriage? As a woman...that just feels very...odd...
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    Extreme-Frosting6614 • 8h ago Why can't your wife come on the trip?
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