82-year-old grandmother invites new boyfriend to dinner, family disapproves causing daughter to go no contact: '[He] wants to be called grandpa'

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Jan 26, 2025 2:00 PM EST

Sometimes, people never get over their flawed dating habits… even if you are old enough to know better. 

When you're young and just starting to date, you can't expect relationships to go entirely smoothly from the get-go. Messing up and making mistakes are part of the dating game. It's part of figuring out your likes, dislikes, your habits, and your boundaries. Of course, we are only human, and we are destined to make the same mistakes again. Hopefully, we have people in our lives to call us out on these bad habits, and hopefully, we are open and self-aware enough to catch ourselves the next time.

Unfortunately, some people never learn, and although this 82-year-old grandmother deserves the right to find a new partner in her life, clearly, she made a mistake with her new beau. Keep scrolling below for the full play-by-play regarding this family drama. 

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  • Now, before we get into the details, let's be clear: it's never a good idea to move in with someone and start a life together two weeks after meeting them, no matter how perfect things may seem from your minimal number of dates. Here, Grandma somehow thought this was a good idea despite years—nay, decades—of romantic experience.  

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    Long story short, my grandma (82F) got in a relationship with a man (80M) a few months ago. We were living under the same roof at the time, then a week or 2 after meeting him, she moved. I
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  • Let's pause the action here in order to acknowledge the many red flags the granddaughter clocked when it comes to Granny's new boyfriend after they invited him over for dinner. First, the fact that he wanted this young lady to call him Grandpa upon their first meeting is only the start of his creepiness (you'll see that it gets worse). Next, there is his strange insistence that his granddaughter should move out of her parents' home to start her own family as if he had any say in the matter. Take a look at how the granddaughter recounted this part of the exchange!

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    thought she didn't wanna feel like such a burden to us. A few weeks ago the "young couple" came to dinner (I didn't speak to him before that), then the oldie came in my room and started to speak to me about leaving my parents
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    home and starting a family with somebody, he pushed that he had a neighbor for me. I said over and over again that I'm okay and I don't need it. Suddenly he
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    started crying saying that he never had kids and I should go and have some, and that's the best feeling in the world. In
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    between all of this he was cssing my leg ( I thought it was really weird). I said I have some trouble and left home, after that I said everything that happened to my mom and it led to a big fight which made my mom and grandma not talking again.
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    Am I the a hle for telling my parents what happened? For causing this whole thing in my family?
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    Select-Status3... 58m ago NTA he sounds like a creep you 100% did the right thing!
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    Excellent_Ad1132 . • 53m ago GM's new BF is creepy. NTA NTA NTA.
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    ForwardPlenty · 56m ago You have one set of grandparents on your mother and fathers side. You can have any number of honorary grandparents, from
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    friends of your parents or grandparents growing up or later on in life. You may even have an honorary grandparent that is more of a grandparent than your real grandparents.
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    But if someone you never really had a relationship with wants to be called grandpa, that is kind of creepy.
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    Definitely tell your parents, they may have more information or that information may assist with helping you other relatives with their own situations with him.
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    . UnapologeticVix... 58m ago Absolutely not the AH. You did the right thing by telling your parents what happened. That whole situation with your grandma's boyfriend was beyond inappropriate-his
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    comments and the physical contact were both weird and crossing boundaries. You were uncomfortable, and it's completely valid to speak up about it.
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    Family drama s ks, but your feelings and safety come first. If your mom and grandma aren't talking because of this, that's on them, not you. You just told the truth. Stay firm and don't let anyone make you feel guilty for setting boundaries.
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    ductionMode... 47m ago You're not an AH for telling your parents what happened ―what that man did was inappropriate, and you had every right to feel uncomfortable. It's important to set boundaries,
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    and his behavior was overstepping. Your reaction to his actions was entirely justified. It sounds like your mom and grandma may be upset for different reasons, but you shouldn't have to ignore your own discomfort to keep
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    the peace, especially in a situation that made you feel unsafe. You were trying to protect yourself and communicate your feelings, which is important in any family dynamic.
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    The way your grandma and mom are reacting to this may need more open communication, but you're not at fault for expressing your discomfort.
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