Ungrateful stepchildren never return the favor of gift giving to father’s wife, she finally refuses to lend a dime when they don’t buy her 1-year-old a Christmas gift: “They didn’t even include me in the family photoshoot”

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    AITA for refusing to spend another dime on stepkids and step grands

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    I (38 F) and husband (50 m) have been married for 10 years and have a 1 yr old daughter together, he has a Son (30 m) and daughter (28 F) from a previous marriage. Since my husband and I have been together, I have always bought his children birthday presents, Christmas presents and gifts/ cards every holiday. They have always
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    made snood comments about me being "too festive". But my love language is gift giving. Well they. both have children now, his son has 3 children under the age of 5, and his daughter has twin 2yr old daughters. This past Christmas his daughter and her husband hosted our family Christmas party. During the gift exchange each house hold
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    exchange the gift they bought for the other house holds. (For context his children have never bought Christmas presents for me which I am fine with. I have always been the one to purchase the gifts for my step children and my step grandchildren, my husband gives the adult kids gift cards.) So while
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    the gift were being passed out, it quickly became apparent that this year they not only didn't buy anything for me but not his for my 1 year old daughter (their half sister). So everyone at the party had gifts to open, my husband, my stepson and his wife their 3 sons, my stepdaughter her husband and twin daughters, had All bought for
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    each other and I had bought for all of them, and not one person bought anything for their baby. sister. I gathered my things and my daughter and we left. Afterwards, I told my husband that I had never been made feel like apart of the family and that's one thing but for them to exclude their own half sister who is part of their blad is a
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    complete different thing. I told him I will never spend a dime on HIS family because they are NOT MINE. Also they decided to do a "family photo shoot” and didn't include my daughter. AITA??
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    Al... 17h ago Edited 14h ago No more gifts. You tried, but you're done with them. After 10 years, you'd think they'd get a clue. Just curious: Were you the reason your husband broke up with his ex-wife? If so, that may be why they are so hostile. And, honestly, I'd
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    write them both a letter and explain that you have been handling gifts for your husband's family for 10 years, but will no longer be doing so after the way they treated their half-sister during the holidays. Any gift requests, etc., should be directed to your husband.
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    And your husband is an a for letting them get away with this B.S. for 10 years. Let him know that he's on his own from now on for birthdays and holidays, you're done with them
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    HonestlyTheOne •16h ago Your husband never said anything to you never getting gifts from them? What was your husband's reaction to your child getting no gifts?
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    What was his reaction to what you told him? Your husband is as much a problem it seems.
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    bino0526 16h ago NTA. Just like they ignore you and treat you like do the same to them. IMO, stop attending any functions they have. Tell your husband that from now on, he's responsible for shopping for his kids and grandkids gifts. Also, tell him
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    not to say it's from you and him. Find other people to give gifts to. At Christmas time, help a family in need. As your daughter gets older, this will teach her to help those in need.
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    When they have gatherings, find something else to do with her. The money you save put it into an account for when she gets older. Don't continue to allow them to ignore you and her and treat you like this.
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    Don't be guilted or bu ied by your husband into continuing to buy for them and be around them. Protect your peace, money, and your baby. Take care. Updateme
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    MobileRub1606 • 17h ago NTA. You have a husband problem. Why is he allowing them to act like that?
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    Cu... 16h ago • Edited 13h ago I would have taken my gifts back and given it to my child and walk away... But now you know your status.. save your money and time.
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    Santeeoldman • 17h ago NTA. They are huge for excluding your one year old daughter. Those a h les are on their own from now on!
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    • Amberopal 9h ago nah, they been playin in ur face for too long, and now they're doing it to ur daughter too?? like, it's one thing for them to be distant w u, but leaving out their literal sibling from gifts and a family photo shot is straight disrespect. u
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    got every right to stop giving to ppl who clearly don't see u or ur child as family. ur husband needs to step up and check them, cuz this ain't just a small oversight it's intentional. don't waste another dime or another second tryna be included where u clearly ain't wanted.
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    notAugustbutordi... • 17h ago Sounds like you have finally worked out that they don't like you. I would have thought them never buying you a single gift over ten years might have been a clue, particularly when combined with snarky comments. So congrats you have now
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    worked out where you stand with his family. They won't care that you stop buying them gifts, they never wanted gifts from you. You're NTA for what you are doing but it seems a bit half hearted, most people when working out that they are not liked choose to avoid being in
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    liked choose to avoid being in the other person's company.

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