‘I’m just a middle child caught in the middle as usual’: Sister feud ignites due to parents spending more on youngest daughter's wedding due to inflation pricing

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Feb 6, 2025 1:00 PM EST

If you are a sister or have a sister, then you now the kind of arguments that are being had. They are so petty and little, but so explosive and emotional. Seriously, there is nobody like a sibling that can make you lose your mind. It's like, they know the exact perfect thing to say that can immediately make you burst into tears. It's infuriating. That being said, they are your besties for life. Sure, you can talk about them behind their backs and to their face, but if anybody, I mean anybody, says something bad about them, you're throwing hands. That is YOUR annoying sibling they're talking about. They aren't allowed to say that about them. 

 

It gets even messier if you are a middle child. Only middle children can understand this. Just as you are positioned in your timing of birth, you are there during arguments. You always end up in the middle! You can try your hardest to stay neutral, but you are going to be pulled back and forth, because you are the last vote that might tip the scales. They need you to decided for them or else they will just keep going for each other's throats… 

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    In this scenario, it is three sisters. The youngest is planning a wedding and the eldest got married and had a baby almost two decades ago. The youngest is doing what the youngest does and deciding everything last minute and being way too wishy washy for planning a wedding. Plus, due to inflation, her parents are technically spending more on her wedding they they did on the eldest's wedding. So tensions are high. They eldest is even refusing to buy her a gift because the youngest didn't get her a gift for her wedding! Granted, the youngest was only 10 years old when that happened…

  • "My little sister is a bridezilla and my older sister is jealous."

    I don't even know where to start with this one, I just found this sub and figured it was the perfect place for this. My younger sister is getting married in March. We don't even have bridesmaid dresses yet. Her wedding will have around 250 guests, at one of the most extravagant (expensive) venues on the east coast.
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  • She has been engaged for 2 years now, and hasn't asked anyone to be in her party up until October of last year. She gave us the cute little boxes, she asked my niece and nephew by handing them each a $20 bill to be jr bridesmaid and groomsmen. I asked if my daughter is in the wedding and she told me / should've just assumed
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  • Picking out her dress was a disaster, she doesn't work, and would only schedule appts to try on dresses during the week because the weekend is when she spends time with her fiance. ( they don't even live together, she still lives at home) and here is where my older sister fits in- while she was picking out dresses, she was using an inflation calculator to see how much my parents were spending on younger sister compared to her own dress 15 years ago. She
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  • sat in silence the whole time fuming. I have been trying to plan a bridal shower for months. The only catch was that, my sister wants to be involved with every decision. She is very worried about how things look and very worried about her self image. She finally picked out a place for the shower, after I've made extensive lists of restaurants with pricing, type of food, etc. Right now, we're dealing with decorations for the shower. My sister is
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  • expecting me, my SIL and older sister to foot the bill for the ridiculous and expensive decorations for this shower because she told me she has a certain vision she wants to stick to, which normally, that's fine if it were in our budget. The real issue is she has 3 other bridesmaids. She told me yesterday that they're not going to have to pay for anything because 2 of them are buying plane tickets to get here and the other one is making cookies for the dessert table.
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  • My older sister is throwing a conniption over how insane younger sister is being, even going off to say that she's not buying her a gift because younger sister didn't buy her a gift for her wedding or baby shower 15 years ago, when she was 10 years old mind you.
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  • At this point I've been asking my younger sister for her "vision board" so I can try and make the things she wants within the month timeframe of her bridal shower. At this point we aren't even going to do a Bach party, because it's too close to the wedding and she wanted it to be conjoined and extravagant in Miami but we couldn't plan it because she still has to make all the decisions.
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  • As far as bridesmaid dresses go, I hope she's okay with a juicy velour track suit from Sams club at this point because idk how she expects us who are all very different shapes and sizes to get dresses that fit by March. I'm sorry for the long post, I've had nowhere to vent and I'm just a middle child caught in the middle as usual lol.
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  • subtlyobscene I am simultaneously so sorry that you're going through this stress and very much looking forward to reading about the wedding cause it's gonna be a hitshow!
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  • SheiB123 Good luck. Tell her you are NOT paying for her shower. Your other sister should do the same thing. If she wants it, she needs to fund it. This could be fun to just watch....keep coming back please!
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  • Jerseygirl2468 · 3d ago • Your sister is roughly 25, lives with your parents, doesn't work, has never lived with her fiance, and is planning an extremely expensive wedding, and only cares about the image of it all? If they actually get married, I give it 2-3 years tops. 384 ○ Reply
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  • Beneficial_Syrup_869 Holy crap, I am sorry. Are your parents no help in making her make a decision here if they're footing the bill? Cause you'll be walking in prom dressed from macys if she doesn't make a decision this weekend.
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  • sonny-v2-point-0 Plan the shower you and your older sister can afford. Anything your younger sister wants that's over that limit she needs to pay for upfront or she doesn't get it. People can only take advantage of you if you let them.
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  • TheIronMatron Tell your sister that a shower is a party planned and executed by friends of the bride, at which she is the guest of honour. As such, she does not have a "vision" for this party, nor any input or decision-making power. None. She is not throwing the party. She shows up, smiles, thanks each person for their present, and warmly and effusively thanks the host and organizers. Then she takes her presents home.
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  • heirloom_beans Work with the other bridesmaids to pick a color and order the dresses right now- otherwise you're all going to show up in black or mismatched dresses. Do it behind your sister's back or tell her what you're going to do and give her a 24 hour deadline for choosing the color. Don't give in to your sister's bridal shower demands, stick to the budget you can afford. If she doesn't like it, she/your family/her fiancé can contribute to expensive upgrades. Make sure your older sister is
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  • littleb3anpole I'm sorry you're dealing with this, but I cackled at the thought of older sis whipping out the calculator because your parents spent $2.50 more on flowers for this wedding than hers. I'm an eldest sibling too and while I do often feel hard done by when I look at the inequitable treatment my parents dished out, at least I am not doing inflation calculations
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  • puce_moment Do not pay more then you can afford for the bridal shower. Frankly move it to Simone's home if the current cost is too high. I'd let her know your budget. The bridesmaids should not pay for the bridal shower. Your sister doesn't need to give her a gift. A nice card is perfectly fine. Everyone needs to be honest about what they can afford and only pay what they can.
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