‘[This] is an extreme reaction’: Entitled single mom threatens friendship with woman after she goes on vacation without inviting her and her 2 kids

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Feb 17, 2025 9:00 PM EST

As we start growing comfortable in adulthood, we notice some changes in the way we do things. Different life factors will get in the way of things you might have been able to do when you were a teen or in your early twenties. There's nothing wrong with that! Life changes and there are many things to get excited about… motherhood is one of them!

However, if one chooses to have children, that becomes an obligation that stumps any other "wants" in one's life. If their best friends are going on a girls' vacation, they might have to sit that one out if the kiddies have to come with them. An adult trip is no place for a child, but the woman in this next story thinks otherwise.

Two women decide to go on a vacation and their friend, who is a single mother, is upset that they did not invite her. Her kids would have to come along, and they didn't sign up for a kid-cation. The mom didn't want to hear that…

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  • The mom doesn't have the right to dictate what her friends do in their spare time. They do not exist to serve her and her children's every wish, yet the mom is acting like that's the case. It's unfair to assume they will change their plans to make the trip suitable for children, on top of the fact that they might have tp babysit her kids if she wants some time to herself. The mom didn't ask, so she will not receive it. Even when they try to compromise, she wants nothing to do with them.

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  • "AITA for not going on vacation with my friend and her kids?"

    My (30F) friend Sarah (also 30F) is a single mom with two kids. She's been going through a rough time after separating from her husband last year, and
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  • I've done my best to be there for her. My other close friend, Lina, and I have always accommodated Sarah's situation-visiting her at her house so she
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  • wouldn't have to go out, planning outings around her kids' needs, and being as flexible as possible.
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  • Recently, Lina and I decided to go on a vacation together, just the two of us. When Sarah found out, she got very upset and told us
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  • that she had expected us to include her and her kids, since we are her closest friends and she doesn't have many people to travel with. She
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  • also said that because she's in a difficult situation, she thought this was something we would do for her as her friends.
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  • Lina and I explained that while we love her and her kids, a vacation with them would be completely different from what we have in mind. We also
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  • offered to take a shorter trip with her and the kids (like a long weekend), but she dismissed that because she wanted a full week at the beach. She
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  • then said that she would have let me join if the roles were reversed, but to me, that's not a fair comparison-if I were tagging along on a
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  • vacation with her family, I'd be adapting to their plans, whereas if she came with us, we would have to plan the whole trip around her kids.
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  • Sarah has now said that she doesn't know if our friendship will survive this, which I think is an extreme reaction. I understand that she's
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  • disappointed, but I don't think it's fair to guilt-trip us into changing our plans. She's also acting like we're abandoning her when, in reality, we've been incredibly accommodating for years.
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  • I feel bad that she's struggling, but at the end. of the day, I don't think it's my resp to ensure she has someone to travel with. So, AITA for not wanting to go on vacation with her and her kids?
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  • meeeee01 I mean the other option is to let her come but you don't change your plans... This could call for some malicious compliance. "Oh, the kids need to go to bed, have fun, we will be at the bar/nightclub/what ever"
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  • Delicious-Pick-6971 NTA. I don't understand how this woman thinks friendship works. Was she expecting you to babysit? Are you not allowed to have other friends? This confusing
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  • Disastrous-Nail-6... NTA. She has unrealistic expectations if she thinks her and her kids are going to be included in everything. And if the friendship doesn't survive, then that's her decision.
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  • GrapefruitSobe NTA. If she wants to cut off her two best supporters over a vacation, that's up to her.
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