Friend proposes to his girlfriend at woman's engagement party, she kicks them out: 'You ruined what was supposed to be the happiest moment of my life'

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Baiz Hoen
Mar 10, 2025 7:00 AM EDT

We all have a friend that can't stay away from the spotlight. They thrive when all eyes are on them, can't help but speak about themselves, and will turn any situation into an excuse to perform. If it's someone you grew up with, oftentimes you feel like the sidekick. For those of us who don't want all the attention, this can be a very symbiotic relationship. Having a friend who can be the face of the operation while we remain behind the scenes can be a match made in heaven, especially if everyone understands the importance of the other person's role.

This sort of 'main character' person, if they understand their 'ailment' well, will learn how to wield it, and will learn how to read the room. This is necessary in order for them to know when it's not their turn, and to let someone else have their moment. Unfortunately, it takes a very special person to learn how to do this, and regular attention seekers will take up as much space as they can. One woman saw that happen when a friend proposed to his girlfriend at her engagement party. Read on to see how the internet told her to deal with it.

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    "AITA for kicking my friend out of my engagement party after he proposed to his girlfriend there?"

    I (26F) and my fiancé, Jake (27M), had our engagement party last weekend. We've been together 3 years, and he proposed last month. My best friend, Lisa (26F), offered to help plan the party at a rooftop bar- super chill, just close friends and fam. Everything was perfect until...
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    Midway through the night, Lisa's boyfriend, Mark (28M), grabbed the mic during the toast. I thought he was gonna say congrats or whatever, but he starts this whole speech about how "love is in the air" and suddenly drops to one knee IN FRONT OF LISA. Everyone starts screaming, phones out, the whole thing. Lisa's crying, nodding yes, and the crowd goes wild.
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    I'm standing there holding my champagne like...this is MY engagement party?? Jake's just awkwardly patting my back. Once the clapping dies down, I straight-up asked Mark, "Dude, seriously? You couldn't pick literally any other day?" He shrugged and said, "Come on, it's not like you guys need the spotlight all night."-exact words
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    I lost it. Told him to leave, and when Lisa tried to defend him, "You too. Bye." They left, but now half my friends are on my phone saying I overreacted and "should've been happy for them." Lisa texted me, "You ruined what was supposed to be the happiest moment of my life." But like... HELLO??? This was MY moment!
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    My mom says I was justified, but my brother says I "looked jealous and petty." Jake's staying neutral but thinks Mark was out of line.
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    So...AITA for kicking them out? Should I have just let them have their "moment"? (used fake names)
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    People thought that this woman did nothing wrong, and that her friend should pay for engagement party.

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    Mark owes you half the money you dropped for YOUR party that turned into HIS party.
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    The friends that say, you overreacted, yeah, those are Lisa's friends.
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    NTA screw Mark and Lisa... they have the audacity to say you ruined their moment? The moment you funded for yourself and your fiancé? They can kick sand and any friend telling you anything let them know they are more than welcome to fund their engagement party and skip your wedding cuz they don't have your best interest in mind.
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    NTA - send them a bill for their share of the engagement party
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    Common sense, people!

    NTA AT ALLL. That is insane behavior and they didn't even try to ask beforehand if that would be okay with you. It is common knowledge that an engagement party, wedding, etc is not an appropriate place for a proposal.
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    NTA she's not your friend if she didn't find that both ride and disrespectful. I bet she was in on it.
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    A nightmare in the making...

    ha.. whatever you do, don't invite them to your wedding, who knows what they'll get up to in the middle of the service.. join in and have theirs on the back of yours too? NTA
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    Lisa is the real villain here!

    Lisa offered to help plan the party? Yeah she knew what was going to happen. $50 says her nails were freshly manicured.
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    NTA. Your engagement party, your rules. And seriously, proposing at someone else's engagement party?? That's a big no-no. Mark needs to learn some basic etiquette.
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    Nah, you were 100% in the right. Mark hijacked your whole engagement party like it was an open mic night. "Love is in the air"??? Bro, read the room-LOVE WAS IN THE AIR FOR YOU AND JAKE. Not his cue to make it about him.
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    And Lisa acting like you ruined her happiest moment? Girl, that moment literally wouldn't have even happened if she wasn't busy third-wheeling your engagement party. Like, get proposed to on your own time.
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    Your friends saying you should've been "happy for them" are wild. Imagine throwing a birthday party and someone blows out your candles and starts celebrating their birthday. Mark had plenty of other days to do this. He picked yours on purpose. You did what had to be done. No notes.
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