'[He said] he'd just buy us a new dog': Mooching brother-in-law loses his sister's 12-year-old dog after freeloading off of their generosity for over a year, then the husband snaps and kicks him out

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Feb 23, 2025 5:00 PM EST

After 12 years, the dog has certainly become an integral part of the family. But when this mooching brother-in-law lost his sister's beloved pet due to his laziness, he thought a pup was as easy to replace as a cracked windshield or an old t-shirt. 

We all stick our necks out now and then to help family. Sometimes, we'll cancel fun plans to babysit the nephews and nieces or we'll offer to help them move. If you're lucky and have a generous family, they'll even offer to house you in times of crisis, lending a helping hand to a sibling, parent, or auntie in need. Then again, that generosity isn't always reciprocated, and in the case of the young couple in our next story, their selfless act ended up costing them a beloved furry friend. 

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    One of my worst fears is losing my dog. My furbaby, Murphy, is an 85-pound shepherd/pittie beast who certainly seems like he can fend for himself in the wild, but as I slip his paws into his little pajamas every night or when I sprinkle cheese on his kibbles in the morning, I'm reminded that there's no way there's any wilderness left in this dog. Sometimes, I worry that I didn't close the door properly and he'll escape, never to be found again because of my negligence—so I can only imagine the rage the man in this next story felt when he found out his freeloading BIL lived out his worst nightmare.

  • "AITA for finally telling my brother-in-law to leave after he’s been mooching off us for a year?"

    He moved in saying he just needed "a few months" until he was able to save enough money to rent his own place. It's been a year, but he's never once paid for bills, groceries, nothing. He doesn't even do basic chores,
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  • but my wife (she's his brother) always tries to cover for him and does his chores for him instead. He leaves dishes in the sink, doesn't take out the trash. Just sits around on his phone when he's at home to play mobile games or goes out on his
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  • motorcycle to go on long rides with his buddies. We've been biting our tongues because he's family, but last week was the last straw. He came home late, parked his bike, and didn't lock the gate. As a result of his
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  • neglect, our dog of 12 years got out. We searched everywhere and even made Facebook posts, only to find out a few hours later that he got hit by a car just outside our subdivision. We were devastated and I was very
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  • furious. But guess who was the one acting ped off?? My BIL. Saying it "wasn't his fault" and that "sh happens" and that he'd just buy us a new dog. LOL. He hasn't even contributed a single cent to our monthly electric or internet bills.
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  • I lost it. Told him to pack his stuff and get out. My wife thinks I was too harsh, but I honestly don't care anymore. He doesn't respect our home, our rules, or dog. AITA for not our considering my wife's feelings first? A part of me feels that we should've talked about it first, but then I acted on my own out of anger. AITA?
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  • Apart-Ad-6518 NTA So sorry about your dog. His attitude over that alone justifies kicking him out.
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  • obiy88 NTA. He can't take responsibility for sh. He's as responsible as the driver for your sweet dog's tragic death. I would've thrown him out right then and there with O remorse. "Buy another dog", Disgusting. He does not deserve one bit of your kindness and generosity. So sorry for your loss
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  • dalealace NTA. Why is your wife not more upset about the dog? Or his attitude about letting the dog out? You can't just replace a family member like it was nothing. He needed to go before but there's no coming back from the dog
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  • thing now. He could have been contrite and apologetic, but he couldn't even do that. On top on not paying any bills or doing any chores he can't apologize for inadvertently hurting your dog?? Dude has to go.
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  • DanielLCG NTA and if my wife had a brother like that and kept covering for him we'd been in therapy or divorce, you need to be the priority not his stupid bot
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  • FacetiousTomato I mean, NTA, but is there really a conflict here? Is anyone going to come into a post where you kicked out a freeloader who k lled your dog, and call you the a hole?
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  • ShortThunder5145 Your wife is TA. And a huge one at that. She is disrespectful to you and your home. Her brother should not be her priority. Her husband should come first, especially in your home. She's nuts!
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  • The-Comfy-Chair NTA but you should ideally have talked to your wife about this first. He's been taking advantage for an entire year, even without the dog issue it was way past time for him to leave. Personally I'd change your locks too.
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  • Armorer- Op you are under reacting here I would have immediately kicked out the mooching bil after causing the death of my pet, that is a boundary you cannot uncross regardless of who he is. NTA
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  • Jerseygirl2468 NTA I'd have been furious too. He has long overstayed his welcome and caused great grief to you about the dog. I'm sorry. The only thing I'd say is this is a conversation that should have happened within a month or two of him moving in - he showed no signs of saving to move out, and didn't contribute anything to the household. You held your tongue for a year that's too long. -
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  • Chloet5759 NTA Your wife thinks you were too harsh!??? She has got to be kidding! He was responsible for your dog getting out resulting in the unthinkable (I'm so very sorry for your loss)!!! I give you so much credit for not physically throwing him and all his sh*t out!
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  • Tdluxon NTA If you hadn't put your foot down he would have stayed forever. If anything you should have booted him sooner but you were trying to help.
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