27-year-old daughter blows up at father when he tries to get her to date his boss’s son despite already having a boyfriend, he accuses her of being stubborn: “I’m not some business deal he gets to negotiate”

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    AITAH for Blowing Up at My Father After He Tried to Set Me Up with His Boss’s Son?

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    So, I (27F) have been dating my boyfriend Jake (29M) for almost a year now, and honestly, I've never been happier in a relationship. He's smart, kind, works his a_off running his own business, and we just get eachother. My dad, though? He has never liked him.
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    At first, I thought it was just normal overprotective dad stuff, but over time it became clear it was something deeper. He thinks Jake isn't "established" enough, whatever the h I that means. He's made comments about how Jake "doesn't come from the right crowd" and how he's not someone who can "secure my future." Mind
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    you, I have a great job, I make my own money, I don't need a man to "secure" anything for me.
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    Anyway, my dad invited me over for dinner last weekend, and I thought maybe maybe he was finally coming around. But nope. I barely sat down before he starts in on how I "could do better" and how he "just wants the best for me." Then he drops the real reason he asked me over he wants me to meet his boss's son, Andrew (30M).
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    Apparently, they've been talking about how Andrew is looking for a wife, and my dad, being the absolute mastermind that he is, decided I should be the perfect candidate.
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    I literally laughed because I thought he was joking. He wasn't. He starts going on about how Andrew comes from "old money" and how he's "on track to take over the family business" and that I'd have a "better life with him." I just sat there in shock for a second before I asked him if he was serious right now.
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    He was. I told him I have a good life, I love Jake, and I'm not some chess piece he can move around for his own benefit. He starts getting mad, saying I'm being "stubborn" and "immature" and that I'll regret not at least "keeping my options open." That's when I
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    snapped. I told him he was being ridiculous and that I'm not some business deal he gets to negotiate. Things got really heated, and I ended up just leaving before dinner even started.
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    Now, he's playing the victim, saying he was "just looking out for my future” and that I "disrespected" him by yelling. AITAH for losing it on him?
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    Candid Process1831 • 20h ago NTA!!! Your life your choice don't let your AH father make decisions for you!
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    NefariousnessFresh... • 20h ago NTA and don't let him or - your mom try to guilt trip you into feeling bad or some sh. This isn't the 1600s, if he wants an arranged marriage, he can marry Andrew himself
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    BigWeinerDemeanor • 19h ago NTA your dad is gold digging by proxy. That's wild sh.
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    90s-kid-nostalgia • 20h ago Are you from a wealthier background and Jake, despite running his own business, is not? I was very much getting vibes that your dad was looking for someone from a wealthy background and the "old money" comment pretty
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    much cemented that for me. Either way, you're NTA and your dad needs to be less of a classist. Maybe no contact for awhile will make him smarten the f . He should be happy you're happy and have found someone who is loving and treats you well.
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    whipla5her 19h ago As a father with a daughter around your age, I think dad needs to chill and let you be an adult. A father's job is to guide and teach. But what the child does with their adult life is their business, and also their responsibility. So NTA.
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    Nearby-Elevator-3... • 19h ago I'll bet Dad has tried to pay Jake to break up with OP.
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    Top-Customer1055 • 20h ago NTA. You are 27 and an adult. Unfortunately we have to let kids make own choices and mistakes. He maybe right who knows but you are happy. Set up marriages are not the norm in most cultures.
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    Hopefully once you guys a get more serious maybe engage or marry he will change his attitude. A lot of people don't see boyfriend and girlfriend as serious not saying that is right but it is what it is. I would probably go on a date and embarrass my dad by behaving like a brat. ②②
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    Pam0189 20h ago Dad needs to mind his own business. You did the right thing.
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    • PedXing23 19h ago NTA - He's not respecting your life, your relationship or your boundaries. It seems like he was going to back off until you show some big time anger.

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