Woman's cousin accuses husband of infidelity with her, only to find out her suspicions were completely unfounded: ‘I did absolutely nothing wrong’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Feb 23, 2025 8:00 PM EST

When you finally decide to take the leap and marry someone, one would hope that you had a good feeling about their loyalty and intentions before doing so. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and you didn't sign up to be one of many romantic partners in your spouse's life. Not every cheater shows their hand at first because that's not how cheaters work and why would they? However, if you don't fully trust your man, trusting a family member with him is a different story.

In this piece, a woman explains that her cousin is accusing her of infidelity with her husband after her phone was connected to their car's Bluetooth speaker. The woman reminds her cousin that she had driven their car after doing a favor for them, and she connected to Bluetooth during that errand. Instead of defending herself further, though, she decides to give her cousin heat, too. Scroll to read.

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  • Infidelity is not something anyone in a romantic relationship speaks of lightly. It is a betrayal to one of the highest degrees between two people, especially after having made a legal commitment to each other such as marriage. If a cheater wants to cheat, they find a way, period. However, the woman in this story drove her cousin and her husband to the airport and then drove their car back to their place so it didn't sit in the airport parking garage. Instead of a thank you, she gets cheating accusations. Yikes…

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  • "AITAH for deciding not to defend myself when my cousin accused me of having an affair with her husband?"

    Throwaway account. For some context, I (31F) moved to a new state away from my immediately family where my extended family lives about 3 years ago. I moved into my cousin's (38F) neighborhood to at least be close to family. I will call her K.
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  • Over the years, I've spent a lot of time with them and their 3 young kids (ages 8, 10, 11). I love having the kids over for sleepovers and we also watch each other's pets
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  • on vacations. I've even babysat in the middle of the night before when K needed to go to the hospital. I'm always there if they need anything.
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  • Their family always takes an annual trip in Feb to the mountains. Every year I've housesat and watched their dog during this time. Last year, I offered to ride with them to the
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  • airport and drive their car back to the house so that they wouldn't have to leave the car in the airport parking garage. When I was leaving the airport, I had to connect to bluetooth for GPS directions since their was no cord.
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  • Late January of this year, she sends me a bunch of texts saying how annoying it is that my name keeps popping up on his bluetooth and hers never does.
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  • She was asking if I drove his car, etc. I simply said it was from the one time I drove the car to the airport last year and that you just have to go in and delete my name. She kept reiterating that it was a year ago, but if anyone knows anything about bluetooth - it doesn't just go away you have to delete it.
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  • Shortly after, I get a text from her husband (mind you the only time him and I have EVER texted was during last year's mountain trip when he let me know the AC repair man was coming by to
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  • estimate) and with K included in the group text he says "My wife thinks you and I are having an affair. Can you please explain to your cousin that you and I have never crossed paths without her.
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  • That your name popping up on my truck dash could be that you've hooked up to my truck carplay. I'm done getting heat here. This is embarrassing. This is laughable."
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  • I respond with "Oh wow. It was the one time I drove the truck from the airport after dropping you guys. I connected to bluetooth." which is the same thing I had just explained to K.
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  • Now, normally I would've hopped right into my people pleasing ways, trying to make everything OK and make sure she definitely believes that that is not the truth.
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  • But after a lot of therapy and healing, I actually have no desire to defend myself. I was supposed to watch her dog during their annual trip this year, however, after this conversation she has completely stopped speaking to me, found other
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  • accommodations, and her kids went from calling me all the time to come over to not calling me at all (which is honestly the most de ssing part for me).
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  • The advice that I keep getting is that I need to talk to her and make things right, but (as most people pleasers can relate) I am SO tired of being a friend to everyone and no one being a friend to me. I did absolutely
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  • nothing wrong and now I feel completely abandoned by them. Why am I always the one to have to make things right when I was accused of something so incredibly offensive? Shouldn't she be the one to make things right? So.. am I the AH?
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  • EDIT: I really appreciate the comments and have taken all feedback into consideration. After reading I agree that it was important I try again to clear my name, and after the comments it's good to know that that won't come off as overly defensive. I've sent the following text and it's officially in her hands:
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  • Hi K, I'm reaching out in hopes that we can resolve what's happened. I explained to both you and (husband) exactly what happened with the bluetooth. I've done nothing but be there for you and your family and it's extremely offensive that you would think so low of me to believe that I would
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  • ever do something like have an affair with your husband. Let me know if you'd like to talk about it because we are family after all. I've looked up to you my entire life and this all honestly breaks my heart.
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  • VegetableBusines... Some people see how people see, some people see how people are useful. Now that you've figured that out... Move on to your best life. You're fine. Let your cousin marinate in her petty insecurities
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  • gruntbuggly If I've learned anything from this sub, it's that in a couple of weeks or months it will come out that K is actually cheating on her husband and has been for quite some time, and her suspicion of her husband is really just projection.
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  • ChaoticCrashy NTA I'm sorry that you're being accused of something that arose from helping them. It's sad, but shows that your cousin has issues.
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