Woman insists 2-year-old girl is suspended from daycare after she bites her son, teacher refuses to suspend her due to her mother being in the hospital: “Have a bit of sympathy”

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    AITA for telling my boss that if she wants this little girl to be suspended, she can tell the parents herself

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    I'm the lead teacher in a 2 year old room at a daycare. I have a little girl in my class, Sophie, that has had an issue with biting the past couple days. Sophie is usually very sweet and she's very intelligent. (she's almost fully potty trained at 28 months old) but she has a pretty severe speech delay and her mom
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    was taken to the hospital by ambulance last weekend and Sophie hasn't seen her since the ambulance took her because the hospital doesn't allow children under 5 to visit. All of this is to say I strongly believe the biting is a reaction to the mom's hospitalization and her inability to communicate.
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    The way biting is typically handled is the parents get a warning after the first incident, they're suspended for 2 days after the 2nd incident, and we consider expulsion after the 3rd incident. Everything up to expulsion is up to the lead teacher though, since our boss is never here. Whenever Sophie bites, I still have her grandma sign the incident report but I don't suspend her.
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    On Wednesday Sophie bit a boy whose mom is friends with my boss. His mom complained to my boss about the bite and my boss told the mom Sophie would be suspended. The boy got to school yesterday and saw Sophie so my boss got another complaint because Sophie is still there.
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    Then my boss contacted me and told me I need to have Sophie's parents pick her up because her friend is upset but I refused. I explained their situation to my boss so she might have a bit of sympathy but she still insisted that Sophie couldn't be there. I told her that I refuse to suspend her while
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    her mom is in the hospital and that if she wants Sophie to be suspended that badly she can come down here and do it herself.
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    Sophie is not suspended but I still have to deal with a ped off mom and my boss is upset so I wanted to know if I am wrong for refusing to suspend Sophie
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    Justadudelivinlyfe I agree with the other posters. I think you're correct about Sophie but it isn't fair to the other kids and parents. I don't think Sophie should be expelled, but she should probably not be at daycare while moms in the hospital.
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    Salt-Lavishness-7560 "Whenever Sophie bites, I still have her grandma sign the incident report but I don't suspend her..."
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    How many times has Sophie bitten other children? I appreciate your empathy and caring towards Sophie. However, you also have a responsibility to the other. hapless kids in that class who are getting bitten. Where's your empathy towards them?
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    One of my kids was stuck in a daycare room with a biter. It made other children not want to go to daycare. Screaming and crying at dropoff. Finally the kid bit the absolute sh out of another kid right in the face. And the daycare finally had to boot the kid.
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    You're the lead teacher. Be the lead. Do your job. Take care of ALL the children.
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    Kittyknowshow YTA, I genuinely feel for the kid but allowing this behavior is harmful to other kids too and needs to be addressed.
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    BliepBlipBlop YTA - in the comments you say that you've suspended children before for biting but you choose not to do it with this child because you choose to "sympathise" with her situation while other children have to suffer from her biting.
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    How is this fair? No parent wants their child to be in danger at daycare. You're putting all children in danger now. Medically too. Biting can be very dangerous.
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    Plus_Concern6650 While I think you can be sympathetic to a point it is wildly unfair to all the kids who keep getting bit by Sophie. She should suspended because that is the rule - especially since it sounds like she's well exceeded her 'three bites'.
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    OpinionsRZazzholes Your job is to protect all the kids, not just Sophie.
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    Mackymcmcmac YTA. Where is your sympathy for the kids she's biting?
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    Texas Yankee212 Who is picking Sophie while her mom is in the hospital? That person is responsible for Sophie, not you. You are a daycare teacher, not her mom.
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    GoldenFrog14 My mom ran a daycare center. The policy is the policy and you're showing bias by not enforcing it. That makes YTA. Part of the job is having uncomfortable conversations. Those other people are

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