“It’s a once in a lifetime experience”: 29-year-old man breaks up with 27-year-old girlfriend after she suggests open relationship while she’s traveling, she turns on him for ending it while she’s still on vacation

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Mar 12, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

Ladies and gentlemen of the internet, welcome. Relationships are never a straight path, and even as perfect as some couples may seem, everyone has their issues with their partner. Some people struggle with emotional compatibility, some with intimacy, and some struggle with external issues. When a couple tries to do long-distance, this is an obvious source of tension in the relationship. 

Long-distance relationships come with a slew of problems that don't exist when you can actually see the person. Long-distance isn't just difficult emotionally and physically, it creates all sorts of thoughts and feelings that could feel torturous. Insecurity starts to brim at the surface of everything they say and do, and sometimes you feel out of control with thoughts of if they're still loyal to you, and still love you in the same way. Dating long-distance is an incredibly vulnerable place for both people, and it takes a lot of communication and understanding from both sides to make it work.

In the story below, the couple is in a long-distance relationship, and their foundation is shaken. Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    AITA for breaking up with my girlfriend while she was traveling after she asked to open our relationship?

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    My (29M) girlfriend (27F) is currently on a two-month solo trip in South America. A few days ago, we had a phone call where she told me she was feeling lonely on her travels and hinted at feeling a bit frisky and like she needed some physical contact. I picked up on what she was hinting at, and
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  • The fact that she asked the question at all tells you everything. She's probably thinking about someone specific, because two months isn't a very long time. It might be that she's already done something physical with someone, but more likely that someone is smitten with her, and her to him. She most likely has someone in mind, that thought to take her chances with him. 

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    asked her if she felt she needed to sleep with other people while she was away? She said this was a "once-in-a-lifetime" experience, so she wanted the option to be open to her. However she left the decision up to me whether we should open the relationship.
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    I was completely caught off guard. I told her how much this hurt me, how it would make me insecure, and how I worried this could completely change our relationship dynamic. I'd always presented monogamous to her, and thought we were on the same
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    page. I didn't want to seem controlling or selfish, so I reluctantly said I could try to be okay with it.
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    The next day, I felt awful. I realised I had agreed out of guilt, not because I actually wanted this. I felt so sad that instead of missing me while we were apart, she saw it as an opportunity to sleep around.
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    After sitting with those feelings for a few days, I told her how deeply hurt I was and that I couldn't just pretend everything was fine. I ended things because I knew I wouldn't be able to feel the same security and trust in our relationship again.
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    She was furious. She said she was just bringing up the idea, that it was a two-way conversation where the ball was in my court, and that I was making myself the victim. She's also extremely upset that I broke up with her while she's still traveling for another month and says I should have waited.
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    I do feel terrible that she's now going through this while abroad and doesn't have her support system around her. But I also feel like she put me in an impossible position by bringing this up while we were long-distance. So, AITA for breaking up with her over this and not waiting until she got home?
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    Longwinded Ogre ⚫ 9h ago She called to ask permission to f Iaround. It's a valid reason to end the relationship. Asking you to pretend you're still dating until she comes back is ridiculous.
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    Not the a hle, f ed around and found out. NTA.
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    Liz... 10h ago • Edited 7h ago • So she's mad that you spring a breakup on her while. traveling but thought it was appropriate to raise the question of sleeping with someone else on her "once in a lifetime trip"? Please.
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    NTA and she's pulling a total double standard here. Wow! Thanks guys I got my first - reddit comment award! I appreciate it a
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    NoContribution93... • 10h ago NTA, she might have already done it and was just trying to get you to agree to it so she can say you were ok with it to others
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    amca_19 • 10h ago Honestly not the A-He and I think she actually planned to ask you to open the relationship and choose her travel time so you'll feel inclined to accept don't let yourself be gaslight your
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    feelings are valid and you had every right to break up with her.
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    Independent_Lab_5... 9h ago Your ex is away for only 2 months and is struggling because she is missing having s.
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    Two months is NOT going to kill her. If she loved you, she would wait. Instead, she gets angry because you feel hurt that she wants the green light to sleep around. She thinks it is no big deal who she sleeps with. She has no respect for your relationship.
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    Now she is single she can sleep with whoever she wants.
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    Any-Expression2246 • 9h ago Even if you said you didn't want to open it, more than likely she was already on her way to doing something and was seeking permission based on an "open relationship".
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    Your feelings are valid even if you waited a day or two to catch up to them. She basically pressured you to accept it and you caved because you truly care for her.
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    She's 27, she can deal with the outcome of her decision like an adult. ΝΤΑ
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    BlazerWookiee 9h ago She's asking for forgiveness, not permission.
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