“Replace door handle with a keyed lock”: Woman refuses to let roommate’s boyfriend continue to treat her bathroom like his personal spa, roommate gets upset with her and insists he keep using it

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    AITA for Refusing to Let My Roommate’s Boyfriend Use My Shower?

    "He smells amazing, but at my expense"
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    So, I (24F) share an apartment with my roommate, Sarah (25F). We generally get along fine, but she has a boyfriend, Jake (26M), who is always over. Like, at this point, I think he actually lives here more than I do.
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    The issue? Jake refuses to shower at his own place. I don't know why. He claims his water pressure is bad, but I think he just likes my shower because we have those fancy rain showerheads. Either way, every time he stays over, he uses my bathroom instead of Sarah's.
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    At first, I let it slide. But then I started noticing things—my shampoo running out suspiciously fast, my towels being damp when I hadn't used them, and worst of all, the man was using my expensive eucalyptus body wash. I splurge on that. He smells amazing, but at my expense.
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    So, last week, I finally put my foot down and told Sarah, "Hey, Jake needs to use your shower from now on." She got weirdly defensive, saying he "feels more comfortable" in mine. I said, "Great, he can feel comfortable at his own apartment." She got mad and said I was being dramatic over "just a shower."
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    Jake is now sulking, Sarah is annoyed, and I'm wondering-AITA for not wanting my roommate's boyfriend to treat my bathroom like a luxury spa?
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    Fragrant-Reserve48... 22h ago "At this point I'm going to be speaking to the landlord about how much time he's here and the fact my very reasonable boundary is being disregarded."
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    Agitated-Papaya74... • 22h ago IVIoue _ needs to start paying rent if hes there more than you
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    Cute-Profession9983 • 22h ago Jake being there all the time may be against the terms of the lease. Lock your stuff away.
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    Born-Work2089 • 22h ago NTA, replace door handle with keyed lock
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    Concussed_Celt_ • 21h ago NTA. Seems like a power play is going on. Sarah is DEFINITELY the here too.
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    RugbyKats 21h ago I read this whole thing thinking your apartment had only one shower, in which case I'd have urged you to put away your expensive stuff and deal with it. The fact that he is not showering in his own girlfriend's shower is straight
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    up disrespect to you. Put your foot down. ΝΤΑ
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    drive_she ⚫ 22h ago Jake needs to pay 1/3 rent and 1/3 utilities, and shower in the other bathroom.
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    Chaoticgood790 • 20h ago Get a lock for your doors. Including the bathroom. But also tell your roommate he's only allowed over 3 days a week or you will go to the landlord for an unauthorized tenant
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    Vegoia2 20h ago she sulks because methinks she is using your shower and products also. Using your towels is so sceevy, sorry but that's a reason to throw hands.
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    GlamMonica • 20h ago No he's tripping. Your roommate is also a doormat. No way would anyone not find that offensive and disrespectful. Especially as he's using your towels and your toiletries. The least he can do is leave the shower clean and
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    find that offensive and disrespectful. Especially as he's using your towels and your toiletries. The least he can do is leave the shower clean and bring his own towel and toiletries with him. He's gross. Put a lock on your bedroom door and bathroom door.
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    Special_Lychee_6847 • 16h ago NTA Send roommate a link to a shower head like yours, so her boyfriend can get it to install in her shower... or better yet: HIS OWN shower.

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