Bride calls out husband's longtime ex's jealousy during rehearsal dinner after inappropriate comments are made about their romantic past

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Mar 24, 2025 11:00 PM EDT

Sometimes, when you find the right person, they're the right person so much so that they are still friends with their ex. I know, I know. This is, most of the time, a big no-no in the girl world, or any world, really. How can you separate childhood friends who probably shouldn't have tried dating, but did it anyway? 

By no means are the groom and childhood friend in this next story best friends, but their families are close enough to warrant an invitation to his wedding with his new fiancée.  The ex's invitation might soon be trashed, though, following inappropriate comments the ex made at the soon-to-be-wed couple's rehearsal dinner. Did I mention the ex is now married to the groom's older brother? Entitlement, jealousy, and the like have a funny way of jumping out of our bodies, but you'd think people would have a bit more self-control. 

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  • High school sweethearts, sometimes, stay in high school. The woman who posted this story explains that that's exactly what happened with her fiancé and his ex-girlfriend, who is also a family friend. The ex-girlfriend, as I mentioned, married the groom's brother. Then, the groom met his soon-to-be wife who posted this. You'd think the story would end there—but it seems the ex-girlfriend has some unfinished business to attend to. Instead of being a supportive family friend, she starts making passes at the groom…

  • "When she ‘jokingly' asked Rick why they broke up again, I decided to speak up and told her to keep her jel[a]ousy to herself."
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  • "AITA for telling my husband's ex to keep her je[a]lousy to herself?"

    This is 100% a throwaway so if i dont reply, assume i lost access. I(30f) am newly married to my husband, Rick(30m). So ill try to explain the backstory/relationships but is k at typing so sorry ahead of time.
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  • Rick was raised with Maddie (30f). My MIL(50f) and Maddie's mom were best friends since they were babies. They dated back in highschool but it
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  • didnt work out. They did however remain close friends. I probably should note that Maddie ended up marrying my older BIL 5 years ago.
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  • So on to now. Rick and i have spent the last year wedding planning and doing the all of the traditional events that comes with that. Its been an incredibly
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  • stressfull time but being my SIL, Maddie was at almost everything. Normally this wouldnt be a problem. I like Maddie... but it seemed like every passing day she would get angrier with me.
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  • This lead all the way up to our rehersal dinner when she started making comments "in a joking manner". "I could have been his wife" "i would have look stunning next to him at the alter". This
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  • continued most of the way thru our meal. I admit i was irritated and not enjoying myself because of it. When she "jokingly" asked Rick why they broke up again, i
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  • decided to speak up and told her to keep her jelousy to herself. She acted like she didnt know what i was talking about.
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  • I told her ive had to listen to her little remarks at the rehersal for MY wedding and i was tired of it. She shut up but my BIL and MIL kept looking at me funny for the rest of the event.
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  • When Rick and i got back from our honeymoon, 2 days ago, my MIL had a talk with me about how that was incredibly ride and that i owe Maddie and apology.
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  • Im starting to wonder if i was actually in the wrong here. Rick says i was justified but MIL and BIL are still upset with me over it AITA??
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  • Kami_Sang NTA - tell your MIL that Maddie was the r de and disrespectful person. She made your rehersal dinner about her and Rick's past relationship making you uncomfortable.
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  • Yes, you reacted but you deserved not to have your husband's ex carrying on about their past relationship at your wedding events. Maybe Maddie thought it was cute or funny but to you it was insensitive and upsetting. Your wedding was not about Maddie or Maddie and Rick's past.
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  • You are not apologising to Maddie and frankly, if it were me I would tell MIL I'm a grown a woman, it's not her place to tell me to apologise as if I'm a child. I can judge my actions myself and I'm comfortable with them - sometimes you gotta be an A to make a point and stop other A like Maddie in their tracks.
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  • Vyckerz NTA - what Maddie did was way out of line. Your mother-in-law is also way off base in supporting Maddie in this. Also, your brother-in-law is mad at the wrong person. He should be upset with his wife for saying that his brother should've been with her instead!!
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  • Chaos_incarnate_9 Why was the BIL not mad his WIFE was joking around about ditching him for his brother???
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  • Sadpepper 2015 NTA. Hubby needs to be the one dealing with MIL, not you. If he doesn't, mommy dearest will drive a wedge between the two of you.
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  • LetsGetsThisPartyOn NTA But ew! She dated one brother. Married the other brother. Is now commenting that she should be married to the first brother while remaining married to the second brother. Talk about All in the Family
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  • Separate_Avocado5964 Just to clarify - she dated a guy, then she ended up marrying his older brother (???) and she is making jokes about how she could have been the wife of the younger brother all along? This woman is WEIRD. NTA
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  • Constantlyhaveacold She disrespected you, your fiance, & her husband. No way in Hades you're in the wrong. NTA.
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  • gdrom123 I'm confused at your BIL's reaction. So he's ok with his wife after his brother? Weird! NTA but your BIL, MIL, and Maddie definitely are huge AHs. I wouldn't apologize. I hope you and your husband limit interactions with them. They seem to like drama.
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