24-year-old musician forbids parents from bringing his 10-year-old and 7-year-old siblings over to his place because they break his belongings: 'My parents are hurt saying that my brother and sister should be more important than money/possessions'

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    "AITA for forbidding my parents of bringing my little brother (10) and sister (7) when coming to my (24M) place?"

    I moved out as soon as i got into college and from that shared college apartment i moved straight into my own place, i got a nice downtown loft for myself in the same city i went to college, this is about 7 hours from my hometown so as you can imagine, i was barely home over the last 6 years. My dad (45) really misses me a lot, he raised me as a single parent after my biomom abandoned me postpartum and my stepmom (39) has also missed me a lot and was a fantastic parent to me throughout the years
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    Our main problem is, my siblings, as you can probably imagine from the timeline i described, i had little to no contact with them really but the times i do see them, they're a nightmare, for example, this year i stayed in my parents home from Christmas eve to new years and in that short time period they managed to break my Nintendo Switch and shatter my phone screen, both times neither object was left unattended near them, my Switch they swiped from my room by going through my things while i was
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    My place is essentially one big open. space, it's a big loft, only door is to the bathroom (obviously), just one big space. And it's mostly occupied by my music gear, thousands and thousands of dollars worth of it, it's more of a "i live in my studio" situation than a "i have a studio at home" situation, i don't even own a bed, i sleep on a futon, so whenever they want to visit i just tell them no, that I'll go to them instead, i only ever host them at my place whenever my grandparents have my s
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    My parents are hurt saying that my brother and sister should be more important than money/possessions and that i moved away from home without ever making an effort to be in the lives. of my siblings (which i won't really deny), they also say my siblings are hurt from me not putting any effort into being in their lives especially since the family talks a lot about me near them, i love my parents but i think they're being unreasonable expecting me to allow my siblings here where they will be surro
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a hole: (1) Forbidding my siblings. from coming to my place. (2) Hurting my parents who were very good to me
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    eowynsheiress NTA. If your parents won't parent and also won't promise to replace your broken items, you literally CANNOT AFFORD to let the unruly kids visit.
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    perspicacity4life INFO: do your parents replace the stuff your siblings break? That could be a condition of your siblings visiting.
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    Travelgrrl NTA. Family is welcome to visit and stay in a hotel, and all meetups will be in public places. Or when you visit, you get a hotel room, too, to keep the feral little kids from getting into your stuff. Dad and StepMom can visit the studio any time they want, as presumably they know how not to wreck things.
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    Odd-End-1405 NTA This is your home. Your rules. Your parents' desire for you to be closer to your half siblings is extremely premature given the age difference. Stand strong.
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    Queasy_Author_3810 Absolutely NTA. Did your parents pay for a new nintendo switch or phone when they broke yours? I doubt it! Until those kids are of an age where they can behave themselves, absolutely not.
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