Coworker offers ride home daily despite daily refusals, won’t take no for an answer, turning commute into awkward workplace discussion

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  • "Co-worker always offering me a ride home and can't take no for an answer"

    “She can't seem to take no for an answer"
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  • I've (24f) been at my current job now for almost 2 years, and take the bus a lot to work, while I save up for a car. I live about 10 minutes from work.
  • One of my new coworkers, who despite being really nice, is constantly asking me if I need a ride home, and while I appreciate her kind gesture, she can't seem to take no for an answer.
  • I have a schedule that works for me and funnily enough, I'm usually the first one into the office, despite not having a car.
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  • I'm not really sure what else to do, because at the end of most shifts, she'll out loud, ask me if I need a ride home, and it's starting to become obnoxious.
  • Edit: Thank you all so much! I didn't know I would get as much advice and feedback as I have. I really appreciate it. I know me
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  • saying no to the ride might not make sense to some, but the interactions I've had with this coworker just don't seem genuine, which is one of the
  • major reasons why I don't want to take up her offer. To clarify, I have been saying no to her offers, but it's going on three weeks, and she's still asking me every chance she gets.
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  • Despite how open she seems to be, I still don't know her and don't feel comfortable with her knowing where I live, especially since she's a new coworker. There needs to be boundaries. As many
  • of you have said, I need to just continue standing my ground, and at some point, pull her aside and talk with her if she continues to push it. I'd rather not go to HR if we can resolve it.
  • Edit: I forgot to mention. My coworker also has my phone number. If she genuinely cared about my safety, instead of broadcasting to everyone if I needed a ride home, she would
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  • send me a text asking me. That is another reason I know she's doing what she's doing for attention, whether she knows it or not.
  • FairyPandaQueen Just keep saying no. She can't force you to accept a ride.
  • inara_pond Just tell her what you told us. You have a schedule that works for you and you are not interested in ever taking her up on her offer for a ride so there's no sense in her continuing to offer.
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  • LexChase "Hey, I'm all good, you don't need to keep asking, but is it okay to just ask you directly if I do need one?"
  • Corporate_Lurker Just say what you've always been saying: No. She can't do anything, because if she does, you can approach HR for creating a hostile work environment.
  • zippyphoenix Thank you for offering, if I ever need one, I know who to ask.
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  • llorandosefue1 Just say no. She wants a carpool-lane buddy or someone to talk to.
  • I had a wonderfully dysfunctional relationship with a co-worker for a while. With me in the car, she could use the carpool lane. She got home ridiculously early, ripping me off at a
  • light-rail station. I took the light rail home, and I arrived earlier than I would have done if I had taken the light rail from work. Dysfunctional codependency at its best.
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  • CarlaQ5 Wow, she really likes attention! Since she's into the spotlight and loves to ask you in front of others, be equally
  • obnoxious and say, "Once again, no! I'm happy commuting alone. Everybody got that, yeah? Good! We're not talking about this again."
  • Anecdotal_Yak It sounds like she feels superior and wants to be your savior. You can say any time, "No thanks, I like walking."
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