‘All I wanted was an apology’: Fake friend cancels promised ride to concert last-minute after inviting herself and celebrating its multiple cancellations, leaving a 20-year-old stranded

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Mar 28, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

False friendships often reveal themselves in the most unexpected ways. It's the friend who's always conveniently unavailable when it really matters, yet somehow always has time for their own plans. Or one who seems genuinely thrilled when you don't get your way, like a secret victory parade only they can see. When dealing with people like this, the line between being a friend and being somebody that you used to know should become blurred quickly.

The particular case of a fan being left high and dry before a highly anticipated concert is a masterclass in this sort of behavior. It's a delightful mix of false promises, last-minute cancellations, and a healthy dose of passive-aggression.

So here's a pro tip: if a friend starts being suspiciously happy about your bad luck, maybe it's time to reevaluate that friendship and invest in some good backup plans, and a solid solo cry session playlist for when things inevitably go wrong.

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  • There’s a certain art to ruining someone’s concert plans that requires a special kind of friend. The kind who seems to join in on all the excitement only to quietly sabotage it. It’s like they have a hidden talent for popping balloons at birthday parties without anyone noticing. Except this time, the balloon is your dreams of seeing your favorite artist live.

  • "AITA for wanting an apology"

    "She was laughing and bragging when I was upset and disappointed"
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  • I(19F) and my friend T(20F) were supposed to be going to a concert after the artist cancelled and rescheduled the concert 3 times. I originally was supposed
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  • to be going with my boyfriend as a couples "get away" to enjoy some music and each other's company. After I told my friend (T) that I had tickets booked for
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  • the artist of choice, she then invited herself along. I didn't mind this but I made sure to tell her that I wanted this to be a weekend with my boyfriend but I
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  • was excited that we both could go. I will admit I thought it was a bit strange since she never really listened to the artist we're going to see but nevertheless I was
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  • hyped. After the artist cancelled the first time, T was over the moon since she wasn't planning on going to the concert when it was originally scheduled. Me on the other hand was bummed
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  • since I've been waiting ages for this artist to go on tour. The reschedule for the concert was at the end of January but once again when the concert was rescheduled my friend T, was over
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  • the end of January but once again when the concert was rescheduled my friend T, was over the moon since once again she wasn't planning on going to the
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  • new rescheduling. At this point, my other friends thought it was weird that T would be so happy that the concert got cancelled. They also started noticing T
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  • laughing and bragging that it got cancelled when I was once again bummed and disappointed. This time around the concert is tomorrow and I have no way of
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  • getting there. When the concert got cancelled for a second time T told me that she is planning on going to the new rescheduling (in march) and that she would be
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  • more then happy to give me a lift (the concert would be held in a city 2-3 hrs from our town). I thought this was very kind of her since it would be a lot cheaper then a train ticket (I just want to
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  • clarify that her aunt would be driving us up there) Fast forward to the beginning of march, I've be constantly double checking with my friend if it was still okay for
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  • her aunt to give me a ride up there and that I'm more than happy to pay for petrol, since it would only be fair of me to do so. However, she has now told me two days before the concert that
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  • I'd have to find my own way up there, as her aunt has work and wouldn't be able to drive us. I was very confused and annoyed so I didn't think too much of it until the next day. I ended up sending her a message stating that I'm
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  • not okay with the fact that she's told me last minute about the concert and how booking a train last minute will cost me close to £90. I feel like this was the wrong decision since she started making digs at me and it seemed like she
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  • didn't want to take accountability for me not being able to go to this concert when I was more excited then her. I ended up talking to a friend about it and
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  • she mentioned that T is still going to the concert but won't admit to who's taking her. This makes me believe that it's her aunt and she never asked if I could get a ride
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  • with them. All I wanted was an apology for making me believe I was able to get a ride when I clearly wasn't
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  • prettypinkpinea NTA. Do you still have the tickets or did you already give your "friend" one of the tickets?
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  • Your friend seems happy to be taking a ticket and getting to this concert they don't really seem to care about but is not happy to help you out. How is your friend getting there? Does she live in the city where the concert is playing?
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  • VeraSultry Nah, you're not overreacting T is moving real op suspicious. Like, why was she celebrating your concert getting canceled like she won the lottery?? And now suddenly her "ride" situation is shady? The math is not
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  • mathing. At this point, it's less about the concert and more about the fact that she clearly doesn't respect you or your time. Drop her and take yourself to a different concert one without fake friends.
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  • Thyres76 NTA. But your really should consider distancing grombthis person. Just her joy about the rescheduling is a major red flag.
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