56-year-old mother "borrows" and ruins 19-year-old daughter's makeup by mixing it together: 'She has a history of using my makeup without asking me and 99% of the time she uses products incorrectly and damages them'

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Apr 5, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Makeup: I won't profess to know much about it, but what I do know is that cosmetics are usually quite pricey and coveted and carefully managed by those who use them. 

At some point in our lives we're going to realize the fallibility of our parents, it's the same fallibility that we ourselves—as people—naturally have within us. And, well, that's just a part of life. Our parents are people who were just people who one day had children, the limitations of their maturity and knowledge don't just automatically expand because they procreated. We all have different interests and strengths, and one day we'll find that we've surpassed them in our own interests and ways.

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    "AITA for refusing to let my mom use my makeup products"

    I (19) did my mom's (56) makeup yesterday for fun. She ended up really liking how I was able to cover up her dark spots and asked me what I used. I told her it was a color corrector that I bought in Korea. She then asked me to explain it to her, because she "wanted to use it from now on too". I went through and explained how each color is meant to "correct" another (basically just told her I used the peachy color to correct her dark spots).
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  • Unfortunately, one thing that a disappointing number of adults, who may also be parents, lack is emotional maturity, emotional awareness, and respect for other people's things. And when your own parents are taking your valued things without asking and ruining them, well that's pretty frustrating.

    This daughter found that her mother, who consistently took her things had taken her makeup and ruined it by mixing it together for some reason, meaning a lot of costly replacements for the teen who had purchased the cosmetics with her own money.

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    She then says "I'm going to use it tomorrow before I leave for church in the morning." I tell her "PLEASE wake me up and have ME put it on you." I was extremely nervous about this because she has a history of using my makeup without asking me and 99% of the time she uses products incorrectly and damages them. So, I told her I'd rather she not use mine at all but if she insisted, to have me there to make sure she doesn't f that I paid for. my products
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    As I'm going to bed, I consider hiding my color corrector before sleeping so that no matter what she won't use it without my supervision. However, I decide to trust her and go to bed. The morning rolls around and I wake up to see her already rummaging through my products in my room. I say "??? Did you already use my color corrector?? || and she says "yeah!"
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    I bolt up and look at it and am horrified to find that she's done everything I was scared she'd do. She didn't know how much of the product to use, so she overshot and now there are two humongous craters in the product. She also MIXED the two colors that are in the product. The green is supposed to counteract redness and the peach is supposed to counteract dark spots-she mixed both together so now the entire product is just this ugly, muddy mess.
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    I asked her why she used it when I explicitly told her 100 times to make sure I was awake and supervising her, and she told me that she tried to wake me up and I didn't respond, so she just went ahead and used it. I said, "if I didn't respond, then you should have PUT IT DOWN???? How am I supposed to use this now??????" And she told me I was overreacting and to hurry up and give her more of my products before she left.
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    I told her to get out of my room and kicked her out. She yelled at me, saying that I was overreacting over nothing and slammed my door on her way out. I spent the morning crying in frustration. It's not like she was asleep while I did her makeup with the color corrector, SHE SAW ME USE IT AND LITERALLY HAD ME EXPLAIN IT. Never once did I even touch the green colored corrector, so why did she
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    go and mix them??? Not to mention, can't she see the product clearly has the color separated into their own sections? You can SEE from the fact there is no mixing that I've used this product intentionally not mixing the colors...SO WHY WOULD SHE THINK THAT IT WOULD BE A GOOD IDEA TO MIX THEM???? AITA and reacting over nothing?
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a hole: 1. Got mad at my mom for using my makeup without permission and kicked her out of my room 2. I could BTA because it's just makeup, she didn't do it with malicious intent, and she technically did try to wake me up
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    ScatterbrainedGen... NTA. She needs to pay you back the cost of everything she ruined (because it sounds like she wouldn't know what to buy to replace it) and unfortunately you're going to have to keep all of your makeup in a bag that stays in your room or somewhere she can't find it. It might help to go to the beauty store together and have an employee there
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    BeeFree66 You need to hide your cosmetics from your mother [of all people]. She clearly doesn't respect your stated boundaries. Treat her like a child cuz she's acting like a child. Hide/lock up your stuff.
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    Liu1845 Two things. Never believe your mother again and always lock up your make up. NTA Tell her she ruined them and make her reimburse you the full cost.
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    creepygirl420 I'm sorry but is your mother an idiot?? I'm trying to understand her thought process here and it makes absolutely no sense... has she never owned makeup in her life? Why on earth would you go and destroy it like that? I have so many questions... NTA
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    Vivid_Ad_895 NTA Yikes, your mom doesn't respect other people's things at all; you offered to do it for her too. Yea nta she needs to learn to respect your stuff and how you want to share it.
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