59-year-old dad demands his daughter pay him back for the child support he contributed over the years, she calls him out on years of neglect: 'He loves to tell me this on days like my birthday'

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Apr 12, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Child support isn't a high-return investment portfolio, but most grown adults are aware of that when they decide to have a child. Knowing the kid is going to be a financial burden instead of an asset, paying to care for your child is a bit of a no-brainer, but the selfish and lazy dad in this next story—a real deadbeat if you ask me—wanted his money back after his daughter grew up. 

Sorry, Dad, but that's not how child support works. 

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  • Truthfully, it's tough to be a good parent. But being a bad parent seems like it requires a conscious effort to be terrible. This man proved to be a bad dad at every turn, neglecting his daughter for her whole life, only to turn up once she was an adult to attempt to retrieve his sunk costs of being a father. Luckily for this young woman, her dad's disgustingness provided her with the clarity to move on, start her own life, and leave behind a lifetime of bad parenting memories. Keep scrolling to read how she plans to put him in his place, decidedly living her life without the guilt of a bad dad on the docket. 

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  • My dad wants me to pay back my child support S I know this is a topic that was already discussed. I'm just looking for advice for a good Comeback.
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  • My dad (59) recently started talking about that know that i'm earning more, that I would be able to pay back the child support he payed over the years. It started small with comments like:
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  • "You are going to need a big income to Pay back the child support" he asked me more than once how much I'm currently earning and always seemed disappointed that I didn't earn more.
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  • He loves to tell me this on days like my birthdays and only when my bf is in the same room/in the car. My relationship to my dad has always been a bit strained. It started when I
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  • turned 18. He wanted to stop my child support even though I was still in school and even though a court made it very clear he was still obligated. He didn't talk to me for 2 years.
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  • I have to say I won't go NC. I'm already LC and most of our contact is initiated by him. I still feel bothered and sometimes even angry when he brings it up, but I'm never able to actually give him a good answer. Usually I try to ignore it or just fake-chuckle.
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  • Do any of you have a good response to that kind of expectation without losing the only family I have left (my only grandma would probably stop talking to me if I go NC).
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  • CosyMam Child support isn't a form of savings account or bond he can get a return on. Not sure there's anything you can say that won't get that deadbeats
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  • back up, if you don't want to rock the boat then don't bother saying anything at least for the rest of your grandmother's life. He's not owed a penny.
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  • jabarney7 Hey dad, child support was you paying for being a not a loan for me to n live father,
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  • glossolalienne He had a legal obligation to pay child support. Tell him the day he shows you the contract you signed agreeing to take on the financial responsibility for
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  • someone else's child, you'll sit down and discuss it with him. Until then, the topic is closed and you won't entertain further harassment or discuss your financial details.
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  • Weary_Molasses_4050 Tell him if he didn't want to support a child, he shouldn't have had kids.
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  • chiitaku Child support isn't paid back. Make sure to lock down your credit so he doesn't try to open a credit card or get a loan in your name.
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  • rojita369 Your dad is an absolute AH. Child support is not something you pay back. He used his and made a child. Child support is what he is required to spend to raise said child. You don't get that money back.
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  • jjme08. "I'll think about that after I finish paying mom back all the money, and time, and attention, and work she did raising me alone."
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  • Master_Meaning_8517 It was not a loan, it was child support dictated by the court. So no, do not pay this back. He isn't your child though he acts like one. Not sure you could say anything to him that won't anger him since he seems unhinged.
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  • sethbr Tell him you never got any child support, he must have paid it to someone else. If he says you have to pay it back anyway, tell him you'll pay it back, but to somebody else too.
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  • Winter-eyed I'd just keep saying that it's illegal to ask children to pay their parents back for the financial obligations they entered into when they made the child. Any judge would laugh you out if court.
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