25-year-old confronts GF for using ChatGPT during their disagreements: 'She needs to stop'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Apr 15, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

When technology is newly introduced to society, it can take some time to adjust to the new etiquette it brings with it. For example: iPads in restaurants. Should kids be permitted to watch their favorite YouTube channels while their parents eat their meals next to them? It's becoming more and more common, even though a lot of folks don't care for this. When iPods first became popular, people brought those everywhere, including listening to their tunes in the classroom. Whenever there's new tech, new etiquette has be created around it. So when it comes to AI technology, which is still in its early years, the respectable uses for it still remain up for debate. 

In general, I think if you can't be bothered to write something, I'm not going to bother to read it. If you can't take the time to write me a text, I'm not going to waste my one short life replying to it. If you won't take the time to make a drawing, messy and imperfect but made by human hands, why would I look at some random nonsense a computer mindlessly cobbled together? Be so serious. Where is your soul? There are plenty of things that can be automated by machines, but outsourcing your conversations and human expressions to machines is a step too far. 

This person is hurt because their girlfriend has brought Chat GPT into their relationship. Naturally, she's gotten the AI to side with her, and it feels like she's making criticisms veiled by the guise of her AI friend. It's quite the conundrum, and you can read all about it below. 

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    "My girlfriend uses Chat GPT every time we have a disagreement. AITAH for saying she needs to stop?"

    My girlfriend uses Chat GPT every time we have a disagreement. AITAH for saying she needs to stop? Me (25) and my girlfriend (28) have been dating for the past 8 months. We've had a couple of big arguments and some smaller disagreements recently. Each time we argue my girlfriend will go away and discuss the argument with chat gpt, even doing so in the same room sometimes.
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    Whenever she does this she'll then come back with a well constructed argument breaking down everything i said or did during our argument. I've explained to her that i don't like her doing so as it can feel like i'm being ambushed with thoughts and opinions from a robot. It's nearly impossible for a human being to remember every small detail and break it down bit by bit but Al has no issue doing SO.
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    Whenever i've voiced my upset i've been told that "chat gpt says you're insecure" or "chat gpt says you don't have the emotional bandwidth to understand what i'm saying". My big issue is it's her formulating the prompts so if she explains that i'm in the wrong, it's going to agree without me having a chance to explain things. Ami the a hle for asking her to stop using chat gpt in this context?
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    Commenters had no patience for the GF's communication style

    [deleted] Respond with ChatGPT until she gets the point.
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    Professional-Ea... Show her how biased it is to the user's input, it's literally programmed to tell you exactly what you want to hear. Discuss her actions with ChatGPT from your perspective and it'll do the exact same thing to her. Show her how it's biased and only serves as an artificial form of self- validation.
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    AppropriateBar... Tell her you consulted with ChatGPT and it told you to break up with her
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    [. This is unhinged Imaooo. I asked chatgpt what it thinks about your post and here is what it said : You're not the a h le for asking your girlfriend to stop. using ChatGPT in this context, especially if it's making you feel uncomfortable or misunderstood. While Al can be helpful for many things, it
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    shouldn't replace genuine, human-to-human conversations that are nuanced, emotional, and require empathy. Additionnal gems from the long a answer : "While Al can provide thoughtful input, it's not a substitute for emotional intelligence and understanding the complexity of relationships."
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    "As you mentioned, the way she frames her prompts affects the advice or feedback she gets. If she primarily explains the situation in a way that favors her side, the response will likely mirror that. This makes it a one-sided tool rather than a fair mediator." "You've communicated that the use of ChatGPT makes you feel overwhelmed or ambushed, and she should
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    respect that. It's reasonable to ask for conversations where both parties engage directly and personally, rather than bringing in external tools that might skew the discussion. "It might also help to suggest alternatives for improving communication, like couples counseling or
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    reading up on conflict resolution strategies together, rather than using Al to take sides."
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    nononomayoo "What does chatgpt think i mean when i say f off and delete my number?"
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    If your GF will outsource her opinions, do the same back to her

    Imaginary_Chair... The obvious answer is to respond with your own ChatGPT arguments. Let the bots fight it out.
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    ShadowShedinja Calls you insecure but can't form her own arguments lol.
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    Grandmapatty64 Refuse to interact with her when she comes back after consulting ChatGPT to argue with you. Tell her when she wants to speak for herself you'll entertain her arguments, but not an Al is making them for her. You deserve more respect than that.
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