Entitled woman loses it at her friend's wedding after she wasn't asked to be a bridesmaid: 'Am I supposed to sit there with you and sulk at my own wedding?'

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Apr 25, 2025 8:00 AM EDT

At every wedding, one guest has the power to ruin the whole event. Perhaps they have beef with the bride and groom and want to air some dirty laundry just for the fun of it. Or perhaps they cannot let go of their unrequited feelings for one of the two people getting married and have come to regret their decision to show up on the big day. Or perhaps this one problematic guest is in a similar situation to this entitled so-called "friend," who was infuriated at not being asked to be a bridesmaid.

Here's the deal. There are definitely ways of delicately handling how you choose the people in your wedding party. The bride in this scenario may have been avoiding confrontation; that being said, she most certainly did not deserve the treatment she received from this childish adult on the wedding day. Keep scrolling below for the full account of the saga, along with the wildly passive-aggressive text messages they sent one another following the event!

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  • It sounds like Dolores is the kind of insecure person who cannot remove her own experience from situations that are ultimately not about her at all. Sure, it's an awkward situation when someone within a friend group is left out of a bridal party, but in every wedding, difficult decisions need to be made and people really shouldn't take them personally. It's not like she wasn't invited at all!

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    I (27 F) just got married to my husband, Charlie, (27 M). My bridesmaids were all family except my closest friend, Annabelle (25 F) who is also dating my husband's best man Hal (27 M). My husband also had his friend Diego (25 M) as a groomsmen. Diego's girlfriend,
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    Dolores (25 F) is also a part of our friend group but we've never hang out with her without the boys. Dolores is not a bridesmaid but isn't the only person in our friend group to not be included.
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    My maid of honor, best friend, and Charlie's sister, Bailey (21F) also has a serious boyfriend who was not a groomsman. Dolores craves attention and is a pick me girl. Whenever Annabelle & I are getting ready and doing our makeup Dolores insists on hanging out with the boys then
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    complains about being "left out" or not a "top friend" of the group. We're in our mid to late 20s of course we don't have a hierarchy in our group but Annabelle & I are closer because we've known each other longer, have more common interests, and spend more time together.
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    Dolores and Diego got engaged 2 weeks before our wedding and bought a house so they had a housewarming party. This was the end of March and I hadn't seen them since November. We
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    are discussing plans for the rehearsal dinner because the wedding weekend is around an hour away from where we live (even closer for Diego and Dolores). The wedding party had accommodations for Friday night.
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    and Dolores is asking Annabelle if she wants to get a hotel room together on Friday. Annabelle kind of looks at me and tells Dolores she's a bridesmaid and I explain how it's mostly family but one of my cousins couldn't be a bridesmaid because she was pregnant and Annabelle said she'd fill in. This was a lie,
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    everyone but Dolores knew Annabelle was going to be a bridesmaid the whole time. I shouldn't have lied but I knew she would have a dramatic reaction so I delayed the inevitable by telling her my bridal party was all family. She seems upset Annabelle is a bridesmaid but we continue on with the party like nothing is wrong.
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    I don't hear from Dolores but Diego starts texting Charlie about how Dolores feels left out. Diego tells Charlie he isn't able to stay the night on Friday which makes Charlie upset but he doesn't want
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    to get in between Diego's relationship with Dolores. Dolores is also texting Annabelle planning her bachelorette party which I don't care but it definitely feels like petty behavior. I pretend I don't know about any of this because I don't want to feed into the drama of it all. Plus Diego told
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    Charlie that I shouldn't reach out to Dolores because she will say she doesn't want to be included and she would get upset.
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    The wedding is here and on Friday night, the rehearsal dinner I hear nothing from Diego and Dolores. They RSVP'd yes to my mom but didn't show. Diego mentioned to Charlie that he might not be able to make it because of their dog. This was
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    really ride to my parents who paid for them to attend the dinner and they didn't even let them know they wouldn't be attending. It was also ride for Diego to not show up to the rehearsal when Charlie really needed his support as a groomsman. I find it ride but I'm generally unbothered and enjoyed my night with my family and friends.
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    On the day of the wedding Diego and Dolores show up to the venue with the other groomsmen. I did not see Dolores but while my bridesmaids & I were taking photos my bridesmaids saw her
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    and said she was sitting outside with a bad attitude glaring at us while we took pictures. My cousin said she wanted to go over there and yell at her it was so r /distracting. I didn't let it
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    bother me but her horrible behavior continued. Charlie & I went around to say hi to everyone at the reception and when I approached Dolores and Diego you could tell Dolores was MAD. I
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    was super friendly and told her how excited I was and happy that they were there. She wasn't very friendly or approachable but she didn't make any outbursts or anything. As the night went on Charlie & I were enjoying ourselves drinking & dancing
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    while Dolores and Diego sat in the corner by themselves. We had plenty of friends dancing with us and there was plenty of room for more people to join. At one point Annabelle invited Dolores to take a shot and Dolores responded no because she already felt left out and she shouldn't have come. Diego and
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    Dolores left the reception super early (the reception was only like an hour and a half and they left after maybe 30 minutes) they only said bye to Charlie and did not speak to me. I enjoyed the rest of my night and I wasn't going to say anything about this. I
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    was going to let it blow over because I didn't feel I did anything wrong and I wasn't going to feed into Dolores' obvious attention seeking behavior. I was bothered by her behavior and how it affected Diego's involvement in Charlie's wedding but that wasn't something I was going to address. However, I got a text
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    message from Dolores the Thursday after our wedding bringing everything up and trying to place blame on me. This is when I got really irritated. I don't think I should have to explain my choices in bridesmaids and I shouldn't have to worry about one person's feelings on my wedding day. The text she sent
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    was really playing the victim and I felt that was super unfair. Again, I wasn't going to call her out for not acting happy on our wedding day but for her to come at me was really infuriating. I understand her feeling left out
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    but in my opinion that's something you keep to yourself or approach it in a COMPLETELY different way. It feels like she didn't get the attention she wanted from acting like a brat during the wedding so she just HAD TO text me about it so I would give her the response she wanted. I feel like I am too old for this drama and I don't need these
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    type of people in my life. I do my best to be kind to people and show empathy. While I never said/did anything r de I am fed up at this point. This isn't the first time she's acted like this and if I didn't say anything or if I apologized she would continue acting like this.
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    So am I the ah le? Should I have had Dolores in my bridal party? Should I have done something to make Dolores feel more welcomed or included? Was her text justified? Was I too harsh on her over text?
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    TLDR: girl I'm not that close with assumed she was a bridesmaid, pitched a fit on my wedding day then texted me trying to make me feel guilty
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    1:181 . 5G 16 D Dolores Hey girl! First off, huge congratulations to you and Charlie on your marriage - I'm genuinely nappy for you both and truly wish you a lifetime of love and happiness. I've been sitting with some feelings since the housewarming, and I didn't want to bring it up before or during the wedding out of respect for you both. But now that things have settled, I just want to be honest about how I've been feeling. - - and I don't have a big circle of friends that's partly because whe
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    What hurt me most wasn't that I wasn't asked to be a bridesmaid - I understand things come up, plans change, and your mom had a big role in the planning. What hurt was how excluded I felt from the Anna moment belle told me she was added last minute. That conversation didn't come from you, someone I truly considered to be an unconditional friend, and that stung more than anything. It felt like our friendship didn't matter enough for you to just be upfront with me. If it were the other way around,
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  • And now for the moment you've been waiting for… the essay-long text exchanges between these two ladies just days after the wedding. Too bad this bride will always have to carry this silly drama with her as she recalls her wedding.

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    16 D Dolores If it were the other way around, I know in my heart I would've made sure you felt included, no matter the circumstances. I would've had that conversation with you out of respect and love. Even just a message saying, "Hey, this came up and I wanted you to hear it from me," would've made all the difference. And being at the wedding, watching enjoy time with his friends, and seeing the girls and you take shots and laugh together and be there for your special day while I sat alone in th
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    + Thursday 5:04 PM Hey, I'm going to be honest I'm not sure how you've "shown up" for me as a friend considering you dont text me to check in, the reason I asked AB is because she was constantly there asking how wedding things were going. I didn't want this to be some personal thing against you and I think it's immature that you're taking it that way. I never purposefully excluded you and I was iMessage
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    16 1:191 .5GW D Dolores Hey, I'm going to be honest I'm not sure how you've "shown up" for me as a friend considering you dont text me to check in, the reason I asked AB is because she was constantly there asking how wedding things were going. I didn't want this to be some personal thing against you and I think it's immature that you're taking it that way. I never purposefully excluded you and I was never mean. I didn't not invite you to the wedding or say you couldn't dance with me, you exclude
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    The reason I didn't tell you is because Im not going to call you and tell you aren't a bridesmaid, that would have been really ride and would probably make someone feel more left out. I didn't call my friends that I've had since I was 5 and tell them they're not bridesmaids. Typically people don't assume they are bridesmaids until they are asked to be one. The conversation naturally came up and I told you. + iMessage
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    16 D Dolores I'm going to be honest I didn't even know you came to the wedding early. Again, I was super busy, I didn't have my phone, and I literally never saw you. A real friend would've come up & said hello and if you did I would've loved to have you in photos! With that being said you were one of the first people I talked to at the reception and I was super excited to see you, I told you how excited I was to have yall there. You weren't very approachable and you never tried to approach me. A
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    I also have to mention how disappointing it was for you to affect Diego's involvement in the wedding. I understand you were upset but making Diego feel like he couldn't go to the rehearsal dinner (which you were also invited to), was extremely selfish, immature and wrong. Not to mention you both RSVP'd yes and just didn't show. You didn't text me to tell me. It's just ride and disrespectful to Charlie and my family. I understand you don't care about my family lol but if you were really a friend
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    16 1:191 .Ill 5GW D Dolores I also have to mention how disappointing it was for you to affect Diego's involvement in the wedding. I understand you were upset but making Diego feel like he couldn't go to the rehearsal dinner (which you were also invited to), was extremely selfish, immature and wrong. Not to mention you both RSVP'd yes and just didn't show. You didn't text me to tell me. It's just ride and disrespectful to Charlie and my family. I understand you don't care about my family lol but
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    With all this being said I think it's really messed up to send me this text and act like I am at fault and you did nothing wrong. This behavior is really messed up, I never did anything deliberately mean to you. At the end of the day, it was my wedding and it's not about you. The decisions I made were my decisions and you can make your own decisions when you have your wedding. I will respect those decisions and not have a bad attitude because your wedding is not about me. Once again this had not
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    1:191 16 D Dolores Once again this had nothing to do with being a bridesmaid. I understood from the start that you were picking family and even if that wouldn't have been the case and I wasn't chosen by choice I completely respect that. The not reaching out to you and stuff was simply because I already figured you had a lot going on and me personally I am terrible at texting and figure I wouldn't bother you or even stress you out further on asking you how everything was. 5GW
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    Secondly my feelings towards the situation had nothing to do with going to rehearsal or not. We simply couldn't find anyone to watch cooper and had to stay. Why didn't I reach out about not being able to go? Because Diego had addressed that with Charlie already, I wasn't aware I had to reach out to you as well. It was never meant to disrespect you or your family because I do value the friendship and what your family has done for us. And just to leave this as it is, I simply wanted to reach out a
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    + I do wish you and Charlie the best. Like I said I care about our friendship which is why I felt like addressing this with you after was the best solution. Sorry if in any sort of way I caused tension or annoyance, but you should know me by now that is not who I am. iMessage 11/11
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