Father chooses new wife's mother over his 17-year-old daughter, wife's family bombards her with angry messages when she blocks him: "Never contact me again"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
May 3, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Family is one of the most influential and important things in our lives. We all have a family, there's no denying the significance of them, even if we don't feel close to them. For those who grow up close to one or both of their parents, it's not something that everyone experiences. Things get even harder when your parents get divorced. Watching the downfall of your parent's love, relationship, and marriage is scarring for a child. There's no getting over it, not fully at least. It will always be a tender point, and will greatly affect how they perceive relationships. It will have a direct effect on the partners they choose, and how they behave in a relationship. No  one wants to deal with their parents in that way, especially when one is a teenager. Being a teen is hard enough without the octopus balancing of your parents' burdens. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a teenager whose parents are divorced. She's put in a situation where she has to transfer all her things from house to house every single week. Eventually things get complicated, and she makes the decision to block him based on his actions towards her. Read the full story for all the juicy details. 

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  • 01
    Hi everyone, I (17F) am only really posting this since my dad's family and even my mom are telling me that I'm in the wrong.
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  • 02
    My parents got divorced when I was 12 and they had 50/50 custody so I would stay with my dad for a week then my mom. When I was 14 my dad got married to my stepmom (I refer to her as his wife) and I would only see them on the weekends until they moved and I only saw them whenever they visited (my mom got full custody)
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  • 03
    Anyways last month they moved back to our city and got a 2 bedroom house, my dad had promised me the room before he moved back and told me he could do 50/50 again if me and my mom were okay with it and we were. I was so excited and even picked out furniture and bought stuff to decorate it.
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  • 04
    Anyways they move into the house and invite me, they give me a tour and show me my "room", I asked when I could start putting things in it and that's when they told me that they were actually going to give the room to his wife's mom, and since I was going away to college soon, it wasn't like I was going to use the room much.
    via u/imjustapickl3
  • 05
    They also told me that instead of staying the full week that I can go on the weekends and sleep on their couch if I wanted to. I said no to that and texted my mom to pick me up. It's been a month and I ghosted my dad fully, he even came to try to talk to me but I was at school, he's been contacting my mom too which he hates doing.
    via u/imjustapickl3
  • 06

    AITAH for telling my dad to never contact me again after he chose his wife’s mom over me?

    "I didn't expect them to go after my mom"
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  • 07
    So I just decided that I didn't want to be in his life anymore or have him in mine, even though I barely did. I talked to my mom and for someone who hates my dad, she told me that I should just talk to him and spend time with him since I barely got to for 2 years.
    via u/imjustapickl3
  • 08
    I just decided to cut him off, it sounds impulsive I know but I sent him a long message detailing how emotionally neglected and unwanted he made me feel and to never contact me again. I blocked him and blocked his side of the family.
    via u/imjustapickl3
  • 09
    In the morning my mom woke me up at 5am and asked what I did, almost my dads entire family have been blowing up her phone asking what she said/did that made me want to cut off my dad.
    via u/imjustapickl3
  • 10
    During school I even got a few messages from my cousins on insta that I forgot to block insulting me. My mom showed me some of the messages and some are insulting both of us.
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  • 11
    My dad even sent a message apologizing to me and said I broke his heart, his wife is sending disgusting messages towards my mom. I feel awful because I didn't expect them to attack not only me but my mom, harshly at that. I feel like I messed up and want to know if what I did was the right thing.
    via u/imjustapickl3
  • 12
    SMALL UPDATE: My mom talked to my dad and set up a time to talk tomorrow after school, my mom's making me talk to him and reconcile but I really don't want to.
    via u/imjustapickl3
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  • 14
    I'm trying to convince her not to force me to go but she's threatening to take away my phone/laptop that I need for school and other things. I'll update you guys tomorrow.
    via u/imjustapickl3
  • 15
    Present-Duck4273 Unblock him temporarily to let him know that his family and wife harassing you and your mom is exactly why you want no contact with any of them. He continues to take no accountability for his own
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  • 16
    actions and blame you and your mom instead. Tell him your mom is against your decision, but his family's attack has reassured you that you made the right decision. I would even send screenshots of messages. Ask him to call off his family and nasty wife.
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    That for now you stand by your decision and that maybe in the future you will change your mind, but if it continues it will only drive you further from him.
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  • 18
    At that point you can either leave him unblocked to get a response or re-block.
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  • 19
    Sparkig1rl This is not ok, you're NTA. Your dad took away your room to give to his wife's mother and then said you can sleep on the couch?v how often does her mom visit? He barely saw you or made any effort why keep emotionally
    via u/Sparkig1rl
  • 20
    damaging yourself? I'd tell his family well he chose his wife over me years ago I guess I shouldn't be surprised he chose her mother over me too, I decided I don't deserve to be treated as an old sweater only useful when he needs me.
    via u/Sparkig1rl
  • 21
    runiechica NTA you feel how you feel and that's ok. Your dad did betray you and expected you to just accept it. And even if something had to change the way they told you was awful.
    via u/runiechica
  • 22
    Pers... As a minor, those messages might be enough to show harassment and might be worth notification to CPS/police to get the harassment to stop. A _ _⠀⠀!, will usually stop if someone
    via u/Personal-Y
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    with some authority makes it uncomfortable for them. CPS is a big stick. Especially if they have other kiddos .
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  • 25
    Boggers111 Your dad chose his wife's mum over you. That was his choice and you chose to block your so called father.
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  • 26
    He chose an almost stranger over his own flesh and b__d. F I him and his wife. NTA.
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  • 27
    curiousity60 ΝΤΑ Your dad has not prioritized his being a parent to you since he remarried. Now that he's moved closer and promised you a place in his home, he suddenly reneged.
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  • 28
    He promised you 50/50 time with both parents. Then downgraded to "you can visit occasionally and sleep on the couch." Your feelings of betrayal and of being devalued are valid and grounded in reality.
    via u/curiousity60
  • 29
    His designating the only other. bedroom to his MIL is secondary, though also painful. He has a duty of care for you as a parent that he has neglected and abdicated to your mom, who has consistently cared for you. He is a selfish deceitful man and a neglectful bad parent.
    via u/curiousity60
  • 30
    It's not just that he gave away your space in his home to MIL. It's that this is the most recent in a history of neglect and absence.
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