Employee's dating profile found by nosy coworker, he refuses to stop giving her unsolicited dating and beauty advice: "It wasn't funny the first time, and definitely wasn't the second, third, or fourth time"

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    Coworker found on dating app and won't let go do do?

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    I am a female that works in a primarily male dominated field. I truly love my job, it's probably the best one I've had by far. Here's the coworker issue: one of my coworkers found me on a dating app. Well, he said his brother found me and asked him if he
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    worked with me, due to my specification of the industry I worked in/my location. I wasn't working the day he made this discovery. Upon finding out I was on said dating app, he made it a point to let EVERYONE know I was. I found it odd. Why should he or anyone else care? I then realized it was in a II
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    she's desperate" fashion. Not only is the workplace and field in general male dominated, but I am more than 20 years younger than the majority of my coworkers- with the exception of the guy who spread the info and a couple others.
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    I didn't care initially, I presumed it would blow over; but it indeed has not. He and a few others bring it up in a mocking or teasing way quite regularly. It really wasn't funny the first time, and it definitely wasn't
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    the second, third, or fourth time. I want to highlight that the intention does not feel playful, but instead is delivered in a very demeaning way. I will occasionally get unsolicited advice on my appearance from the same coworker.
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    I'm looking for advice on what I can do in this situation without turning it into an HR fiasco. I only plan to stay at this job until mid 2026. I want to make my next year enjoyable. What should I say next time he or another coworker brings it up? Something that will really embarrass them perhaps? Any advice is appreciated, thanks.
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    BarcelonaBarbie A simple "What on my profile made you realize I would never go out with you?" Should do the trick.
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    Poundaflesh OUCH! Say it loudly in front of others.
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    Obi Wan Combover It's a great zinger but I honestly wouldn't go this way if you want to de-escalate and have an enjoyable work environment.
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    jessicadepressica HR. This is so weird. Being on a dating app isn't revolutionary, they're being creepy or buying you. Also, he himself definitely found you.
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    MyDaroga So weird! I've found co-workers on dating apps before, but I just kept on moving. The point I find weird is that if someone saw you on a dating app, they're also on a dating app. Are you going to shame me for the thing you're also doing?
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    HereForTheDrama280 That's why he pretended it was his brother who found her, to save face.
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    bellj1210 i have too- and a sinlge time it happened, i asked the woman out instead of going through the app.... and was told no.
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    Angsty_Potatos This is the exact thing you turn into an hr fiasco
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    Shaunzerita "You're really fixated on my dating life huh". Orrr puzzled look/you're pathetic/sardonic smile look after every remark. Mostly just ignore though
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    evan_appendigaster This is my strategy in these situations. Make it apparent that his issue is his, and that it's weird.
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    Extreme-Shower-2639 I'd say something like 'what a strange thing to focus on' followed by a very long pause and a piercing look at whoever mentions it. Or just stare at the person saying nothing no matter what they try to say, or if
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    they try to laugh it off. Dare to take up space silently gazing in judgment of them. They want you to feel uncomfortable, f that. Let them know you are not bothered. you see them for exactly what they are and you will not tolerate that.
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    GregOreoGoneWild "Does your wife/girlfriend know you're so interested in my dating life?" If they say they don't have one, "wow, I wonder why."
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    Morticia_Marie Also he's the one turning it into an hr fiasco, not her. He's the grown man who doesn't know enough not to pull career-ruiningly stupid bulls like this.

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