“You can’t keep telling us what to do”: 35-year-old man puts new entitled 25-year-old female coworker in her place after she demands they change the entire office rules for her, causing HR stir

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    AITAH for telling my new work colleague that she has no right to control our office habit?

    "She accused me of hating women" 0999
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    I 35M have been working in this office for 3y. We recently hired a new girl 25F and she sits diagonally in front of me so I can see her at my desk and vice versa. We are around 1m apart. She has been working for 3 weeks and has been trying to control our office habit based on her liking.
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    Here are the issues that has been happening and what triggered me to do what I did: 1. I have an unhealthy eating habit and snacking a lot during work. She mentioned twice (jokingly) said how I tempted her for eating cakes. and how can I stay skinny even though I eat like pigs. I
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    offered her some, she refused saying she's trying to lose weight.
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    Fine, I stopped snacking on my desk, but my other colleagues and I still have lunch at desk when we are quite busy. Then by the end of the first week, she reported to HR and say people should not have lunch or eat at desk because it can be unhygienic and the crumbs might fell into keyboard etc and
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    attract bugs. She also mentioned how she was annoyed by me eating ice cream, cakes, bread etc during work hours and it disturb her because she's trying hard to lose weight.
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    So HR sent us all emails and now everyone in the office, EVERYONE can no longer eat anything on our desk.
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    2. On her second day, She complained that the girl sits next to her (Jane) was using a very strong perfume and the scent nauseated her. Jane did wear strong perfume indeed but it wasn't that horrible. All of us could tolerate Jane and suddenly because this new girl couldn't tolerate her and Jane was the one that has to change.
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    3. Between our team, 6 of us collect $10 weekly to buy lottery. One of the guy in our team is Muslim and he doesn't gamble, so he never participated but yet he never discouraged or criticised us. We offered this girl to join us and she criticised us about how gambling is bad and say it's very unprofessional to be collecting money to gamble
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    in office environment. She actually brought this to HR, arguing the harm and risk and if we happen to win millions of Dollars and did massive exodus, it would be harmful for the company. Luckily HR didn't do anything about it.
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    4. The Muslim guy prays twice a day in our stationery room. Unfortunately we don't have praying room in the office. He has got his praying mat and some other stuff in our stationery room and it has been there since I start working. She suggested him to move it somehwere as he shouldn't
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    put personal belongings in a common area. She told the other girl in our team that the old mat was not pleasant to look at.
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    Ok. What happened today: Our desks layout is shaped like L and my desk is next to a glass window. In our team, there are 7 people exlcuding her, and all of us are sun hater. We always pull down the shade and especially the guys sitting on the other corner. They said if the window is opened, the sun would glare on their computer
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    screen in the afternoon and making them can't see their screen very well. This girl has been complaining how our corner is too dark and gives bad vibes and she needs to have the shades opened up. She mentioned how the sun will makes people happier and increase productivity.
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    I couldn't stand her anymore so I stood up from my desk and say (I didn't yell): "Look (insert her name), you have been here for less than a month but you keep telling us what to do. We have been changing our habit to accomodate you but then you keep pushing things. You can't keep telling us what to do. I think
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    the best thing is for you to move to sit where the HR people sits because it's always bright there and you are closer with them than to us anyway."
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    She then said I hate women and I'm bu ying her and she is telling our manager and HR about this. Am I the AH here? Did I bu y her? Is it acceptable for new hire to tell older colleagues to do these things??
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    engineeringlove NTA but I would talk to the others and collectively notify HR
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    Curious_Bookworm21 NTA. I would never normally suggest this, but since she went there first: go to HR and report that she called you a pig. That's the one thing here that could get her in trouble, because technically that was buying. Otherwise, good luck. She sounds horrible.
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    Humble_Finish4682 NTA - Borderline workplace harassment. Go tell HR that she's creating a hostile work environment with all her comments, and behaviors. See if they do anything. If they don't escalate it if you can.
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    Ataru074 I would weaponize her criticism of the prayer mat as discrimination and get HR to lubricate the catapult.
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    TooTallBrawl1919 NTA. She'll be the cause of a max exodus. Your coworker needs to get over herself. Time for the rest of you to go to HR about her

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