41-year-old woman tries to force her boyfriend’s aunt into financial settlement with her boss, boyfriend refuses, only to find out the boss was never involved: “Is there an angle or something?”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
May 11, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

Relationships are never easy. Amongst fights, quarrels, jealousy, infidelity, and an assortment of other problems that can go on they can be an absolute nightmare. It's always easier in a way to stay single, at least when you're young. You don't have to apologize to anyone, no one has to perceive you, you don't need to explain yourself, or make things work. You're just living your life, however you want to live it. No one can accuse you of anything, you are a free agent who can do more or less what they want. 

In relationships, it's a constant battle. Even in the best of times there's tons more communication at the very least. Your heart is always exposed, your life is heavier, and even when you love them dearly, there's going to be pain on both ends. You will cause them pain, and they will cause you pain, it's just inevitable. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a man who thought he was at a good point with his girlfriend. That is until finances and coercion involve themselves in the relationship in ways they shouldn't have. Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    AITAH girlfriend was pressuring me to talk to my family about investing with her employer

    "I'm not comfortable continuing the relationship right now"
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    Hello everyone! Recently, my girlfriend (41f) and I (40m) had a major argument. For context, she works for a personal wealth management team within a major investment bank.
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  • This woman is being persistent to an alarming degree. Her boyfriend has told her several times that he doesn't need her help, and that his aunt is just fine. It's disrespectful, as well as strange to insist. It feels like cajoling or coercing in some form. He has every right to break up with her. 

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    I am a very open person with personal relationships and we had been together for only about a year, but the relationship seemed strong and I felt it had some legs. I went to her house one Saturday afternoon and arrived later than anticipated (I called and said I was
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    running late). When I arrived, I apologized and let her know why I was late-my aunt had called and wanted to discuss/clue me in/be candid that she had grown unhappy with the long-term financial advisory team who manages a trust established by her husband (my uncle-she is my aunt
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    by marriage), of which I am a beneficiary. She is the executor. Hence, the call to discuss things. Wasn't a problem and girlfriend wasn't mad I was two hours late.
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    Later the following week, she sent me a text asking if my aunt had taken any action. I said "no, she is exploring options and meeting with people as far as I know."
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    A few hours passed and she texted me again. This time asking if my aunt would be interested in meeting with her boss. I thanked her for the consideration but that I don't feel comfortable suggesting it and "crossing the streams". She
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    seemed to understand and I wasn't upset―it was just a passive ask and I even felt it was nice of her to try and help out by offering.
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    That weekend I went over to her house again and as I was preparing dinner, she brought up that if the personal connection was as a concern, her friend works on a different team and she wouldn't be involved in any direct way. I said "no thank you. I don't think that
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    fixes the hesitancy because there is still a personal association there and i am not involved in the management of the whole thing I my input isn't needed." I was friends with her friend as well. Rather, friendly with and we got along and such.
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    A few days later, I get another text about this while I was at work. This time saying, "I talked to [friend] and her and her boss are really excited to meet your aunt—would she be willing to meet for dinner?" | said something akin to, "no, I don't think she would want to and I don't feel comfortable asking. Can we
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    please not talk about this again? I'm not involved in any of that and I would like to stay in my own lane. I'm not sure why you talked about this with [friend] because I said I wasn't doing this the other night?”
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    Went over for dinner and to stay the night following day, and we ended up getting into in argument about it. I told her that I felt like I wasn't being heard and she got defensive saying she was just trying to help. I felt bad because she seemed downtrodden about it so I decided to shoot her friend a
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    text and just let her know that I appreciated the willingness. Then explained why (same reasons as mentioned prior). Her response was: "hey, I am not sure what you are talking about? I haven't heard anything about this?"
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    That kinda bugged me-girlfriend has told me about this person's excitement to meet aunt and all that. So, I told girlfriend that I had texted and that her friend didn't know what I was talking about. We
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    ended up getting into an argument and in the moment I asked if there was an angle or something, why she told me about the friend when that was not true, and told her I that should go home and cool down. I did. I thought about it for a a few days and I just couldn't really work it all out in my head—it didn't add up to and I felt uncomfortable.
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    So, I asked her to talk and we got together and I told her that I am not comfortable continuing the relationship right now and we can take a pause and think about things and talk it through later or we can just end things here-but either way I wasn't comfortable currently and I didn't think think we could have the open conversation
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    Iwe need to have to make this work at that time. Staying together without a resolution is wouldn't work and we need to resolve things before we continue because as I said, "I'm really confused about basically all of it.”
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    She was DEVASTATED. Absolutely. To the degree I certainly felt/feel like cr p.
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    Tell me, did I grossly overreact to the situation? AITAH?
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    Update: thanks everyone! I feel a lot better about everything and I feel good about my actions in general. At least, more positive. I hate causing people pain in general and I'm glad that it seems people agree that I wasn't out of line. Thanks again.
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    OldGmaw2023 Ok.. you found out that she lied to you After she kept pushing for you to get aunt to use 'her' company
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    Saying the 'friend & her boss' were excited to talk with your aunt about a trust that> You are the beneficiary
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    Sounds like 'she' wants to be watching over Your Money she waved the Red flag Stay away
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    Lucky-Effective-1564 What money does she get bringing in new business?
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    Civil Environment858 NTA and you did not overreact. I get her job does. cross personal boundaries but the second you said no she should have backed off. She values her professional life at the cost of her personal life.
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    There's nothing wrong with that if that's what she wants... but it should not be at the expense of other people. She even straight up lied to your face. I think she wanted to know how much money you are going to get. You dodged a bullet. Move on and don't
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    talk about expected inheritances with anyone unless you are writing a prenup.
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    thexshameless4711 no no no NTA, that was a clear lie on her side, you couldn't sum up everything because there were parts missing.
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    although it did feel like you were being pressured in as well, I kind of had the same situation, you did the right thing.
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