"Say goodbye to meeting your first grandchild": 28-year-old son vows to keep future grandchildren away from his mother if she doesn't end friendship with his ex-girlfriend, Adriana, after her constant attempts to sabotage his life

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
Jul 27, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

Trying to make new friends as an adult can have you wishing you were a kid again; it was just so much easier back then. You either made friends with the kids you saw every single day at school, or you went up to someone at the park and commented on their Strawberry Shortcake t-shirt, and boom – an unbreakable bond for life! The truth is, it's still possible to make a new lifelong bestie no matter your age. You might meet them while carpooling your kids to school, in line at the grocery store during a last-minute Target run, or through a family member. 

In our story today, a mom makes a new friend when her adult son gets a girlfriend; their bestie bond proves to be so strong that they still continue hanging out well after the messy breakup. Years later, it's pretty clear to everyone but our protagonist's mom that his ex-girlfriend is using the "friendship" as an excuse to continue meddling in his life. 

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    AITAH for threatening to ban my mother from my wedding and meeting her grandchild if she doesn't cut off my ex-girlfriend?

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    I 28M am marrying my current Fiancée Maddy, 24F this November and we're expecting our first son in February. Prior to my current partner, I dated my ex- girlfriend Adriana 29F for 5 years. Things did not end well with my last relationship.
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    She was upset that I was taking too long to marry her and upset that I wanted to make a career change when it turned out I hated my career that I was starting in
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    human resources. Two and a half years ago, she broke up with me despite me telling her that I was close to getting ready to propose to her, I just wanted to finish my school for my new career in healthcare and then I would be ready.
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    It tore me up for long time, especially since over the time we were together she got very close to my family, particularly my mom. That meant I couldn't even get away from her at some family events.
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    Two years ago I met Maddy at a work function and we hit it off immediately. We moved in within six months of knowing each other, I had proposed by a
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    year since I had achieved the career track I wanted, and a couple of months ago we found out she was pregnant. I couldn't be happier with how things have turned out for me recently.
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    Adriana, learning about how fast things went with Maddy, went ballistic. She called me and said I was a sh who used her and led her on, and said
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    many vile things to me. She started saying awful things about me to any mutuals who could listen, and even started leaving negative reviews at the hospital I work at naming me by name.
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    Those eventually got taken down, but it was incredibly embarrassing. I spoke with a lawyer to see what my options. were, but he said I didn't have many options for relief. Last week, after having
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    my mom's birthday party. At that party, she happened to "accidentally" spill a drink on my fiancée, and during a speech about my mother, she sniped at me saying "I love this wonderful woman,
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    and am glad she gave birth to 3 wonderful children" while glaring at me (My mom had 4 kids). When she was leaving, she also "accidentally" dinged my car with her driver side door.
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    After she left, I sat down with my mother and said that my ex was making my life harder for no reason, listed the things I mentioned above and asked her to not invite her to events anymore. She
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    pushed back saying that Adriana was a decent friend to her and she likes Adriana's mother a lot so it would be difficult for her to cut her off. I said that I understand that, but I am asking as her
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    son to support me when somebody is mistreating me. She said we'd talk about it further. Yesterday, I found out that Adriana was coming to my youngest brother's track tournament.
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  • I don't think this girl eats or sleeps; she is completely subsisting off of her own jealousy and rage. 

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    I called my mom and asked her to uninvite Adriana. She said she couldn't. I said "Let me make this more clear for you then. If you are saying yes to her, you are saying no to me. If you decide to
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    support her in this, you can consider yourself uninvited to my wedding, and not a part of the family I am building. You can also say goodbye to meeting your first grandchild". She called me mean and cold, I said I am about this.
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    The fallout from this has been more than I was expecting. Adriana went nuts when my mom cut her off, and I got a bunch of mutuals saying I was a massive for
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    destroying the relationship between my mom and Adriana. My mom is pretty upset with me, but I know she'll eventually come around. My fiancée is
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    happy that I am standing up for her and us. My question is: Did I go too far? Am I the a hole for threatening to cut off my mom if she didn't cut off Adriana?
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  • I can't help but feel kind of sad for our protagonist's mother. She seems to think she has a genuine friendship with the girl. Meanwhile, she is just being used by her to continue causing chaos.

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    theworldisonfire8377 NTA, and it wouldn't surprise me if 1) Adriana thought she still had a chance of getting back with you and 2) if your mother was feeding her information and encouraging it.
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    NotTheBadOne IMO Adriana is ONLY continuing to be friends with the mother in order to keep tabs on OP... AND to cause as much trouble as possible.
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    Soft Pulse_4650 Dude, NTA. Who your mom chills with is her biz, but when it starts messing with your life, lines gotta be drawn. Adriana sounds like she's running the psycho ex
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    playbook, page by page. Mom's gotta choose. It ain't about destroying a relationship man, it's about protecting your fam. She'll come round. Good on ya for standing up for your lady and your kiddo. Keep that up, bro.
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    Tasty Doughnut_9226 Nta at all, but I'd not believe that will be the end of it and I would suggest that your mum not have your child alone, because she'd introduce her to your ex.
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    Civil-Clue-7129 Your mum and Adriana are idiots, let them be together and uninvite them from your wedding. If this keeps going, then go NC.
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    miyuki_m NTA. Adriana's behavior is unhinged, and your mother should have cut her off the moment she tried to get you fired. The fact that you had to threaten to cut her off is deeply disappointing. She owes you an apology for that.
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