‘That felt like a betrayal’: Woman calls off wedding and relationship after her ex-fiancé lies about his finances and claims he'd contribute 70% of their wedding costs, only to contribute nothing

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
May 17, 2025 9:00 PM EDT

Not everything is about money. Both women and men can be the breadwinners in their respective relationships—it's 2025, the man doesn't need to be a millionaire for us women to be satisfied and content. However, it's important that trust is the foundation of a relationship. If you were told you were getting into a relationship with a hotshot lawyer, you'd take them at their word because, well, why would your partner lie to you about something a important as their career and finances? Lying about something with that much weight only fosters distrust and disloyalty, which then leaves you with the perfect conditions for an impending breakup.

In this next story, a woman decides to cut her then-fiancé loose after he lies about contributing over half of the money for their wedding costs. He refused to be honest with her about his financial situation, which has led her to realize that his outright lies might only be the beginning of a long life of wondering if he's telling the truth. Scroll below to read the full story.

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  • The woman took him at his word—there is nothing wrong with trusting a partner. It was wrong that he chose to hyperbolize his financial situation, and for what? It exploded in his face. Even after all of this, the woman's parents insist she go along with the wedding because the ex-couple already announced it. Yeah, no thanks.

  • AIC "All this time, he bragged about being financially stable and successful (he's a lawyer), but apparently, it was all talk." 2
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  • "AITAH for calling off my wedding after finding out my fiancé never had the money he promised to contribute?"

    I (33F) have been with my partner (32M) for 5 years. He proposed in March 2024 and we agreed to get married in December 2025.
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  • He promised to cover 70% of the wedding costs and said he'd transfer money to my account whenever I paid for something. I ended up handling all the
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  • planning and bookings. By April this year, I had already paid around 500k (local currency). But when I checked, he hadn't sent me a single cent. I kept reminding
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  • him, and he always said, "Yes, baby, after work." I work in an accounting firm with over 40 clients, so I'm insanely busy and didn't have time to double-check every day. But I trusted him.
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  • When we finally sat down to talk about it, I found out he didn't actually have the money. He planned to ask his parents or use future income, meaning he had
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  • been lying about having savings. All this time, he bragged about being financially stable and successful (he's a lawyer), but apparently, it was all talk. I
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  • understand that people can go through tough financial times, but lying about it and letting me carry all the burden? That felt like a betrayal.
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  • I decided to call off the wedding and the relationship. Now he's throwing the wedding expenses in my face, even though I did all
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  • the work. My parents think I should go through with it since the engagement has already been announced to family.
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  • AITAH for calling it off? I feel heartbroken, used, and honestly, fooled. And seriously, if you can't afford to get married, why propose in the first place?
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  • Beingmaeryl You didn't call off a wedding, you canceled a subscription to nonsense. Good for you!
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  • Artistic-Tough-7764 NTA, but to be clear, this is about the lying and betrayal, not necessarily about the money
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  • III-Novel5199 The question I would be asking is if he's justifying lying, how do you know it's just this one thing? What else has he been lying about?
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  • Once trust is lost theirs nothing left. A divorce is far more expensive than a called off wedding, especially since your ex fiancé is a lawyer. NTA
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  • AdAccomplished 6870 NTA. Getting married because it has already been announced is a stupid reason and your parents should be ashamed. Lying, manipulating, and then trying to exploit you has shown your ex-fiance to be a user and a loser. You dodged a bullet.
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  • KWS1461 NEVER go through with a wedding to please someone else! Dumb attitude from your parents. Hugs to you.
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  • FairyF rtDaydreams NTA a person is on his best behavior before the marriage. So far he is a liar and manipulator. You deserve better and he will get worse as time goes on
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