Husband convinces wife to sell her property after moving into his house, then demands she give $200k from the sale to his parents, she puts her foot down: ‘This is all very weird’

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May 17, 2025 10:00 PM EDT

When you're in a long-term committed relationship, you would give up a lot for the person you love. Being able to compromise is one of the most foundational things to a relationship, and without it, most relationships tend to crumble.

It starts with the small stuff. Compromising on who does the dishes and who does the groceries. Then it moves on to more touchy subjects, like with whose family you will be spending next Christmas. And finally, it leads to big decisions that require the most compromise, like when you finally decide to buy a house together, or maybe even expand your family.

That being said, as much as it is important to know when to take a step back for the sake of your partner, it is also important to know when you should stand firm for your own sake. No one should give up on everything for someone else, and it is highly important to recognise when you are being exploited or being treated unfairly.

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  • The woman in the story below should definitely not continue to compromise with her husband, because it seems like she is being completely taken advantage of. After she sold her property to help renovate her husband's, she was being asked by him to give up $200k from the sale to her in-laws. Then, he decided maybe it's best if they pay his parents even more, which is making his wife extremely uncomfortable.

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    AITAH because I don’t agree that in-laws monetary gift equates to them owning 20% of our home.

    Prior to getting married my husband and I both had property, I purchased my property prior to meeting my husband whilst he purchased his property while we were
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    renovations and spent a good portion of our free time on upgrading the home with the intent of increasing value to eventually buy our future family home. I sold the
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    investment property and put the money towards our current home (the one he purchased while we were dating). When I sold the property my husband said he
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    wanted to give 200K from the sale to his parents to pay them back as they had contributed that amount as a gift towards his deposit (they also gifted his sibling
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    property/assets). I said I wasn't comfortable with it at the time given we had a discussion prior to selling and said we would put the money towards a wedding,
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    honeymoon, home renovations etc. Fast forward to now, we had a discussion and my husband said even though it was a gift
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    The conversation has now changed to my husband wanting to pay them 20% of the properties current value and he's mentioned that they are on the deed so that's
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    what they are entitled to, so AITAH for not wanting to pay them 20% of our homes value when we've put a lot of time and money into renovating?
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    cthulularoo NTA, you're getting trickle truthed. First its he wants to pay them back, now its they're on the deed. Next, its not just 20%. And if they're on the deed, are they coming off the deed if he pays them back?
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    And why is it being paid back using the proceeds from your house? that's the house that should all be paid by you, right? All the proceeds are yours. Do
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    you get your name on the current house? This is all very weird, OP. NTA, you need to get more info here.
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    Ancient-Meal-5465 Why on earth have you sold your house and put money and sweat equity into a property you don't own?? Your husband has been completely dishonest.
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    Why didn't you do a title search before you put any money into his parents house?? Why aren't you doing a property search now? If this was me I would put a lien on the property and start divorce proceedings. You've been absolutely duped.
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    Beautiful-Contest-48 You got sc ed. My opinion would be get a lawyer involved and see what your options are. You're in damaged control mode now. NTA now. Don't be a doormat and become one though. That's not a small amount of money.
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    Square-Minimum-6042 What else has your husband been keeping from you? Are you sure it's only twenty percent that they own? Do they plan on moving in with you at some point in the not distant future?
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    This is a legal mess and I'd get my own attorney quickly to protect yourself. Your husband can't be trusted.
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    Cinnamon Twinkles A gift doesn't come with strings attached. Always remember, your home equity is not a family piggy bank.
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    Ok_Break6916 So you sold your property, and your home is own by your husband and his parents, and you'll have no money because you'll give all your money to his parents or put it in HIS property? What will happen to you if you divorce?
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