29-year-old refuses to invite 32-year-old cousin to her wedding after family BBQ prank: 'She thought it would be hilarious to tell [my now-fiancé] that I used to be married'

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
May 24, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Who you choose not to invite to your wedding is almost as important as the people you do invite. At the end of the day, it's your big event, and you have the right to select the people in your community who will be the most supportive of you and your spouse. Of course, bridges may be burned in the process, but we're of the opinion that these decisions are not necessarily acts of pettiness. 

For instance, this woman's cousin had demonstrated enough evidence to the fact that she was narcissistic and unsupportive, particularly when it came to this woman's relationship. After an awkward and deeply uncomfortable encounter at a family BBQ, in which the cousin thought it would be fun to fabricate drama so as to jeopardize and potentially sabotage the author's relationship with her now-fiancé, the author felt that her cousin would not be a welcome presence at her wedding. This, of course, ignited even more family drama…

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  • As for the BBQ drama, could you imagine your cousin telling a story to your significant other, divulging details they “should know” about your previous and messy divorce? Now, imagine that none of those stories were truthful and were purely told to generate conflict. Once you spell it out that way, who would want this cousin to be invited to your wedding after that?

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    So I (29F) am getting married next spring and starting to put together the guest list. My mom is pressuring me to invite
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    my cousin (32F), who I haven't really spoken to since a "prank" she pulled at a family BBQ three years ago.
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    Backstory: At that BBQ, I had just started dating my now-fiancé. She thought it would be hilarious to tell him that I used to be married, had
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    two kids, and went through a messy divorce (none of which is true). She kept it going for half an hour while I was distracted helping in the kitchen. He was super
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    confused and awkward about it, and while we laugh now, at the time it was SO uncomfortable and unnecessary. She brushed it off and said I needed to "chill."
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    Since then, I've kept my distance. She's the kind of person who always has to be the center of attention, and I just don't
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    want any chaos on my wedding day. My mom says it's petty to hold a grudge over something so small and that "she's family." But I genuinely
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    don't trust her to behave, and I feel like my wedding should be about me and my fiancé, not someone who might pull another attention-grabbing stunt.
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    • Bronzes... 18m ago Stick to your g S. Cousin is a psycho. Didn't apologise and doesn't deserve to attend.
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    VelvetFig... 11m ago . If she wants to be the center of attention, she can throw her own wedding..you're not running a family talent show lol
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    Princess... 11m ago • NTA. Ask your Mom why would you invite someone who tried to break you and your fiance' up? And
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    why your cousin's feelings are more important than yours are? Also make sure
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    that your cousin doesn't come as someone else's plus 1. She sounds horrible.
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    asafepla... • 16m ago NTA - I can understand not being able to trust her now.
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    With all this family discord I'd be inclined to just elope to a town at least 4 hours away. In fact, I did that twice.
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    Ok-Coco... 15m ago • You're NTA for wanting to avoid drama and being burned by her (again). Have you
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    considered inviting her but having someone ready to throw her out (or anyone else) if she/they misbehave?
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    What does your fiancé think about this whole situation? Whatever you decide, you both should be aligned
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    because the fallout will be for you to deal with and him to support you along the way.
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    blueswan6 · 10m ago • NTA It's such a weird "prank" at 29!
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