Woman insists on going on free vacation with ex-boyfriend despite being in relationship with someone else, her current boyfriend catches the red flag early: “Even if she’s considering this trip you’re not her boyfriend”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
May 25, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Hey there internet creatures. When there's no trust in a relationship, you don't have anything to stand on. Trust is the foundation of any relationship. Without trust how can there be happiness, how can there be true laughter or peace of mind? Predicating the relationship on deceit or deception will eventually catch up to you. It may be hard to sunder the tether between you two, but it's better to do it early on amongst signs of deception rather than waiting it out. Espousing detachment early on is better than staying. I've been in both situations, and it takes a lot of work. I've definitely stayed in relationships too long trying to make a broken thing work, and I've also ran away quickly in the beginning from the first red flag. 

In the story below, the protagonist is in a relationship with a woman who asks him if she can go on a private vacation with her ex-boyfriend. The ex's reasoning: that he wants to "make up for the bad times." Buddy, this girl is in a relationship with someone else. Go take your regrets and self-loathing and put it on another girl. Redeem yourself with someone who isn't your ex, unless you want to get back together with her. Read the full story for all the juicy details. 

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    AITA for not wanting my girlfriend to have a free holiday with her ex?

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    So I've been dating my current GF for about 9 months or so. Her ex boyfriend that she broke up with about 6 months before we started dating has recently started talking to her again. I don't feel partially
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  • The fact of the matter is that your partner should never lie to you, and if they suggest something openly and honestly that posits insecurity or danger, it’s definitely time to end things. Breaking up is hard, but staying in an unhappy relationship is harder. 

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    comfortable about this as I believe he wants to get back with her, but they have only seen each other a few times in a group setting so I haven't seen it as a big deal up until this point.
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    Earlier today, she approached me saying that she needed to talk to me. She explained that her Ex boyfriend was offering a holiday with her to 'apologise for treating her badly in the past'. he is offering
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    to pay for the plane ticket hotels everything. I talked with her and she agrees that she thinks he is trying to start something between them again but they will stay in separate rooms and a free holiday is an extremely good offer she
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    doesn't want to turn down. I feel extremely mixed about this, I understand her wanting to go but it makes me extremely uncomfortable and upset, as well as
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    feeling disrespected. I am even contemplating ending things as it would make things easier for the both of us. What do I do?
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    RialnWonderland Bro, if she's even considering this trip, you're not her boyfriend, you're just the placeholder until the flight takes off
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    fc185 She should have said "No" to the Ex BF and never gave it a second thought. But she didn't. That should tell you all you need to know.
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    MinnyMynx As a girl, I can confirm she wants to f him. Even if they slept in separate rooms, they can still end up having so... No girl takes an offer like this from a guy she's truly over.
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    Time to end things, you deserve better.
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    Efficient Most439 NTA. Tell him you're paying your own way to come on the trip with her. We'll see how quickly he changes his tune.
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    Honestly though, your GF sks for accepting it KNOWING he just wants her back.
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    ThrowRACoping She would be my ex if she even asked that.
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    ThatKidBeau i ain't going to lie to you, the relationship is cooked. she definitely has no respect for you and feelings for him. if she didn't have feelings, she would feel uncomfortable with this
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    skalliwag Omg, NTA. I'm sorry but she still has feeling for the ex BF and wants to see where it goes.
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    Break things off with her. Even if things don't work out for them on the trip and she comes running back to you, do you really want to be her second choice?
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    Global-Fact7752 Adios Senorita!
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    taylor914 A Chinese military parade has less red flags. Ditch the gf and let her go back to her ex.
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    Ok_Salad681 No you're not. The fact she is even considering it for the sake of saving money is a red flag.
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    mrporterisonreddit I'd be surprised if she isn't already with him. Let's be real here, she wants to get back with him. That's the only reason she is continually talking to him and
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    even contemplated the idea of going away with him. You are a straight up fool, and a Simp for spending any more time with her or thinking about her. Break this off and move on while you still have. " your...!!!
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