17-year-old girl refuses to live with 4 and 6-year-old step siblings after they destroy her room, her mom resents her for moving in with grandparents: "You're breaking your mom's heart"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
May 27, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet freaks. Growing up is hard enough without passed away parents, evils stepdads, and narcissist mothers. But hey, what's life without a little headache while you're young? As any boomer would say, pick yourself up by your bootstraps, or no pain no gain. Of course of of these archaic phrases will remedy any emotional wound, no matter how severe. Now back to the story. 
Teenage years are often seen as carefree and convivial, although for many people this isn't the case. I remember the hostility and rage I felt towards my family for no reason outside of pumping hormones and alienation about puberty, but I couldn't imagine being an angsty teenager and having to deal with someone else's family. With divorced parents, this is often the case. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a teenager who lives with his mother and stepfather. His stepdad has two very young children, young enough to destroy his things or aspects of his life. His life is a nightmare – absent mother, mean stepfather, and ruthless stepsiblings. Read the full story for all the juicy details.

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  • 01

    AITA for not moving back in with my mom and hanging up on her when she called me crying that she missed me and wanted me back?

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    My dad My mom dated for a while but nothing serious until she met Dan. Dan's a single dad with two kids (4 and 6) and after dating for almost two years they moved in together three months ago. I was cool with it when I (17) was 11.
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    until two incidents happened in a week. First one was coming home to the kids in my room and my room was trashed. I'd made my bed before school and they'd
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    pulled it apart. My clothes were all over the floor. The 4 year old has Phimself and the evidence was left visible on my piles of clothes.
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    My mom had taken the kids out of the room and cleaned up the 4 year old but left my room as it was for me to clean up. I was angry. Dan explained it away as they're just young kids and told me not to
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    be mad. I told him to watch his kids and keep them out of my room. Mom told me not to be mad at anyone and these things happen. I said not if they kept an eye on the kids. I asked if I should go in and do the same to their room. Dan
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    told me I'm old enough to know better. I told him to make his kids clean it and mom and Dan were quick to say they were too young to do that.
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    The same thing happened a week later only without the 4 year old J himself this time and this time they wrecked the photo of me and my dad that was in my room
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    and they broke the office chair I had in there. This time I lost it on my mom and told her that I was getting the f out of there and she could keep Dan and his little brats to herself because I wasn't
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    dealing with it. Mom told me not to be so rash and said I just needed to calm down. Dan stood in front of the door to stop me from leaving. He said my mom's heart would break if I left. I told him I wasn't living with him and his kids.
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    I went to stay with my grandparents and my mom expected me to stay at most a week or two and then come home or whatever. But I see this as home now. Not having my room trashed
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    or the bathroom all messy and gross from Dan's kids, has been so good. And I'm so mad about that photo. I had a copy but it wasn't the point.
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    My mom's only now starting to accept I'm not coming back. She apologized a few times but I ignored her. She called the other day and cried and told me she missed me and wanted me to come
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    home and she'd do anything. I hung up before she could finish and it didn't convince me to move back in. Which sent Dan off on a Irant at me over voicemail about how selfish I'm being and how I'm hurting my mom. AITA?
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    Oellaatje Dan won't discipline his kids. He's the A. Children that age can learn not to trash other people's belongings.
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    Fearless-Shallot-392 What do your grandparents think of the situation? It was super nice of them to take you in.
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    No-To-Newspeak NTA. If Dan cannot keep his 4 year old from in your ... room he should have bought you a lock for your bedroom door.
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    agnesperditanitt NTA, obviously Are you saying Dan's children Pin your room and trashed your room twice and Dan wasn't the one to Clean
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    up the mess his children made? And your mother and Dan both watchec you clean up their mess yourself?
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    No repercussions for these two children?
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    Dan and your mother are both gigantic each other. and deserve
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    May Dan's little darlings in his and your mother's bed in the future twice a day.
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