Entitled couple ask sister-in-law and husband to host them for honeymoon, demand that they sleep in their bedroom: 'We don't think an air mattress is honeymoon appropriate'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Jun 2, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Getting married is an often expensive pursuit, but not everybody who gets married comes from a lot of money. As a result, it isn't uncommon for the happy couple to look for ways to save a little cash when planning their wedding and honeymoon. While few want to cut corners when it comes to everything surrounding the special day, it is more often than not a necessity to keep costs down.

While many brides and grooms accept that some sacrifices have to be made because of budgetary concerns, there are usually limits to how far they will go. Often, they expect certain favors from family members to help make the whole thing more affordable. While many relatives are happy to help, they too have certain dealbreakers when it comes to what they are willing to offer. It can be all too easy for tensions such as this to become a drama.

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    AITAH for saying that my brother in law and his future wife can't sleep in our bedroom while we host them on their honeymoon?

    I (35F) and my husband (36M) are fortunate enough to live in an area of the world that is very beautiful, and as a result, frequently visited for honeymoons. My brother in law (30M) and his soon to be wife (28F) are getting married in August and want to honeymoon in the area where my husband and I live, and they asked around a month ago if they could stay with us on their honeymoon. We agreed; they are family and are also tight on funds. We are happy to help and host them.
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  • This is how one woman felt when her brother-in-law and his fiancée requested that they stay with her and her husband for their honeymoon. They lived in a very scenic place, and they knew that their budget was tight, so they agreed.

    However, problems arose when the couple requested that they get to stay in the main bedroom during their trip, as they would have to sleep on an air mattress if they used the spare room. The woman had reservations about this and communicated them to her husband, who agreed that they wouldn't use their bedroom. The extended family felt that they were being stingy, and she wanted to know if they were right.

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    However, they asked my husband last week if they could stay in our bedroom on their honeymoon. We have a two bedroom home, and our guest room has an air mattress that is used for when friends/family stay (otherwise, it is my work-from-home office, hence why we dont have a typical mattress in there). My BIL didn't really get into the specifics of why they didn't want the guest bedroom/air mattress, but the gist seemed to be "we dont think an air mattress is honeymoon appropriate". When my husband
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    Apparently us saying no to this request has caused some issue in my husband's family, particularly with his sister whos saying we should just let BIL and his future wife stay in our room as "it is THEIR honeymoon and they shouldn't have to sleep on an air mattress". We love everyone in this scenario, especially BIL and his future wife, and don't want to cause a rift so my husband is sort of leaning towards acquiesing to their request, however, I am not down to change my mind on this. It honestly
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    Commenters sympathized with the reservations that she had.

    whyallthehater For the intimate things that one does on their honeymoon they should book their own hotel.
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    UnaizaDrift Right? Asking to crash with family is one thing, but expecting to take over their bedroom on a honeymoon feels like a step too far.
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    JeepPilot Next they'd be saying "I can't believe those two are insisting on STAYING in their home the whole time the newlyweds are there and invading their privacy! How selfish of them not to get a hotel room and let those two lovebirds have some privacy for the week!"
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    LividIdeal791 NTA-absolutely no. They can save up for a hotel. They don't have to take their honeymoon right now, they can wait a year or so. The entitlement is extreme.
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    truethrowaway90211 OP I hadn't thought about that...you're right, they could definitely wait and postpone the honeymoon until they have more money.
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    tinybaby999 NTA- their request is creepy and says it all they want to consummate the marriage on Your bed. Gross, creepy and not the kind of "family" I want around
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    NTA Far_Nefariousness773 But I rather go somewhere cheaper to be alone with my hubby then stay somewhere pretty. Then have to be quiet during my honeymoon. Also they can always buy a floor mattress that's foldable that won't pop.
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    Blazing Sunflowerland "it is THEIR honeymoon and they shouldn't have to sleep on an air mattress". Remind sister and the rest of the family that no one, let alone you and your husband, are forcing them to spend their honeymoon in your home. That was their choice and their request. Your guest bed happens to be an air mattress. If they think that an air mattress isn't good enough, they are free to choose any other location that isn't your home.
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    Objective-Fig5454 NTA- it's really kind of you to let them stay there for their honeymoon moon, but that doesn't entitle them to your bed. If they want a different situation, they can pay for a hotel and stop trying to take advantage of your kind hospitality
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    ChampionshipBetter91 Oh, so YOU are supposed to sleep on the air mattress? In YOUR house?! HI, no. And I'd rescind the offer of the air mattress. They want to bang in comfort, then they can cough up the $.
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    toriori12 They're tacky for even asking. They should go somewhere they can afford a good bed if that's their attitude. I'd rescind the offer. NTA.
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    Chaoticgood790 "There's a bunch of hotels that would be happy to have you if you find the free guest room not adequate" ΝΤΑ
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    Sure-Acadia-4376 NTA. Staying in a spare room is-and always has been-one of the major drawbacks of staying with someone. They're looking for a place to stay but don't want to pay. Well, you get what you pay for-or in this case don't pay for.
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    celticmusebooks "we dont think an air mattress is honeymoon appropriate". | agree. A HOTEL ROOM is far more "honeymoon appropriate".
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    Upstairs_Luck1461 Nta Lol Free place to stay And they start making demands. Lol Tell them they cant stay there anymore Make them realize they s k
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    ChillinDog Yes its THEIR honey moon. Its also YOUR house Imao. What a dumb argument NTA
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    spambreath Absolutely not. How entitled to even ask. I'd rescind the offer to let them stay there.
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    Several Campaign_455 In the Navy, even if the top admiral of the fleet is overnighting on a ship, the ship's Captain, regardless of how low is rank might be, NEVER gives up his cabin.
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    Low-Programmer-7447 NTA. It's your bedroom. It would be weird if they spent their honeymoon in your bed.
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    Bouche_Audi_Shyla It IS their honeymoon, and they SHOULDN'T have to sleep on an air mattress. I've never heard of an air mattress in the honeymoon suite of any hotel, ever. Oh! Wait! My bad! They're not paying to stay in a honeymoon suite in a hotel. Silly me. They're mooching off of OP. If an air mattress isn't good enough for them, they can PAY for a room at a hotel.
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    NTA. MadelineUsher Here's a suggestion: in lieu of wedding gifts, friends and family can donate to a honeyfund that pays for their hotel room where they can have all the newlywed fun they want.
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