Entitled friend tells woman to stop losing weight because she ‘doesn’t want to be the ugly one in the group photos’ on her birthday trip: ‘I’m doing this to better myself’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jun 7, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

When someone decides to set their mind on bettering their health, they'd hope that their friends, family, and other loved ones would hop on the bandwagon and support them. After all, making drastic health changes is not something to take lightly—it could make all the difference in the longevity of your life, and the quality of it, too. What matters at the end of the day is your health and who was there supporting you when you needed someone to have your back. In most cases, your friends will be that support system. Not in this story's case, though.

The woman who posted this story explains that she took the steps to lose nearly 40 pounds, and hasn't seen her friends since losing the weight. She feels good, looks good, and has regained the most precious thing of all: her health. She met up with one of her friends, and instead of her friend congratulating her on the weight loss, her friend immediately became combative and assumed the woman's weight loss was out of spite. Now, this friend is asking the woman to stop losing weight so she can be the better-looking one for her birthday. Weight does not equate to beauty, but that request, and commenting on someone's body in general, is completely out of line. Scroll below to read the entire story.

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  • Weight loss is a tricky subject. Folks often wonder if those on a weight loss journey are losing the weight for the right reasons. The woman who wrote this story states that she has been on the journey to better herself and her health. People shouldn't normalize commenting on other people's bodies in general—it's an outdated, often harmful habit to create. But a request to halt a health journey for selfish, cosmetic purposes? Way out of line.

  • "[She] yelled at me saying I was being selfish and putting looks over loyalty..." 87 LZ
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  • "ENTITLED FRIEND THINKS I SHOULD PUT OFF LOSING WEIGHT SINCE I'M MAKING HER LOOK BAD"

    Hi So I (F20) am on a weight loss journey and have lost about 18 kg so far and for the first time in a long time, I actually like how I look in photos. I had not seen my
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  • friends for some time due to school and work past few months to lose weight but recently my friends and i decided to have a girls day out nothing crazy.
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  • Anyway...day off I kind of get stick in traffic and make it to the restaurant a few minutes later than everyone. Everyone was so happy and excited to see me
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  • happy and healthier except Gia (22F). Gia and I have been friends since primary school. She's always been a bit self- centered, but I didn't realize just
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  • how deep it went until that day. She spent the entire day being so passive aggressive saying i was trying too hard and making her feel like the fat friend
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  • now... girl, what?? Later in the night.. she pulled me aside and asked if I could slow down on the weight loss until after her birthday trip in July because I'm
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  • apparently making her look bad and that she doesn't want to be the ugly one in the group photos. I laughed because I genuinely thought she was joking. She
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  • wasn't. She then said that I was changing the vibe between us and that now people were paying more attention to me than her, and it made her feel some type of
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  • way She also said I used to be the relatable one and now I'm just trying too hard to be hot. I told her very calmly that I'm doing this to better myself, not to
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  • compete with her or anyone else. She got upset and yelled at me saying I was being selfish and putting looks over loyalty....I don't
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  • even know what that means. Anyway I haven't responded to her texts since. Isn't this out of line or am I being sensitive?
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  • StrawberryGusher Extremely proud and happy for you for feeling better and working so hard, and I'm sorry you have to deal with people like her. Absolutely drop her as a friend, and if anyone asks you why, don't be afraid to repeat the story to them verbatim.
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  • PinkMuffin_BerryBlue Shes not your friend. She used you to feel better and now that she cant do this anymore she shows you her true face. I would not go on a trip with her, especially if its for her birthday.. she will be ed even more if you take ped attention from her
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  • AdLiving2291 Wow. She ain't no friend, honey. Congrats on losing the weight. Dump this woman.
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  • JustanOldBabyBoomer Maya Angelou once said, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them,". Gia is NOT your friend by a LONG SHOT!!! Time for her to GO somewhere else!!! Preferably FAR FAR AWAY from you!!!
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  • External-Company-140 Oh H L no!!!!! What an insecure, sad little person. The only response you need is this: " trust me Gia, it's not my weight loss that's making you like the ugly friend, it's your attitude." And then walk away without letting her respond.
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  • BusinessBear 53 By saying she doesn't want to be the ugly one in photos, she's inadvertently calling you ugly. She's just using you as a prop to make herself feel better about her own poor choices. She's not your friend and it's time to drop her.
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  • ivylass Gia is not your friend. I don't care that you've known her for years. She's selfish and immature and not worth your time. Congratulations on your health journey and keep going.
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