Man insists young son be “flower boy” at his wedding, his fiancée objects due to traditional values: “Anything that gets him excited about having a stepmom is a plus”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 8, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Weddings are known for being traditional. Your dad walks you down the aisle, you new husband has their first dance with their mom. The bride has her maid of honor, and the groom has his best man. These days, there are more and more slashes to the towers of tradition, and people are coming up with their own rules on how they want to celebrate. 
 

The ring bearer is typically a young boy, and everyone's familiar with the "flower girl." But what if these roles were switched? Does it really matter of the person bearing the ring is a boy, and the one with the petals is the girl? I don't think so, but not everyone is as fluid in their beliefs. Let us know in the comments below if you're a stickler to tradition, or if you think the OP is right about his son being the flower boy. In the story below, the protagonist is a man whose son wants to be the flower boy at his father's wedding. 

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    AITA for insisting my son be the flower boy?

    "She said her family would be uncomfortable"
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    I am getting married in July (:D!) and wedding planning is in full swing. My wife to be and I are on the same page about almost
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    everything, except for this one thing. My son wants to be the flower boy, and I want him to be too.
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    My fiance says that a flower girl is traditional and that it would be weird to have a flower boy. She says her family will be uncomfortable. She says that he should be the ring bearer. He
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    doesn't want to be the ring bearer, he wants to carry the basket of flower petals. He thinks it looks fun. My line of reasoning is that anything that gets him
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    excited about this wedding and having a stepmom is a huge plus.
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    My fiance says we shouldn't teach my son that everything is about him. I absolutely agree. However, it is weird for kids when a parent gets remarried. He hasn't
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    engaged much with the idea, and this is the first thing relating to the wedding he showed any excitement about. My fiance wants to know what he would wear, and I said the three of us
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    can definitely find something cute. She says she doesn't want that extra task on her plate. I said then he and I can do it, and she said she would be stressed about not knowing what he'll be wearing.
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    We have been going back and forth about this for a while, and she is starting to get frustrated. Yesterday she said she didn't want to talk about it anymore. I Isaid we have to resolve it,
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    because the wedding is in seven weeks. She said as far as she is concerned, it's resolved. I said that in that case, it's resolved for me too, and he's doing it. She asked me why I'm being such an ahle about this.
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    I don't think I'm being an a h le, but maybe I am. I haven't been. pushy about anything else with the wedding. Whenever I wanted something that she didn't I either compromised or let it go. This is
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    the one thing that really matters to me, and I think it's ultimately good for both of us because it will make my son more fond of her. Am I really being an ah le?
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    New-Host1784 INFO: Does your fiancee get along with your son? I mean, what does he say about their relationship?
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    bepdhc So just to be clear on the clothing issue:
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    She does not want to be involved in picking out his outfit, but she also doesn't trust you to choose his clothes properly? Is she always this obstinate and exhausting?
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    You will only be TA for subjecting your son to her for the rest of his childhood. She seems not to like him very much.
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    Round-Swordfish-... You got your answer, and you still want to marry her?
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    CakePhool Does she even like your son? It sound like she doesnt.
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    rememberimapers... YWBTA if you decided to marry a woman who makes it perfectly clear she will prioritise her own image over your son's happiness
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    zbornakingthestone It sounds like your wife has issues with your son and you should get to the root of that before you marry her.
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