'My gf wasn’t too fond of the idea': Woman adopts new kitten, but her new girlfriend's cold reaction sparks second thoughts about the relationship

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Sarah Brown • Writer and Editor
Jun 11, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

This feline tail started when one hooman adopted a kitten, receiving it free from a friend on Facebook, and finally fulfilled her dream of having a cat after moving into her own place. But her girlfriend isn't exactly purring with excitement. Claiming it's about "financial responsibility," she admits (in her own words) to sounding a bit unhinged about not liking cats. Weeks go by, and the girlfriend still hasn't met the kitten since he needed meds and shots, but things start to really unravel when the pawrent ordered a custom cat calendar. Four copies, to be specific. As any devoted cat parent would.

Instead of laughing along, the girlfriend responds with a cold thumbs up and passive-aggressive texts like, "Take care of your cat and have fun with him." Ouch. Meanwhile, the cat's been a total emotional support floof. Bringing peace, independence, and joy. He's her first pet all to herself, and she's made it clear: the cat stays.

This isn't just about a kitten. It's about being with someone who supports the things that make you feel happy and whole. When a tiny ball of fluff does more for your peace of mind than your partner does, it might be time to paws and reflect.

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    So I've been officially with my gf since the beginning of January so it's been 5months now. Recently a few weeks back I got a kitten. He was free from a friend on fb and I've been wanting to get a cat for a while especially after moving into my new place a few months prior. My gf wasn't too fond of the idea.
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    She tries to say it's because of the financial responsibility of taking care of the pet but she also personally doesn't like cats. She sent me this long text awhile back and she admitted to sounding insane (her words not mine).
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    Fast forward to today she still hasn't met him because I need to get him his shots since he was on an antibiotic for a bit. Then last night I told her about how my cat got into a cat calendar and I ordered 4 of them. She sent me one word responses after that and just my message. Idk then
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    today she was in a bad mood again and then she told me at the end of a message "Take care of your cat and have fun with him and get some rest". I'm just tired of these passive aggressive people.
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    My cat has been really calming for me and he's the first pet I've had on my own without having to share with someone else. He's def been helping me with my mental health and coping and what not. I'm just conflicted with everything going on. I wouldn't get rid of him I just wanna clarify that.
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    Cute... She doesn't like cats. She got together with you before you had a cat. You cannot force her to like your cat. My mother hates cats. (My mother is the most trustworthy person in the world. My motto is do not trust people that do not trust people just because they do not like animals. It gave me
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    the most trustworthy and caring friends and family.) I have three of them. You know what I do? I lock them in a room when my mother visits and I do not talk about them with her. You changed the dynamic of the relationship and you need the accept the consequences of it or break up with her. Otherwise you are overreacting.
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  • Looks like the relationship dynamic is shifting with the new cat in the picture. Sometimes it just takes a little time to adjust and find balance. Hopefully, they’ll work through it together soon!

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    False-Use6926 Sounds like you may have to choose between the cat and the girlfriend.
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    Amazing_Elk_8211 She doesn't like cats and you got a cat. I think for you the benefit of having a cat is really important. You may have to reconsider comparability though. Finding a person who likes cats just as much as you do
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    MissyGray Gray Well, she's either going to get on board or she's not. I don't trust people who don't like cats or even animals in general. She's probably mad because you have something else that gets your attention. I don't think her text was passive aggressive. See it as what it literally says until you hear otherwise.
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    Having a pet can be such a mood booster and calming force in one's life. P.S. Tell your FB friend they need to get the cat spayed if it was their cat that had kittens.
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    No-Commission-8... I know that you get this and you appreciate that cat is your responsibility And like you said - having that cat is helping you And you are helping him by giving him a home, safety, shelter, and love
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    You will be there for him for the next 15 to 18 years and I think that's awesome So she can appreciate that you have your responsibilities - and she can be good with things or you will - understand if she wants to be somewhere else
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  • The relationship with the cat is a total win-win. Pawrent gets all the love and gives plenty back. Now it’s just about helping the girlfriend see how special that bond can be too!

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    pumpkinpatch212 You've only been with her for 5 months and this is how she's treating an animal she's clearly jealous of? I don't think you're overreacting at all. You guys don't even live together and while I know you're relationship is early, it seems like it might become cat or girlfriend situation
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    HighKaj NOR I mean, this s ks. But your girlfriend doesn't like or want cats, and you got a cat. She might in a position where she is having to reconsider your relationship because you got a pet she isn't interested in and (seems like) doesn't ever want to live with.
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    She also might be dealing with something completely different that's bothering her, who knows. That said, you two have to talk it out. I don't know that either of you is overreacting.
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    If she is truly being passive aggressive then sure, that's not good behaviour on her part, but she might just be freaking out or doesn't know what she wants to do rn.
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  • Sometimes the best move is to be upfront and have an honest conversation. Maybe she doesn’t see a future with a cat, or maybe something else is really bothering her beneath the surface.

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    Fearless_Band_64... Your cat means a lot to you and that's awesome. Find a partner who loves your cat as much as you do.
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