50-year-old caregiver refuses to let her 52-year-old diabetic bedbound husband, who sleeps 20 hours a day, come on the family cruise vacation with her and her 2 daughters: 'He’s mad and sulking.'

It is incredibly difficult to be responsible for the full-time care of another adult. That is how many people make their living, which is, unfortunately, not as well-paid as it should be; however, many people do this work for their family members for free. It's not like there's a season where somebody who requires full-time care doesn't need that care. It's a 24-hour-a-day, 7-day-a-week gig. A dependent sick person isn't a project that can be put on the back burner while someone takes a break from caring for them.

It can be frustrating when a loved one is sick in a way that they can actually do the work to manage, but they refuse to manage it. There's a big difference between being helpless to improve your condition, or doing everything the doctor says to no avail, and actively ignoring advice or coping strategies that could actually help one recover.

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The husband in this story could do a lot more to manage his diabetes, but instead, he forces his wife to be his caretaker while he sleeps for 20 hours a day. Now that she wants to take a break from being his full-time caretaker, he wants to come along.
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$him that I didn't think he should. I told him I needed a break. That he can't do anything once we are there (he can't swim or submerge the leg with the fracture). That he isn't supposed to be up and around as he's ordered to be non-weight bearing on the one leg. I told him it would be completely unfair to me and the girls as I would be forced to nurse$

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$**Update: To address a common theme regarding my husband's medical issues the worst thing - he has is diabetes which is/was completely uncontrolled prior to his foot fracture. By 50, he needed a second cataract removed because his average bl d sugar was 500 for years. He$

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