‘I was just a wallet in her life’: Freeloading ex demands their boyfriend pay for all of their bills, but he refuses to fork out $8k per month and sends her on a well-deserved eviction spiral

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
Jun 15, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Breakups are brutal as is, but if you find out after years of a romantic relationship that your significant other only viewed you as a blank check, things can get a whole lot worse. 

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  • In California, it's not uncommon for couples to move in with each other in the early stages of their relationship. Because it's so expensive to find a non-sketchy apartment and you can drive for hours and still be in the same city, oftentimes, couples will just cut to the chase on move-in day so they can save the skrilla and the gas money needed for a longer distance relationship. 

    This man in our next story was no different; however, before properly vetting his future ex-girlfriend, this guy made the mistake of putting her name on his lease, autopaying all of their bills, and becoming the pet pawrent that stepped up. But after getting taken advantage of by his freeloading girlfriend for months, he finally stood up for himself and decided he'd had enough. 

  • She's freeloading in my apartment. What's the most legal way to make it hol for her?
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  • Hey Reddit, I've found a lot of great answers here before, so I figured I'd ask for some help now. I live in LA and met a girl ― things were fine in the beginning. We were dating, then
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  • she started having housing issues, and I invited her to move in with me. I was renting a small place at the time, so I upgraded to a bigger apartment to make it work. She has a cat and a dog, which I happily accepted.
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  • At first, everything was okay. But then I hit a rough patch with work and started grinding hard, prepping for interviews and trying to stay afloat. During all this time,
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  • I was paying for everything - rent (almost $5K), food for both of us and the pets (~$2K), car lease, insurance... altogether around $8K/month. She does have a job, by the way, but never chipped in for anything. I figured I'd be a gentleman, maybe stupidly so.
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  • In February, I asked her for some help. I was stressed out, my health started declining - and her response? "Maybe we should go on more walks." (Yes, because fresh air pays the bills.) Fast
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  • forward a few months: I'm currently sleeping in my friend's spare room while she's still living in the apartment I pay for. Here's the kicker: when we moved in, I added her to the
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  • lease to help her build rental history. Now, she's legally on it. When I told her I wanted to end the relationship and asked her to move out, she said "I'll stay as long as I need to."
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  • To be honest, the breakup itself is another long story, but the core issue is: I was just a wallet in her life. She never bought groceries, never contributed, and got irritated whenever I asked for
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  • help. I realized I was doing everything alone while she just coasted. So here's my question: I know I can't just kick her out legally. But
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  • I'm sure some smart folks here have ideas for how to strongly suggest that it's time to move on all within legal boundaries, of course.
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  • What can I do (legally) to get her to take some responsibility and move out? Open to any tips or ideas. Thanks in advance.
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  • Effective_Spirit_126. Explain the situation to the landlord. Getting her off the lease is step one. Once that happens you can get her evicted. You will need to go through the process.
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  • SomeCommon SensePlse Cancel utilities in your name and stop paying any share of anything in her name. Pay your half of the lease only. When she doesn't pay her half they'll kick her out. Don't pay for anything else. No food,
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  • nothing for the pets. She's looking for a free ride, once she stops getting it she'll move on. Her being on the lease is in your favour it makes her responsible for her half of the cost.
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  • Lurker_the_Pip ⚫ Get all your stuff out. Get off the lease. Quit paying. Block her on everything.
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  • Simple. Forget about justice or revenge because she doesn't care.
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  • Separate Major_937. Stop paying anything extra. You say you're crashing at a friend's place great start turn off the electric turn off the water. Everything in your name turn it off.
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