'Her brother doesn't like me and the feeling is mutual': New dad's brother-in-law asks him to babysit his kid on Father's Day, doesn't understand why he declines

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Jun 14, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

Holidays are important. Sure, they might be kind of made up and arbitrary, but that doesn't mean they don't matter to us. We only get so many chances to celebrate someone or something in our lifetimes. We spend so much time just getting through the day-to-day that it doesn't hurt to stop and smell the roses every chance we get. Holidays are a perfectly carved-out time for us to do that. This is especially true of Mother's and Father's Day. 

These days are too often overlooked, since it usually falls on the children to make sure that they are celebrated, and kids aren't always the best at doing that. But these days are important because they give us the chance to stop and thank those who are most important to us. They probably don't hear enough about how much they matter to us. And it makes sense that we all like to be celebrated.

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    AITA: My girlfriend is mad that I don't want to babysit her nephew on Father's Day

    On Sunday it's Father's Day. My first Father's Day. I want to spend it alongside my girlfriend and our 7 month old. However her brother asked us to babysit his kid on that day because him and his girlfriend want to go out. When
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  • That's why one new father was so upset when his first Father's Day plans were starting to get jeopardized. He was looking forward to passing a milestone with his own family and own child when his girlfriend's brother came in with a different plan. Read on to see what happened in this story.

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    my girlfriend asked me I politely said no as it's my first Father's Day and I would like to spend it as a little family. She got salty and a little mad and is now being passive aggressive. Her brother doesn't like me and the feeling is
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    mutual and we don't speak. He only talks to my girlfriend when he needs a favour. His kid is great and we've babysat him multiple times. On my girlfriend's first Mother's Day it was just us 3. I don't know why she can't do the same for me.
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    Commenters came to this new father's defense.

    Left Mushroom36... 4h aga . Why would the brother not want to spend time with his child on father's day. NTA
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    Separate-Bird-1997 4h ago • (NTA) This is a joke, is it? YOU. A FATHER!? BABYSITTING SOMEONE ELSE'S KID ON FATHER'S DAY. Your first Father's Day, mind you. Think about that. Do that make sense?
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    Cumisha Jones · 4h ago Tell her to go babysit and enjoy your day with your family, your child. Given she doesn't care about you the same way you care about her
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    MajorAd2679. 4h ago Tell your girlfriend that unlike her brother, you intend to be a good father, it's therefore important to you to spend Father's Day with your child, not babysitting another man's kid because this father doesn't want to spend Father's Day with his child.
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    Does she intend to not spend her future Mother's Day with her child???? Is this the type of mother she wants to be??? You better know now.
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    elevenohnoes • 4h ago Your girlfriend's brother must be a top notch father, celebrating father's day by ditching his kid. NTA
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    TheTallestGuyy • 4h ago NTA. It's your first Father's Day and you want to spend it with your kid, that's totally reasonable. Her brother doesn't even like you, and this isn't some emergency. She got her day, you deserve yours.
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    NUredditNU • 4h ago Definitely NTA. Her being passive aggressive is manipulative and unfair. It's not her day. Brother and his gf can find another sitter.
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    sustainablelove • 4h ago Why is your Father's Day less important than her brother's?
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    RBR927 4h ago NTA It's your day, you can spend it however you'd like (within reason). She needs to respect that. As a new parent looking forward to my first Father's Day too, I don't get people
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    who want to spend Mother's/Father's Day away from their kids. Maybe I'll get tired of them in a few years and understand not wanting to be with them anymore?
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    FinancialCamel7281 4h ago . NTA Take your son out on father's day without your gf when she babysit her nephew, she will take him. Just quietly pack your son up and go out for the day, let her deal with the nephew alone.
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    bjtestdummy 4h ago. . Spend Father's Day doing something fun with your kid. Let her babysit his kid. Either way NTA
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    5150dmack • 4h ago NTA for wanting to spend your 1st father's day with just your gf and your child. If gf keeps being salty about the decision I'd give her some options. First, the 3 of you can spend the day together like you want and
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    drop the babysitting subject. Second, she can babysit nephew while you and your child go do something together. Third, she can watch both kids while you spend the day solo debating the future of your relationship together given how she doesn't treat you
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    fairly compared to her. Fourth, you can do something just the 3 of you in the morning and babysit nephew that afternoon. Fifth, ask we her parents aren't an option to babysit. I'm sure there are many more options but you need to decide what you want.
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    TheFireOfPrometh... 4h ago . Gf is the AH The can go have a date night some other night, don't let them all, including gf, walk all over you And she needs some sense talked into her
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    RoyallyOakie • 4h ago NTA...Does your girlfriend have a reason why your feelings and desires don't count? This is really concerning. You only want what she wanted on Mother's day.
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    Alibeee64 • 4h ago NTA. She doesn't get to make unilateral decisions that affect both of you, especially on important holidays. Her brother can hire a babysitter, or go out a different day.
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    . Just_River_7502 4h ago NTA - I'd be concerned that your girlfriend thinks your Father's Day (the first one) is less important than doing a favour for her brother. If she can't see why that's a problem there's bigger issues here
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    MikeReddit74.4h ago Because your feelings don't matter as much as hers or her brother's.
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    MarsicanBear • 4h ago NTA Though the attitude would make me revise my father's day plans to just me and my kid. She can go spend the day with whoever she wants.
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