Daughter refuses to attend father's wedding after finding out he is unexpectedly marrying her ex-boyfriend's mother: 'He says I’m being immature and that love is love'

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Emma Saven
Jun 24, 2025 7:00 PM EDT

What's worse than suddenly bumping into an ex unannounced… 

Try bumping into them at a wedding ceremony, except this time, it's your parents tying the knot… and now, congratulations, you're about to become newlywed stepsiblings. Yep. Let that sink in. Talk about a plot twist no rom-com ever dared to touch. One minute you're avoiding awkward glances at family brunches, the next you're in a legally bound family tree with the person who once ghosted you after "a really great time." Fabulous.

Well - that throws a bit of a spanner in the works now, doesn't it? The fact is that you're exes for whatever reason: whether he gave you the dreaded ick with one badly-timed baby voice, or whether he shattered your heart into emotional confetti, an ex is an ex. Your dream of walking down the aisle with him by your side definitely did not go as planned…

After years of sneaking around just to be under the same roof, you are now forced to live under one! Courtesy of your suddenly star-crossed parents.

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  • So in this case, the question is: how do you sit your father down and tell him that if he goes through with marrying your ex-boyfriend's mom, you will a.) not be in attendance and b.) possibly enter full exile-mode right out of his life, because he has totally ruined yours!

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    AITAH for refusing to attend my father’s wedding because he’s marrying my ex’s mom?

    So I (27F) recently found out my dad (52M) is getting married to a woman he's been dating for about a year... who also happens
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    to be my ex-boyfriend's mom My ex and I dated seriously from age 19 to 24. His mom was always around and even got
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    involved in some of our fights back then, which made things really messy. Now, years later, she and my dad reconnected through
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    a mutual friend and started dating I had no idea until he dropped the "we're engaged" b b a few weeks ago
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    I told him I wouldn't be attending the wedding. It just feels weird, borderline disrespectful, and honestly uncomfortable. He says
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    I'm being immature and that love is love, and even my aunt is saying I should be happy for him. But I feel like this crosses a line
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    AITAH for not supporting this marriage or wanting to be part of the wedding?
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    reetahroo He didn't tell you they were dating which means he knows what a mess she was in your relationship. NTA. He can marry who he wants and you can ignore and act like she doesn't exist
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    Haunting_Green_1786 NAH You are 27yo so this decision is yours. Father cannot force you to attend.
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    Your dad has chosen to marry Ex-BF's mom as per freedom of choice.
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    OfluffytheOferocious NTA. Your ex-boyfriend is now your stepbrother. I think that's reason enough to not want to be there.
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    jkeefy You are NTA. No one is TA for not wanting to attend a wedding. Attendance is not mandatory for anyone. It's called an invite for a reason.
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    WinnieTheShark I feel like him not informing you until it's too big to avoid is a very obvious admission of guilt.
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    Andromeda081 He deserves to be happy, but this is messy for you on a personal level. You're entitled not to be around a cr py ex and his family you don't like. You're entitled to tell him & aunt this is a hard boundary for you.
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    Past_Gear_4310 NTA. You are all adults. It's fine he has a partner, you don't have to like her or be around her.
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    Feeling Week6757 Is your ex gonna be there? That could be a deciding factor also. How dysfunctional could the whole event be? Are they expecting one happy family?
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    Ruthless_Bunny Tell your dad, "considering that the last time we talked there was no mention of dating or anything else, I'm shocked. I need to process this. I'll get back to you."
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    LolaSupreme19 NTA. Your dad didn't loop you in about his relationship with your ex's mom. Since he sprung it on you, he shouldn't be surprised by your reaction.
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    old_motters NTA. This is a family member dating a family member of an ex. It just isn't done.
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    agnosticpeace71 It's the "my ex is now my stepbrother" for me. Serious ick. NTA
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    RJack151 NTA. No reason to allow your ex in your life in any way, shape, or form.
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