Daughter finally stands up to controlling mother after she takes over her wedding planning, neglecting bride and making everything about her: 'It's not my job to make up for what she didn't get in her life'

The Wedding Planning Doesn't Fall Far from the Tree

The process of wedding planning is certainly a whirlwind. But it does raise the question: has the role of "controlling mother-of-the-bride" become part of the cluster of genetics passed down through generations?

We all know the three components that make up the classic momzilla:

(1) A mother trying to recreate the wedding she never had. (2) A fear that her daughter's new chapter means being left behind. (3) A tendency toward plain old narcissism.

So how does one go about handling a situation where the bride recognizes her feelings and decisions are being pushed aside in the name of keeping the peace? Confrontation is hard but many times, completely necessary.

Because no, she does not want white roses instead of peonies or to wear a repurposed wedding dress. She's chosen steak for dinner, so the sudden suggestion of fish isn't going to change her mind. And most importantly, she does not want to walk down the aisle to Can't Take My Eyes Off You by Frankie Valli.

Weddings are a rollercoaster of emotions, full of ups and downs, especially as shown below by this generationally controlling mother and her confrontationally avoidant daughter. When one is always seen as the polite, ‘yes’ daughter, it can be hard for them to stand their ground. But where does one draw the line between adding their ‘valuable’ opinion and overstepping boundaries?
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