‘She told me I had two choices: Give her a share, or get out’: 22-year-old daughter is kicked out after she hides cash savings from father and his wife

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jun 26, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

When you were a kid, you probably expected your parents to pay for your basic needs and necessities. That's part of what being a parent is. Sure, you'd save up your babysitting money to buy yourself a new shirt at the mall or partake in a movie theater outing on a Friday night—but they would cover everything you needed, like housing, bills, basic clothes, and more. When you get a bit older and you're still living under their roof, it makes sense to start contributing some dough to the family fund—it helps you practice responsibility and budgeting. However, when your money is going toward funding a gambling habit that your stepmother has, you probably don't want to throw your money away like that. After all, she's the one lying to you about where the money is going.

So, you start a secret savings account—your escape fund. No harm, no foul. Then, your stepmom finds out about it. She gives you an ultimatum: Give her money, or leave. You leave. Why? It beats living under the same roof as someone stealing money from you to fund a habit they're not looking to quit. That's what this next story is about, so scroll below to read the entire story. 

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  • "AITAH for hiding my savings from my dad and his wife?"

    So yeah. I (22F) just got kicked out of the house I've been living in for two years. My dad didn't even say anything. It was all her
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  • his wife. Not my mom. Never felt like a mom. She told me straight up: "You don't help us, you don't live here." What she means by
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  • "help" is handing over money. I work full time. I pay for my own stuff food, clothes, gas, everything. But that's not
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  • enough. She wants me to hand over cash to her. To fund her stupid online casino addiction. She literally sits at her laptop all
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  • day clicking those spinning reels like she's gonna win big and save the world. Spoiler: she never does. She just loses my dad's
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  • paycheck and then asks me if I've "pitched in this month." And my dad? He knows. He knows she gambles every cent they have
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  • and then cries about the bills. But he acts like he doesn't see it. He's either in denial or just too tired to fight. Honestly,
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  • sometimes I don't even recognize him anymore. He used to be solid. Quiet, but dependable. Now he just nods along to
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  • whatever she says, like he's scared she'll leave or something. I don't get it. So yeah. I've been saving. Secretly. Every payday I put a chunk in a separate
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  • account she doesn't know about. I've been planning to get my own place, move out clean, no drama. But I guess I wasn't fast enough.
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  • Last week, she went through my bag while I was at work. Found an ATM receipt I forgot to throw out. She saw the balance and lost her
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  • mind. Said I was "hoarding money" while she and my dad "struggle." Claimed I was selfish. That I've "been eating under her
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  • roof" (first of all, what food, you mean the cup noodles I buy myself???). She told me I had two choices: give her a share, or get out.
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  • I packed my bags the next day. Now I'm staying at a friend's place and I feel... I don't even know. Guilty? Relieved? Angry?
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  • All of it, maybe. She made it sound like I betrayed them. Like I'm some villain for not funding her slot machine habit. Like I
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  • don't love my dad because I won't burn my future to keep her fake lifestyle going. And it's not like I didn't try. I offered to help
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  • with groceries. I paid the electric bill once when they were gonna get shut off. I even tried to talk to my dad about her gambling and
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  • he just told me, "Don't start something." So yeah, I walked away. But I keep wondering... Should I have said yes? Given her
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  • some of my savings just to keep the peace a little longer? Should I have told my dad everything before I left? Was I really being selfish for keeping my money a secret? I mean... I just wanted to protect myself... Aitah?
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  • its_yo_boi21 ABSOLUTELY NTA, whats wrong with people honestly. literally makes NO SENSE, like thats your money and if they are irresponsible and you dont trust them, why would you put up with their sh, some people are just so entitled, its insane honestly
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