Neat freak boyfriend wakes girlfriend up in the middle of the night repeatedly to make her clean cat fur, she gets fed up and lies to him just so he won't come over: 'He'll notice a single strand of cat fur and act like it's the end of the world'

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    "[Am I wrong] for not wanting my boyfriend to come over anymore because he’s too much of a clean freak?"

    "I'm starting to get really fed up with how obsessive he is about cleanliness."
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    So... I lied to my boyfriend and told him I'd be out of town this weekend just so he wouldn't come over. I feel bad, but I honestly needed a break. I'm starting to get really fed up with how obsessive he is about cleanliness.
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    For context, I have two cats. I vacuum two to three times a day just to keep the fur under control, and I try my best to keep things clean. But you know how it is, sometimes fur still floats around or lands in spots you miss.
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    The issue is, he'll notice a single strand of cat fur and act like it's the end of the world. There were times he literally woke me up in the middle of the night to complain about one piece of fur floating in the air.
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    I'd say I'll vacuum in the morning, but he keeps poking me until I get up and do it right then and there. He also hates when my cats go into the room, so whenever he visits, I have to keep them out, which feels unfair because it's their home too.
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    He wears black all the time despite me suggesting not to, so obviously fur sticks to him more, and then he complains right in front of me like it's my fault.
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    Out of frustration, I canceled our weekend plans just so I could have some peace and quiet. He's been staying over every weekend lately, and honestly, I don't feel at ease in my own space anymore.
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    I don't know. I feel kind of shallow and petty, and maybe I'm being unreasonable? AITAH here for needing space and not wanting him around because of this?
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    jquest303 NTA. This is next level OCD. He's coming into your space, THEIR space. I'd cut your losses and find someone who is a little less compulsive.
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    RobZagnut2 You, "Cats have fur. You're going to get cat fur on you if you come over. Stop your incessant whining and deal with it. Or if you can't, don't come over any more. Your choice."
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    Prudent_Border5060 Nta But i think this is part of a bigger problem. He clearly has a problem with cats. And you have two. Seriously, think about if you have a future.
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    vtretiree23 NTA. I have a dog and cat and we joke about all the fur. You're not compatible with him. Hugs
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    Mcbriec Girlfriend, you need a new bf who likes animals. You are a very clean person to do all of that vacuuming. Bf sounds exhausting. You two are just not compatible.
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    Familiar_Progress_89 NTA. You sound like you have the same issue most people on here do in that you don't talk to your partner. Bring up how you feel and if see if he'll work with you. Communication is key and you may need to take the initial step of saying something.
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    StaceKE NAH, you're not the a hole for wanting a chill weekend without your boyfriend's fur- fueled meltdowns it's your space, and you deserve to feel comfy with your cats!
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    Ok-Beautiful-6100 Sounds like OCD. He is probably a candidate for some intensive therapy and treatment.
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