22-year-old living with his 17-year-old brother after both parents pass refuses to let his 21-year-old girlfriend move in after she demands he kick his brother out: 'He's just a kid...'

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Jul 8, 2025 9:00 AM EDT

When it comes to a loving and healthy family dynamic, you know you can always depend on each other. That is a fact, especially between siblings. There is a special bond when it comes to brothers and sisters that is inexplicable if you aren't a sibling. No body can talk to you and call you out the way your sibling does, it is diabolical! But somebody has to do it. However, if anybody else talked to you that way or talked about your sibling that way, you're throwing hands. It's weird, like, you'd jump in front of a moving train to save them, no hesitation. But god forbid they borrow your phone charger without asking! 

 

So when this girlfriend demanded her boyfriend kick out his orphaned, underaged brother so she could move in, she didn't realize she just sealed and sent off her relationship's demise. 

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  • You see, this 17-year-old and 22-year-old brothers recently lost both of their parents. The older brother is an adult, but the younger is still considered a minor. So he'd be sent to an orphanage if it weren't for his older brother coming to the rescue! His brother loves him and cares for him, so of course he took him in! Now, the 17-year-old not only lives with his brother, he also works two jobs to help his brother pay for all the extra costs of becoming a legal guardian comes with. 

     

    However, the older brother's 21-year-old girlfriend wants to move in, for FREE, and is demanding he kick out his “freeloading” younger brother. LOL Wow, lady. You're starting to sound like a Disney character villain… 

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  • "AITAH for refusing to kick my little brother (17m) out of my place at my girlfriend’s request so she (21f) would feel better about moving in with me (22m)?"

    I (22m) have been taking care of my little brother (17m) for just over two years since our dad dad (our mom d d a few years. before that). Both had very bad health. He lives with me and goes to the local hs by my apartment. He
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  • had to switch high schools. to the one close to where I stay bc my parents were in a different area and he works whenever he is not in school (he works TWO part time jobs during the school year and works full time throughout the summer) bc even though I
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  • took him in he has a lot of expenses (I just can't afford to cover it all) and wants to save up for the coming years. He shouldn't be in this boat at all but that's life. He is so young. Life has been very unfair to him and he is a
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  • really good kid. I have been dating my gf for just over a year. She wants to move in and not contribute to the household expenses bc I shouldn't charge her rent bc she is not a tenant and I am not a landlord but we are boyfriend and girlfriend
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  • and I should be happy my girlfriend wants to move in with me (and I guess not. contribute anything to the household expenses bc she sees it as me charging her rent). She also wants me to tell my brother to leave so we can have the space to ourselves and she can have more space.
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  • She has referred to him as a "freeloader" even though he is just a kid and I got myself to become his legal guardian. I told her no way. I think I should
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  • break up with her over just suggesting this but I don't. know if I should go that far and maybe should try and get her to see where I am coming from.
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  • Icky-Tree-Branch Let me see if I understand this: Your minor, orphaned brother lives with you and works his bot off to pay as much of his own way as he can.
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  • Your girlfriend wants you to kick him out and let her move in for free so you can support her... then she calls him the freeloader? Really? No, you're NTA. But I suspect she's a hobosequal hypocrite.
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  • The_Bad_Agent NTA Leaving your brother out of the equation, your GF is a deadbeat. Ditch her for that alone. With your brother IN the equation... your GF is an entitled monster.
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  • No_Alfalfa_9541 As a woman- ditch her! She literally thinks her living in your house is a blessing on you, and she has no need to contribute. While calling your brother a freeloader! Shes trash.
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  • dj-jazzzz I can't imagine a redder flag than this. She wants you to abandon your younger brother (family) so she (one year girlfriend) can move in rent free? That's not the type of ideology you'd want in a partner, honestly. I wouldn't keep that around me if I were you.
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  • Seems like what should be a priority is helping to stabilize your brother's future so he can eventually become independent. With the loss of both your parents (my condolences), you've become each other crutches for the rest of your lives. Keep him close, nurture him and grow as brothers.
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  • That's way more important than a possibly short-term girlfriend who obviously doesn't care much about the dynamics of you and your brothers relationship/circumstances.
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  • shammy_dammy NTA. She's a leech and she's a few other words I'd use but reddit doesn't like them. Get rid of her.
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  • voodoodollbabie NTA. You want the kind of woman who admires you for taking on this responsibility, and admires your younger brother for missing out on what should be happy carefree teen years to help support himself.
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  • She hasn't come to that realization on her own in the past year, so don't waste your breath trying to make her understand it. It's clear she does not now and she never will. I'm so sorry for what life has thrown at you young men. But clearly your parents raised you right!
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  • Yellow-Yosemite This is a massive red flag! For the record, your brother is not a freeloader and for two reasons: 1) he's a minor and 2) he contributes as much as he can (even as a minor so props to him). You're right, ideally he shouldn't have to have all of these jobs and adult responsibilities, yet he does. You should be proud of your
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  • brother. Your girlfriend however, her mentality on this is so very wrong on many levels. She should not be expecting a free ride anywhere in life. Unfortunately, as an adult, you have bills to pay. That's just how life is. She should WANT to pay her fair share so as not to burden you or your brother.
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  • Trying to persuade you to kick the minor out of the home that he helps pay for is the craziest thing I've heard all day. She should want to be friends with your brother and encourage you to keep good ties with him. Not try to
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  • to keep good ties with him. Not try to alienate you from (what sounds to be) your only living immediate family member. This girl does not have any good intentions for either of you. I'm not going to tell you what to do with your life, but beware.
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