Couple excitedly announces that they bought a home, distant cousin they haven't spoken to in years demands they let her stay in the guest room for free: ‘Some people only act like family when it’s convenient.’

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Elna McHilderson • Managing Editor
Jul 11, 2025 7:00 AM EDT

Have you ever heard of that saying , "bl00d is thicker than water?" Have you actually though? Most people use it to mean that family bonds are stronger than any other bonds. However, that is not the full saying. It's is actually: "The bl00d of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb." Which means (ignoring the religions part of it) that the relationships you choose are stronger than the ones you inherit. See what I mean? The meaning completely changes when you know the entire quote. 

 

So when a family member is treating you in a way that you do not deserve or are demanding something from you simply because "family is family," just remember the true meaning of that saying. For instance, this distant cousin who only popped back into the lives of this couple in the family because they bought a house with a spare room…

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  • The couple were very excited of their achievement in becoming homeowners and they posted about it on Facebook. They wanted to share their happiness with their friends and family. Thinking they would just get likes and congratulations, they were not prepared for the wife's distant cousin to slide into their DMs. 

     

    This freeloading cousin demanded they let her stay in their spare room for an indefinite amount of time and completely for free. The couple were not having it, because like, who would?! But this cousin really tried to through the family thing in their face. Luckily, these new homeowners new better. 

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  • "You have a guest room so you have to let me stay."

    So my friend and her husband recently bought their first house and they have a small guest room. She posted some pics on Facebook after moving in just a little update for friends and family.
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  • Her cousin, who she had not seen in over a year, slides into her DMs... Hey! So excited for you guys. I saw you have a guest room... any chance I could crash there for a few weeks?
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  • My friend asked what for she says she's thinking of moving to our city but hasn't found a job or place yet, so she figured they could help out.
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  • My friend said they weren't comfortable hosting someone long term, especially with no clear timeline.
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  • The cousin goes Must be nice to have a whole extra room and not be willing to help family. Quite inconsiderate. Then she added that she'd clean up after herself and wouldn't even expect my friend to cook or anything.
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  • Oh okay, how generous. My friend didn't respond. She later said something vague about how some people only act like family when it's convenient.
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  • Starlight319 Boy they made the right choice. I'm trying to get rid of someone that has been in my house since early this year. Since he's family....just NO do not ever do it.
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  • EagleLize Amen. I let my brother stay for "a few weeks". We weren't able to get him out until 20 months later. And that took an eviction. Some advice for everyone. Don't let anyone crash for a while.
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  • MuchDevelopment7084 This is the kind of 'guest' that you send to the store. Then pack up their cr p and put it on the porch. No discussion. No arguments. Just move them out. The rest of the family will get over it before long. Yes, it's harsh. But sometimes they leave you no choice. Good luck.
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  • No-Garlic-3407 My dad d d suddenly several years ago. Shortly after he d d, my cousin who no one has seen or heard from in decades reaches out to my mom. After she offers her condolences, she offers to move in with my mom to "help her" now that my dad is gone. My husband and I live two streets over from my parents, and I told her we had it covered.
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  • She insisted that she wanted to help her dear aunt (who she hadn't seen in ages). Come to find out, she lived in another state with her boyfriend and was on welfare. Hard No from us.
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  • Affectionate-Week594 my half brother reached out when I had a car for sale and wanted me to bring it to him, 800 miles away and for dirt cheap, havent heard from him since., gotta love fam right? /s
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  • MsMaggieMcGill My mom shamed me when I refused to lend $2k to my cousin whom I haven't heard from for over 20 years. He didn't say why he needed the money and asked not to tell the relatives who might tell his wife. I googled him and found out he was into poker, and there were two big tournaments about to happen, so I assumed
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  • that's what it was. My mother shamed me again for googling relatives. She gave him the money herself. Some time later she did get back to me on that to say he was indeed a gambler and that she's not going to see that money back. Family...
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  • LionCM "We'd love to host you... $500 a week, payable in advance. Sorry, we just bought a home and we're strapped." SoftyLushieVelvet OP Perfect response
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  • Outside-Star-4366 Reply: 'some people only act like family when there's something in it for them! And ignore this 'relative'. You know the saying 'bl Id is thicker than water'? It doesn't mean what many think. The full reference is that the blad of the sacraments is thicker than the water of birth. People who support you, share your interests, and are aligned spiritually are better for you than someone who is 'related' only by birth. Peace out!
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  • windyrainyrain When my best friend's last kid left the nest, she had a friend she hadn't spoken to in years message her and ask if she'd be into renting a room to her 'since she had the whole house to herself now'. She didn't respond and blocked her. She also has a cousin that travels a lot for work and the cousin told her she should let her move into one of the bedrooms because she'd hardly ever be
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  • there anyway. Except for the 6 months out of the year that she's not traveling for work. When my friend told her no, she got ped. Then, had the b lls to ask her if she could park a motorhome in her driveway and stay in it instead. When she said no again, the cousin called my friend's elderly parents and whined that she was being selfish for not sharing her house. These potential freeloaders aren't kids, the friend is in her 60s and the cousin is in her 50s!
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  • diabeticweirdo Squatters rights have entered the chat This person would never ever leave
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