25-year-old refuses to let his 23-year-old girlfriend's parents move into his house after they got evicted for the 2nd time in 7 years: 'They are both avid gamblers'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Jul 24, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

There are many family situations that go like this: one family member consistently misbehaves. They are irresponsible with the bit of money they have. They alienate people by taking advantage of their kindness, and yet they never stop taking advantage of others because one person is always willing to enable them. This could be an adult son who has lived at home for years without a job, living off his aging parents' meager savings. This could also be an aging parent who expects their adult children to clean up all the financial mistakes they're constantly making, while refusing to change. We're wired to believe that misbehaving is for kids, but adults misbehave just as much, if not more, than kids. As adults, we have to choose whether to put up with other people's misbehavior or to stop enabling them. Enablers often want what's best for their family, but they are almost always doing more harm than good. 

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    AITAH for getting mad at my gf for not telling her parents no?

    my gf (23) and i (25) just bought a house. brand new house. and within 2 months of living in it. she tells me that she told her parents they could live here practically rent free until they get their own place. mind you. they are not just changing houses, they are being evicted. this is their second eviction in the last like 7 years. all
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    due to their poor financial decisions. they are both avid gamblers and other poor life choices. they both have an income that amounts to well over what they need to live off of. yet they have always asked for money and never seem to have it.
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    i told her that the only way they are going to learn is to tell them no and she refuses to because they're her parents. i told her that she's enabling them to keep on with their bad habits and that i am willing to break up with her if she doesn't change her mindset on trying to help them this way. i
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    understand that they are her parents but i am not supporting them as if they are my children. is this enough to leave someone over? we have been together almost 3 years. the house is in my name and i can afford everything solely by myself. i'll try to answer any questions that may arise if need be
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    BookGirl_789 If you let them move in, they will never leave.
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    ArtWinter6987 OP that's my fear exactly
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    SeaworthinessDue8650 Don't let them move in or you'll be supporting them forever! You need to consult with a lawyer ASAP, break up with her, and evict her. Don't let them squat.
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    No_Rate_1768 No joke. Once you open that door, it's way harder to close it. Getting legal advice early is key because emotions can cloud the situation fast. Breaking up and cutting ties might be tough but it beats getting stuck supporting them for the long haul. Protect your space and your sanity.
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    LadyKorte Yeah this is the answer. If you're in certain US states squatters have more rights than renters, who have WAY more rights than landlords. Seriously don't let them in your home and DON'T let them get mail there.
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    Balmy_Cool_Awlstin If you don't cut ties with all of them, you will come home from work one day soon and they'll be there and stick like glue. This happened to a family member of mine. Guy's brother showed up after not seeing or talking to him for years. At first it seemed like a visit, then within a week it was clear they had no plan of leaving and the person who owned the house was buying their cigs and everything. When he asked if he planned to find
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    work, he looked at him like he was crazy, and his fat and toothless gf said "the women in my family don't work." He luckily found out where they guy's son lived and dumped him there. If it wasn't for that, it would have gotten ugly. Run, the are going to probably get credit cards in your name once they get to rifle through all of your belongings when you are gone.
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    OddSetting5077 my friend let her sister move in for the short term, to get her life together. She noticed that the sister wasn't looking for a job. sister... "I decided to be your house wife...".
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    owaikeia Let's just say I'm glad the house is in your name only. As others have said, evict her now. Stop this before it starts. If she can't stand up to her parents, you're just setting yourself up for failure
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    Ketchup-precum- The fact that she didn't ask you first tells you all you need to know. If they live with you rent free why would they leave? You could be stuck with them forever.
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    Muted Prize8678 You're not wrong for drawing the line love doesn't mean signing up to parent your partner's parents
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    quintynderqq43 Yeahh, too many people confuse love with obligation like yeah, they're her parents but that doesn't mean OP has to co-sign their mess. If they've already been evicted twice and still haven't changed, what's gonna make this time different? Letting them crash rent-free just teaches them someone will always save them. I get wanting to help family but at some point, tough love is the only love that actually helps.
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    Rinnme So it's your house? You didn't actually buy it together? Just break up with her now, unless you're willing to support her parents for years to come.
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    the_soggy_taco Going to qualify this statement by saying I "bought a house" with a girlfriend when I was younger. She financially contributed nothing and her name was not on the sale/loan. She moved in with me as soon as I moved in. If I ever said "My house" instead of "our house" it was grounds for an argument since I was considered to be downplaying her role. So I had to always say "we bought it together “.
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    GreenStretch Gambling is one of the worst addictions, they cannot be trusted in your home in any way.
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    ExperienceLevel9790 True. I know some people who sold other people's possessions (and usually behind the owners' backs), and use the money to fuel their gambling addiction.
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    Difficult Jury_7455 She's young and has a long life in front of her. Sounds like your looking after her parents for that long life. You don't want to be with a woman who can't say no. She'll be signing you both up to a lifetime of events that you never agreed to. Break up with her but she'll be homeless with her parents, but I think she needs that to actually wake up. You marry a person, not their family
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