Inconsiderate mother rents Airbnb under daughter's name, invites 20 guests over the limit, furious daughter claims she will not be held liable for damage or have strangers near her children: 'The agreement says no events or parties'

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Emma Saven
Jul 31, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

We understand everybody mourns differently. Some people prefer to be left alone, while others prefer to be surrounded by all those they love.

When you are honoring someone's life, it is normal to want to have all those who knew and adored that person present. However, sometimes grief can turn family members against one another when they should be standing hand-in-hand. This is an expected result of sadness or anger, but sometimes you have to think about those around you and can no longer only consider your emotions. 

This family is left in a bit of an uncomfortable, how best to describe it?…pickle. After a beloved Airbnb vacation at a beautiful, tranquil lakehouse, this mother-daughter duo decides that it will be the perfect spot to honor their late husband and father. However, with any Airbnb rental, there are rules and regulations that owners expect to be kept and fulfilled, understandably.

When the Airbnb is signed under the daughter's name, but when the mother decides to invite 20 people in addition to what the venue permits, including her distant sister's unfamiliar boyfriend, tension arises within the family. A time when they should be honoring their husband and father, turns into a time filled with resentment and frustration for the lack of consideration towards one another…

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  • Can this mother-daughter duo overcome their differences, or will their clashing priorities cause a permanent rift in their relationship?

    It's not difficult to wonder whether their relevant, heightened emotions are playing into this conflict, or if this is truly a case of a complete misunderstanding of each other's wants, needs, and compromises at this sensitive time in their lives…

     

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    AITAH for setting boundaries with my mom after she invited 30 people to our AirBnB?

    Last year my parents rented a cottage on the lake we grew up. My family and I (2 adults/3 kids) went to visit for the day and had such a great time we all decided
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    to rent a bigger cottage in my name...this is important) for all of us for a week the following year. Unfortunately in December my dad passed away. We was a
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    simple man...never wanted a service, just crated and spread his ashes at the lake. Talked it over with mom and we decided to do family only (with
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    grandkids there'd be 15 of us( for 1 day at the lake to remember dad. This included hair my sister who I barely talk to and has never met my kids staying for 2 nights. Not ideal, but it's family.
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    Well next week is the rental and mom starts talking about salads and appetizers and deli platters. For 15 people? Negative Ghost Rider....turns out she has invited
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    an additional 20 people for this get together. To a house I rented and signed for, when the agreement specifically says no events or parties. One of those
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    people is my sisters boyfriend, who my mom informed me is staying with us. I've never met. this man and I've got 3 kids (13f/11f/8m) sleeping in this house.
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    I lost it. Said no. Told her i would be happy to rent a hall and have it there but not at the house. She insisted it wouldn't be a problem and if someone made a fuss and
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    told the owners she would talk to them and it would be fine. Told her no...I would transfer the rental to her name and she could do what she wants and I'll take my family somewhere else.
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    So AITAH for not letting my mom throw a huge party at a rental house and not letting my estranged sister and her boyfriend stay with us?
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    Bibliophile_w_coffee NTA. Does your mom know cameras exist? No one needs to "tell the owners" they probably have security camera and motion detectors.
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    Accidental_Sage ABSOLUTELY NOT. You rented the house, your name is on the agreement, and you're the one who could get fined, kicked out, or banned from future rentals if it goes sideways. Your mom inviting 30 people like it's her property is completely out of line, especially when the listing explicitly says no events.
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    Suchafatfatcat NTA. Your mother sounds like she is used to gliding through life with no regard for anyone else.
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    PopJust7059 It sounds like you and your mom had very different ideas of his end of life celebration. IMO she trumps you. Cancel the rental and let her plan it from here. Be kind, be supportive, be forgiving. You both are hurting.
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    WatermelonRindPickle NTAH. violating the rental terms of the Airbnb could result in an immediate eviction. No matter what your mom told whoever
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    janabanana67 You are NTA. As you said, your mom can have the rental in her name and then she can deal with the consequences. There are so many rules against having parties at AirBnBs. I get your mother is grieving and wants everyone together, but she doesn't get to infringe on your stay. She can rent her own place and have her own event.
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    Dear Engineering2736 NTA, I would tell her that I cancelled and just go with my immediate family. Let everyone else know that the venue has been changed to your mom's place.
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    FinePossession 1085 NTA. Your mom is not thinking straight. AirBnB rules are to be respected. I believe the fine print on the violations of parties is steeper than one would think. Rentals have other people around them who often tell the AirBnB owners. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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    Random Reddit9791 NTA. This is a disaster waiting to happen. I actually never use my account for a rental unless I'm the only person staying. People behave differently when they aren't responsible or at risk of suffering the consequences.
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    MikelarlHaxton My cousin's best friend tried to do a wedding of 20 people at an AirbnB that stated only 8 people allowed, and they were on camera outside going in. The owner showed up and kicked everyone out and kept the money. This happened last weekend and the place was in her name. So I would definitely distance yourself from the mess.
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