Coworker reports employee to HR for not inviting her to her private wedding, forcing her to have to explain to HR why she's not invited: 'Some people really do think they’re the main character'

Human resources departments and everything else to do with corporate culture exist specifically to reduce and suppress your human imperfections. This has led to it, frankly, being necessary in most workplaces to separate your work life and persona completely from your personal one. If companies could, they surely would find some way to separate you completely from your personal self.

Gee, wouldn't that be an interesting concept for a TV show?

In a somewhat bewildering juxtaposition, employers also want you to sacrifice your personal time to help out in the workplace and to be personable with your colleagues in the workplace, cutting in and blurring the boundaries of what your personal life and true personality even is, bringing about a certain identity crisis in all but the most self-assured.

You can't blame those who do choose to cut their personal lives off entirely from their working lives, but it is understandably off-putting when you try to have a conversation with someone about their day and they're so guarded you can't even glean any insight into their life. 

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  • But, it's equally as off-putting when someone decides to turn their personal knowledge about your life into a workplace issue. These coworkers, who are desperate for any sort of validation and attention they will try to worm their way into your personal life before making an HR issue out of some innate detail. In this case, this coworker tried to angle her way into an invitation to this employee's wedding. The wedding was to be a small and private ceremony where the coworker would have stuck out like a sore thumb. But when the offer to extend an invitation was declined, the coworker got HR involved, leaving everyone involved a little bit confused about what was now a serious workplace concern, just not for the reasons the coworker seemed to think.

  • "Coworker told HR I was being exclusive… for not inviting her to my wedding"

    This was honestly one of the weirdest work things I've ever dealt with. There's a woman in my office I'm friendly with, but not close to. We've had small talk here and there, nothing deep. No lunches together. No real outside-of-work connection. She found out I was getting married and asked when the wedding was. Then she straight up asked if she was invited.
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  • I kinda laughed and said, "Oh no, it's really small. Just close friends and family." I didn't think anything of it. She got quiet and a little cold after that, but I figured okay, maybe awkward moment, whatever. Fast forward a few days later, I get a meeting invite from HR. Turns out she filed a complaint saying I was being "exclusive" and "creating a hostile environment by leaving people out."
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  • Because I didn't invite her. To my wedding. That I'm paying for. That isn't. even work-related. So I had to sit in this HR meeting and explain that I'm not required to invite coworkers I barely know to my literal wedding. That it's a personal event. That it has nothing to do with work or who's in the office. HR honestly looked just as confused as I was. They basically said, "Yep, okay, thanks," and closed the case.
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  • But now she acts super passive- aggressive toward me. Like side-eyes, little digs when I walk by. Still bringing it. up in these weird sarcastic comments like, "Some people are so inclusive. these days." I can't believe she actually thought HR could... what, make me invite her? Some people really do think they're the main character.
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  • Substantial-Sir-9947 I would report her to HR for creating an uncomfortable environment now
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  • Klutzy-Contest-1640 That is one of the strangest things I've read. Your coworker is odd. Who thinks like that? What's next? Does she expect you to have her along on the honeymoon?
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  • RestlessDreamer79 This is the type of guest that comes without a gift, eats alot of food, makes others uncomfortable, takes home a sh load of leftovers and a centerpiece.
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  • Azure_Wolf File a counter claim to HR about her creating a hostile work environment and the passive aggressive comments. That is a workplace issue unlike your wedding
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  • Stormandsunshine Out of curiosity and not because it would make any difference whatsoever: is any of your other coworkers invited?
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  • TheRealJim57 While she was delusional in filing her nonsensical complaint, her comments and attitude toward you are legitimate grounds for you to file a complaint against her--and you definitely need to do so before things get worse.
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