'It felt incredibly insensitive and tacky': Couple in their late 30s request birthday money from their 30-year-old couple friends every year

Birthdays are important stuff, no matter how old you are. I think it's kind of sad when adults stop caring about their birthdays. I know that the most "birthday energy" should go toward children since they enjoy it the most, but we shouldn't gloss over adult birthdays. You've earned it. You've had more trips around the sun. You're older and wiser and should be congratulated for that. Sure, you might not want to rent a bouncy house and hire a birthday clown, but you do want to mark the fact that time has passed, and is that so wrong?

It turns out that as an adult, you have to be careful of the way you celebrate your birthday, lest you alienate your friends. Most of this is common sense, though. Don't make anyone spend an exorbitant amount of money on your birthday. It's not their birthday. You shouldn't expect people to empty out their wallets every year just because you turned another year older. Even if you're willing to do that for them, it doesn't always go both ways, nor should it have to.

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But this one couple didn't quite understand that and acted a little young for their age around their birthday. What they thought was a normal gift exchange idea turned out to be a quick way to alienate their friends. Read on to see who you think was in the wrong and who you think was in the right.
AITA for not chipping in for my friends' birthday gift money, even though they asked?

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Commenters agreed that this was a weird ask.

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